KD

hetshup

When did you send out invites? How did you pick Oct 1 as your RSVP date, and when do you need to let catering know how many people?


I feel like I'm super late on  invites.

KD+BC

I sent mine out August 21 but hadn't planned on sending them out until the 27th (8 weeks ahead of time). I picked October 1 because it's 3 weeks before the wedding and I figured it would give me time to contact those who forgot to send them without stressing myself out. My headcount is due to the caterer October 17.

If you send yours out by September 11, you still have 6 weeks and I was told to send them 6-8 weeks before the wedding. I don't know when you're head count is but I'd give yourself at least a week to call those forgetful guests!

I think you still have time!

hetshup

They went out monday, and my RSVP is 9/20, we need to get a headcount to the caterer by 9/23. I'm figuring a very quick turn around on RSVPs. Also, I haven't seen my invites really at all.

KD+BC

Oh Hets, this move has been hard huh? I hope your guests are good at returning their RSVPs. I got a lot in the first few days then 1 or 2 a day for the past 4 days. I also have only had 2 nos, both people we knew wouldn't come because one goes to college in Scotland and the other is serving in Afghanistan.

Where are your response cards being delivered?

hetshup

They are going to my mother's house. I've seen the invites with RSVP to my old address, but not the ones that went out. I am somewhat nervous about the blanks being at my IL's house. His mom wants to know how many no's (nos? Nose? eh I don't know) we get so we can invite more. And I'm like..... ummm, the budget is best suited if we get a 25% decline rate.

KD+BC

Oh, yeah that's scary. She shouldn't send out any more. I'd just avoid the subject as much as possible. Our venue was telling us about a wedding they had about a month ago. They sent out invitations for 250 people and had a final headcount of 310 because every time they got a a decline, both sets of parents sent out another invitation!

hetshup

Oh, don't tell me that. I'm going to have her send them to me. Now I'm all freaked out.

catemeg

Just let her know how tacky B Lists are, that she'd be insulting the very friends she wants to include.  Hopefully that would convince her this isn't an opportunity to add to the guest list but rather to enjoy any savings from a few less guests (though you'll miss the ones who can't attend).

KD+BC

Oh I'm not trying to scare you! You're family doesn't have invitations so they won't sent them! I would ask her to get rid of them though.