They told me sharing is caring!

tuarceatha

So recently BF and I have bought a couple of things together: a laptop and a tablet (Asus with Andriod) specifically.

And I've had no problem handing over my money when he does all the research to select these items. He is all into it and I'm happy with his selections thus far.

Anyway my reason for sharing this detail of my life is that I'm realizing I'm not used to sharing. I slipped at a party we were hosting and said "You can use my laptop." to some of our friends that were having issues viewing a video on his old laptop (recently replaced by the tablet). And he kinda snapped at me and said "OUR laptop." and I was like "Uh yea that's what I meant." Surprised by his snap. Was I hogging it and this comment was the last straw for him? We chatted about this after and I got some clarity.

But now I'm going on a trip without him, and I just asked if he minds if I bring the laptop with me, to do work stuff while away and well I kinda thought it was a nice gesture to ask, but really I don't like that I have to ask! I like having stuff that is just mine.

This has come out in other things, like the fact that I moved into his apartment and now it is "ours." Even thought 89% of it was purchased, picked out and used by him long before I got there.

Any opinions on what should and shouldn't be shared between a couple? Here are some things to weigh in on:
1. Computers
2. Toothbrush
3. Remote
4. Candy
5. Netflix accounts
6. Car
7. Cereal

GreenPepperBurger

I can't share my toothbrush. I think it's gross. It's weird. I also couldn't share my computer because I do a lot of writing, and BF does a lot of post-production stuff. We NEED our own computers. I don't mind sharing the other things you mentioned, though. I think it's hard to combine things when the parties involved have previously have had their own things. Such is a relationship...

swhite2012

I am not a big sharer, especially with food. If I order something at a restaurant, it's because I want to eat it...lol. BF always wants to take some of my food. I tell him he can have some if I have any leftover, and then he says "Well that's not sharing".

Non-food stuff I am usually fine about sharing. The toothbrush thing though, yuck.

Swazzle

Hmm for us it kinda depends I guess.  Most of the big stuff you named, I bought for us (car, laptop).  I got them a few years ago because we needed them & at the time I made more $$ than BF.  I don't have a hard time with sharing them or referring to them as "ours" although I will say I got fed up with BF hogging the laptop all the time so I went out & bought myself an iPad lol.  I don't like to drive but I hate when he goes out with his friends & takes the car because I feel trapped at stranded at home. I couldn't share my toothbrush, that would freak me out a little bit. The remote I guess we share, although I usually have more rule over it (thank goodness). 

ETA: I pay the rent for the apt but still refer to it as "ours". The only time I slipped on this was in our very first apartment which I actually picked out & moved into on my own & BF moved in about a month later (because he had slept there every night since the day I moved in anyways). I sometimes referred to that as "my apartment" I guess because I picked it by myself.  Our 2nd apartment & the one we're in now we chose together & even though I pay the rent I always refer to them as "ours".  (And just bc I don't want you to think my bf is a free loader or anything like that, I pay the rent & he handles our utitlies, car-related expenses, & groceries for the most part so it completely evens out lol)

[Deleted User]

I don't mind sharing anything on your list with BF. I will say I would never share a toothbrush regularly...but I did forget mine camping once and BF let me use his for the weekend. Since we both have good hygiene, I don't really see the problem.

I also agree with Liv about home ownership between a couple. BF currently rents and I own my own condo - we plan to purchase something together when we get married and start fresh with "our" place.

kellylove22

1. Computers-I could NOT share a laptop with BF only because we're on our respective laptops ALL the time. We technically share a desktop (though we have 2 laptops and 2 additional desktops), since it's the one in our bedroom/the one that we use the most.

2. Toothbrush-No. Can't. Won't. Too icky for me. Maybe in an emergency (traveling and he forgot his toothbrush), but I feel really squicky about it.

3. Remote-I mostly let him control it, though I feel free to shout STOP!!!! at any reality tv show that I must see. He usually doesn't watch those with me unless he's in a very giving mood.

