Halp!

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It just dawned on me that I should probably be giving our minister some $$.  What do you all think is the right amount?  She is a friend of mine and I don't think she "expects" anything, but I still feel like we need to give her something.  I am going to pick up a card today and was thinking $40 - is that not enough?  We also ordered her a corsage to match the flowers. 

Elle1036

How long is your ceremony?

I think $40 is probably fine.

AudgiePodge

I agree. $40 sounds like a good ammount.

MissOwl

my original thought before reading your suggested amount was $40-60, but with the corsage and a heartfelt thank you note, $40 seems just right.

PaigeMcC

Iunno....$40 with a corsage and a thanks sounds good.

So I don't think we'll be giving my minister any moneys b/c it's my grandpa and that would be weird....but I really never thought of it til now.  Thanks Jeter. Added to my list.

katanne9

Hmmm, I think other people's suggestions are too low.

We gave our officiant $200 cash.

(This does, however, take into the account that he met with us 2 or 3 times for counseling).

I would do at least $75.

katanne9

Okay, sorry! I didn't see that YOU were the one that suggested $40. Maybe it's just lower down South.


I would ask Jeana what she did.

citygirllovescountryboy

I think $40 would be nice, maybe even instead of $40 in cash since she is your friend a $40-$50 gift card to her favorite restaurant?? That way it doesn't seem like you are paying her. When I do my friend's hair I don't expect anything, but when they give me little things like that it is always nice.

jemmini6

I would do a $50.  To me, the actual $50 bill just looks like more than 2 $20's for some reason, even though it's only a $10 difference.  Since it's your friend, I think that and a corsage is plenty. 

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Thanks girls!  The ceremony will only be about 25 minutes long. 

kat - You're probably right that I should do a little more than $40 - I have no clue how they do it here in the south either LOL

paige - Hah -  Yes, that might be a bit weird giving your grandpa the money

citygirl - That is actually a great idea - I may have to look into that one... Thanks!

desertsun

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_halp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1cf82090-d672-4c06-a88d-8eda9a809c32Post:81cc6054-8901-4716-9a00-4d31097b0c22">Re: Halp!</a>:
[QUOTE]I would do a $50.  To me, the actual $50 bill just looks like more than 2 $20's for some reason, even though it's only a $10 difference.  Since it's your friend, I think that and a corsage is plenty. 
Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]


I agree. $50 is a nice round number. I'd put it in a card.

citygirllovescountryboy

Jeter, Your welcome!

How are you feeling with only 2 days left?

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Desert - I'm thinking that probably sounds good.  And yes, I did get her a card today

citygirl - Um, to sum it up in one word, I would have to go with NUTS!  I am feeling completely nuts right about now.  I have so many little things left to do that I hadn't thought about and I'm starting to get a little freaked out and wondering how on earth I'm going to have everything ready to go on D-DAY.  Why Oh Why am I such a procrastinator?!

loves2shop4shoes

If this is just for a tip, why don't you give a giftcard instead of cash?

Then again, I think handing people money as a thank you is sort of vulgar.