4. Candy-At the movies? Sure, but it depends on the day. Some days I'm not good at all about sharing food. I can get kinda possessive, and sometimes I don't like the candy mixtures he likes to make up (he puts buncha crunch in popcorn....).

5. Netflix accounts-We only have one for the household, and I can't live without it. We mostly watch streaming video, but for the DVDs I mostly control it, but request movies with him in mind.

6. Car-We only have one car, but it's his, technically. I can use it when I need to, especially in the summer because he also has a motorcycle for transportation, but I'm not big on driving anyway.

7. Cereal-The same box or bowl? He wouldn't share a bowl of cereal with me. He <3s it too much to share, but we usually share boxes of cereal though I like some kinds he doesn't and vice versa.

tuarceatha

Yea moving into his apartment was situational. I was ready to move out of my parent's house and he had already signed a lease for several more months. Plus I sold/gave away my furniture to move back home easily.

I do not share my toothbrush with him. Like worst case scenrio, he could use it, such as on a camping trip

The remote is definetly more his. Oh well.

kellylove22

Btw-I'm really glad that I'm  not the only possessive person with food. Bf always wants to split our dinners (as in I get 1/2 of his he gets 1/2 of mine), but I really don't like doing that. I ordered what I wanted to eat, I don't want to give you 1/2 for something I didn't want to pick on the menu! He acts like I'm the only food-selfish person in the world when I contantly say no to these suggestions. What kind of weird house did this guy grow up in???

tuarceatha

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[QUOTE]Btw-I'm really glad that I'm  not the only possessive person with food. Bf always wants to split our dinners (as in I get 1/2 of his he gets 1/2 of mine), but I really don't like doing that. I ordered what I wanted to eat, I don't want to give you 1/2 for something I didn't want to pick on the menu! He acts like I'm the only food-selfish person in the world when I contantly say no to these suggestions. <strong>What kind of weird house did this guy grow up in???</strong>
Posted by kellylove22[/QUOTE]
*like* ha

KatyRoseM

I moved into his place originally.  We moved out half of his furniture and moved mine in, it mostly became ours, though there are some things I still prefer my version of (mostly cooking things).  I could not share my computer or toothbrush.  Also if he corrected me about calling something mine in front of people I would be pissed.

cu97tiger

1. Computers
BFs laptop is a piece of crap, so when he needs it, he uses mine. I don't mind him using it, and he only asks if I've recently been on it and he thinks I might need it again soon. Usually, he just uses his tablet. It's worked well for us, though I would like to get a second laptop since mine could die at any moment.

2. Toothbrush
We'll share if necessary. BF is more weirded out by it than I am, but had a string of trips where he forgot his toothbrush four times in a row, so he just used mine.

3. Remote

This has never been an issue with us. Whoever is more interested in watching tv has the remote, but we usually discuss what we feel like watching together.

4. Candy
BF isn't a candy eater, so we don't keep it in the house, but if it's there, it's probably mine.

5. Netflix accounts
We're in the dark ages and don't have one of these

6. Car
Recently I traded in my 10-year old car for a new one. BF and I both put down substantial amounts (him slightly more than me), and BF got the loan for it. I make the payments. I refer to it as 'my car' and he refers to his SUV as 'his car' but really, we swap whenever we feel like it.

7. Cereal

I'll just answer this one as 'food.' We share whatever is in the pantry, with the only real 'rule' being that if you finish something, you let the other person know. 

About what Liv was saying about housing... I moved in with BF. It's his house, that he bought with his ex-wife. It has made it difficult to put my 'stamp' on the place, though we have picked out two rooms of furniture together, as well as several wall-hangings. It isn't ideal, but it has worked for us so far. We may be moving in a few months, and it will be interesting to see how willing he is to compromise on wall colors and decor when it's 'ours' and not 'his +1'

tuarceatha

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[QUOTE]I moved into his place originally.  We moved out half of his furniture and moved mine in, it mostly became ours, though there are some things I still prefer my version of (mostly cooking things).  I could not share my computer or toothbrush.  Also if he corrected me about calling something mine in front of people I would be pissed.
Posted by KatyRoseM[/QUOTE]

I blushed and was super embarrassed. He doesn't ever pick at me if front of people. It was obviously the straw that broke the camels back.

heyimbren

I'll preface this by saying that we don't live together but these are my inital thoughts.

1. Computers
We'd have no problem sharing a computer because he rarely goes on. I'll give an example: I posted on here back in mid-May ish about how we broke up (and then got back together within a few days). We both deleted the relationship status on facebook, but he has yet to confirm that we're in a relationship again just because he hasn't been on (in the month and a half). So like I said, it probably wouldn't be a problem for us to share.

2. Toothbrush
No. I couldn't do the toothbrush sharing.

3. Remote
Neither of us watch TV. Unless he's watching sports with friends. Usually it's just movies, so that wouldn't be a problem. I don't mind watching sports with him and if I don't feel like it I just grab a book.

4. Candy
We share candy all the time. He always has containers of gummy bears in his truck, which is so bad for my sweet tooth...

5. Netflix accounts
We don't use Netflix. But would this be kind of like iTunes? We could share that, I already share Kindle and iTunes accounts with my family. He doesn't really use either, so he could get used to whatever the scenario was.

6. Car
This one would be tricky. Ideally, I would really like for us to both be able to have our own cars which we are the primary drivers for. Sharing would be really difficult, because I'm not really used to that. And he's always had his own truck.

7. Cereal
If we liked the same kind, I'd have no problem sharing. We share food already, even at dinner we'll take bites of the other person's plate.

KatyRoseM

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: They told me sharing is caring! : I blushed and was super embarrassed. He doesn't ever pick at me if front of people. It was obviously the straw that broke the camels back.
Posted by jenjenniferf[/QUOTE]

I may be confused, but what else had you done?  I didn't see any behavior that was unreasonable on your part.

tuarceatha

Oh I think me saying "my" in front of people was on top of the way I was using the laptop and referring to the laptop before I said it in front of our friends.
But yea, he was wrong to snap at me in front of them. I totally agree, and I told him that.

KatyRoseM

Well I still refer to things as mine.  There is a difference between its mine and you can't use it, and its mine as just a statement.  DH can use my car if he wants to, but we call it mine because it was mine first and it differentiates it from his.  I know I'm getting off topic, sorry.

marleylikeair

1. Computers - No way, not on a permanent basis. For everyday browsing once in awhile, sure. But I need to have my own laptop in general.
2. Toothbrush - Ew, no. Okay, maybe in a pinch.
3. Remote - Like, the TV remote? Hm. We use Netflix mostly, and have to do it manually from his laptop...so this one's not an issue right now.
4. Candy - yep, unless you're talking about the same piece of candy. :-P
5. Netflix accounts - Yeah, I'm fine with this one. We live together; why have separate accounts?
6. Car - When necessary, but we like having our own cars.
7. Cereal - Yes, definitely. We share pretty much all groceries. But it drives me nuts sometimes, because he's a big 6'2" dude who eats like 3 times what I do, so a box of cereal goes quickly. I'll have one bowl, and the next time I go to pour a bowl, there'll be like 1/2 a bowl's worth of crumbly cereal. Boo. It just bums me out sometimes. Like, "Hmm, I'm hungry. Oh, I know, we have some Honey Bunches of Oats in the pantry, I'll eat that!" (pull out box) "Oh...wait..."

tuarceatha

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[QUOTE]Well I still refer to things as mine.  There is a difference between its mine and you can't use it, and its mine as just a statement.  DH can use my car if he wants to, but we call it mine because it was mine first and it differentiates it from his.  I know I'm getting off topic, sorry.
Posted by KatyRoseM[/QUOTE]

No that's good to hear. BF used to let his old roommate use his desktop computer whenever the roomie needed it, and then his roommate got a live in gf who started using his desktop too! I freaked when I saw she was logged on and pointed it out to him and he didn't care. His roommate may have mentioned her using it once to my BF, but that shouldn't open the door to her hopping on whenever she feels like it! But alas, it was his to share if he felt like it....

alanna91

1. Computers-  It would be too difficult while we're both in school, especially with me taking some online classes.
2. Toothbrush- There is absolutely no way BF would use any toothbrush but his own.
3. Remote- When we do watch TV it's shows we both enjoy like Modern Family, the news, historical documentaries (ETA: wow, that sounds so lame...), Adult Swim, or Four Weddings. He actually likes Four Weddings too, seriously.
4. Candy- Sure! It's healthier to share. It's not really applicable to us though since I'm the main candy eater in the relationship.
5. Netflix accounts- We share a Netflix account already.
6. Car- Before he got his internship in Boston we were able to share cars. It was easier. But now we both have to use our own. I wish I could call his truck mine though; It's a standard and has an autobot painted on it.
7. Cereal-We love sharing food in general. Especially when we go out to eat because it's so much cheaper!

Maybe you could buy yourself a cheaper netbook for your trips. They go for as cheap as $250 in some stores and would be easier to take with you when you travel. Does your tablet not have the same capabilities as the laptop? I'm in the dark with that kind of thing.

MLekathLEEN

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[QUOTE]Well I still refer to things as mine.  There is a difference between its mine and you can't use it, and its mine as just a statement.  <strong>DH </strong>can use my car if he wants to, but we call it mine because it was mine first and it differentiates it from his.  I know I'm getting off topic, sorry.
Posted by KatyRoseM[/QUOTE]

I saw this and your siggy but there's no AW on your wedding. What gives? ;)

Anywho- Back to the situation at hand

1. Computers: Yes/No. We both have our own laptops but we did buy a desktop that we share...or shared until it mysteriously broke after being only used by his sister. We need at least two though. I don't think we could share just one without broken fingers/screens :)

2. Toothbrush: nuh. uh. GROSS. I'll admit, I have used his when mine has gone MIA  but I refuse to just have one between the two of us.

3. Remote: We're both pretty good about watching eachothers shows. There are a few shows that he or I cannot stand so we just watch that show on our own time.

4. Candy: Sure.

5. Netflix accounts: I use his Netflix account more than he does. I also use his cable to watch Showtime on demand at my house. I don't mind sharing it, LOL.

6. Car: We thought about purchasing a car to cut down on gas. . If we were both working, whoever travels the furthest would get the car and the other would drive something else. We both have gas guzzling trucks. We have a friend who shares one car with his wife and I don't know how they do it when they're both working. Luckily he's laid off right now so she takes the car and he hangs out with FI.

7. Cereal: I don't even know what kind of cereal FI likes...is that awful? I'd probably share my Froasted Mini Wheats if he liked them too.

tuarceatha

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[QUOTE]1. Computers - No way, not on a permanent basis. For everyday browsing once in awhile, sure. But I need to have my own laptop in general. 2. Toothbrush - Ew, no. Okay, maybe in a pinch. 3. Remote - Like, the TV remote? Hm. We use Netflix mostly, and have to do it manually from his laptop...so this one's not an issue right now. :) 4. Candy - yep, unless you're talking about the same piece of candy. :-P 5.<strong> Netflix accounts - Yeah, I'm fine with this one. We live together; why have separate accounts?</strong> 6. Car - When necessary, but we like having our own cars. 7. Cereal - Yes, definitely. We share pretty much all groceries. But it drives me nuts sometimes, because he's a big 6'2" dude who eats like 3 times what I do, so a box of cereal goes quickly. I'll have one bowl, and the next time I go to pour a bowl, there'll be like 1/2 a bowl's worth of crumbly cereal. Boo. It just bums me out sometimes. Like, "Hmm, I'm hungry. Oh, I know, we have some Honey Bunches of Oats in the pantry, I'll eat that!" (pull out box) "Oh...wait..."
Posted by marleylikeair[/QUOTE]

I get that it is one household, but like I opened the account. It's mine, and he has been invited to use it, has the password saved on his computer. Cool. But it is still mine.

My sister actually has access to it too. So I do share. But it is mine to share with them, just sayin'. If he suddenly was like can one of the 2 dvds-at-a-time be a BF pick? I'd be like sure, you can do that with MY account. :) I like that its defined like that.

jaycee7389

1. Computers
We do

ETA: we bought 2 laptops together..I use the one I'm on the most and he uses the other one, but they are both ours. I just have stuff saved on here that I need access to and vise versa.

2. Toothbrush
If it's a one time emergency thing, maybe. But other than that I think it's gross.

3. Remote
? I don't understand. I would assume so.

4. Candy
I hate sharing my candy because FI eats everything in one sitting..but I do anyhow.

5. Netflix accounts
Why not?

6. Car
We each own a car, but I use his and he uses mine pretty often.

7. Cereal
I really hope you don't have separate cereal boxes for both of you

tuarceatha

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[QUOTE]1. Computers-   It would be too difficult while we're both in school, especially with me taking some online classes. 2. Toothbrush- There is absolutely no way BF would use any toothbrush but his own. 3. Remote- When we do watch TV it's shows we both enjoy like Modern Family, the news, historical documentaries (ETA: wow, that sounds so lame...), Adult Swim, or Four Weddings. He actually likes Four Weddings too, seriously. 4. Candy - Sure! It's healthier to share. It's not really applicable to us though since I'm the main candy eater in the relationship. 5. Netflix accounts - We share a Netflix account already. 6. Car - Before he got his internship in Boston we were able to share cars. It was easier. But now we both have to use our own. I wish I could call his truck mine though; It's a standard and has an autobot painted on it. 7. Cereal- We love sharing food in general. Especially when we go out to eat because it's so much cheaper! Maybe you could buy yourself a cheaper netbook for your trips. They go for as cheap as $250 in some stores and would be easier to take with you when you travel. Does your tablet not have the same capabilities as the laptop? I'm in the dark with that kind of thing.
Posted by alanna91[/QUOTE]

Yea see he suggested replacing our two sucky old laptops with a new laptop and a tablet and I was like sure cool. And here we are with the two but I have less of an interest in the tablet. Its all apps and touch screeny and I like my mouse and my saved pages/passwords. And when I voice that preference, he doesn't take to it. But I see that many of you agree with me. So yay.

KatyRoseM

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: They told me sharing is caring! : I saw this and your siggy but there's no AW on your wedding. What gives?Posted by MLekathLEEN[/QUOTE]

Last time I did an AW people seemed to think I wasn't on here enough to AW.  If you want photos of the wedding I'm happy to share!

Swazzle

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: They told me sharing is caring! : Yea see he suggested replacing our two sucky old laptops with a new laptop and a tablet and I was like sure cool. And here we are with the two but I have less of an interest in the tablet. Its all apps and touch screeny and I like my mouse and my saved pages/passwords. And when I voice that preference, he doesn't take to it. But I see that many of you agree with me. So yay.
Posted by jenjenniferf[/QUOTE]

<div>I saved up & bought an iPad for myself after bf decided to hog the macbook for so long. And we both know that THIS IS MINE!! BF doesn't use it ever ever ever & I like it that way. I'd be annoyed if he started using it like it was "ours" lol</div>

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: They told me sharing is caring! : Last time I did an AW people seemed to think I wasn't on here enough to AW.  If you want photos of the wedding I'm happy to share!
Posted by KatyRoseM[/QUOTE]

Oh, we want photos! Well, at least Em and I do :)

Hazel_B

We are pretty all over the place about sharing.

1. Computers - Mine is a mess right now, but I use FI's sparingly. I think he reluctantly shares or it is his way of scheming to get me to fix mine already.

2. Toothbrush - Gross, but I guess in a pinch. Although we've never done this.

3. Remote - Not a problem.

4. Candy - If we liked the same kinds probably not a problem.

5. Netflix accounts - I view it as his since he pays for it and it is mailed to him, I have some say in the queue but a chick flick has never entered the house from netflix.

6. Car - based on where we live we each have a car, which both of us would use if I'd just learn to drive standard already.

7. Cereal - it depends, sometimes we are possessive about food. However, depending on the restuarant we will order as a team so we can share.

niknik15

1. Computers
When we started living together we each had our own seperate laptop. Both of them were pretty crappy, so we went together and bought one new one that we share all the time. I technically paid for the entire thing, but we still consider it ours.
2. Toothbrush
Only when needed

3. Remote
usually he claims the remote. Although I do throw a fit if I am watching something and he comes home and immediately changes it.

4. Candy
I'm pretty stingy with my candy. I may give him a bite but then I tell him to get his own.

5. Netflix accounts
We don't have an account

6. Car
I like having my own seperate car. He has tried to convince me several times to carpool, but I just don't see how it would really be helpful.

When we go out to eat I usually try to convince my FI to split a meal with me. Sometimes he gets a little grumpy about it, but after the meal he always says how happy he is that we shared.

Sometimes I will ask him if he wants part of whatever I am fixing myself and if he says no, but then wants a couple bites then I get very possesive of my food.

sparkles88

1. Computers- We each have our own. I have a Mac and BF is confused by it, so he prefers to use his own. We also use our computers a lot so sharing this would be hard.

2. Toothbrush- We've never shared toothbrushes. There's never been an opportunity. We've both always remembered our own toothbrushes when we've gone on trips. I suppose once or twice wouldn't be terrible, but I wouldn't make a habit of sharing that.

3. Remote- We don't own a TV, and we probably won't for a long time. We tend to watch everything on our computers, which is another good reason as to why we should have our own computers.

4. Candy- I like candy more than BF, so we don't share it based on that. We also buy a lot of our own food separately, because we have different tastes in food.

5. Netflix accounts-I have a netflix account that BF uses occasionally. Then my recommendations are pretty silly: a  mix of wrestling documentaries and feel good movies like Legally Blone.

6. Car- We share a car, but it is my car. I paid for all of it, and I pay the registration and insurance. BF splits the maintenance with me and pays for about 75% of the gas. At this point, BF can't afford a car due to insurance. The insurance rates in Vegas are pretty high, especially for young males. He had a car, but he got rid of it because it was falling apart and the insurance was more than the car was worth.

7. Cereal- We don't really eat cereal, unless you count plain oatmeal. We share that.

marleylikeair

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_told-sharing-caring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1ce48452-16c7-4b8f-a6f9-bc9e28c28d82Post:bf3361e0-86df-4884-9e63-45000402362b">Re: They told me sharing is caring!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: They told me sharing is caring! : I get that it is one household, but like I opened the account. It's mine, and he has been invited to use it, has the password saved on his computer. Cool. But it is still mine. My sister actually has access to it too. So I do share. But it is mine to share with them, just sayin'. If he suddenly was like can one of the 2 dvds-at-a-time be a BF pick? I'd be like sure, you can do that with MY account. :) I like that its defined like that.
Posted by jenjenniferf[/QUOTE]

Oh yeah, for sure, I understand this. He opened the one we use long before I was around, so I would consider it his account, but that never really comes into play for us because we treat it like a shared account.

MLekathLEEN

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_told-sharing-caring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:1ce48452-16c7-4b8f-a6f9-bc9e28c28d82Post:5debef6c-0320-4717-aa5f-ebe14af63d34">Re: They told me sharing is caring!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: They told me sharing is caring! : Oh, we want photos! Well, at least Em and I do :)
Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]

We (and Liv) are the only ones who matter.. ;)

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