David Tutera

paintgirl

Can we get another "get the f over yourself" for David Tutera? Or is the new kinder, gentler NEY not quite that harsh?

bsidebella

................I like David Tutera =(

MLekathLEEN

I've missed you Paint.

I see nothing wrong with a man completely redoing your wedding because it isn't up to his standards.
/sarcasm.

GreenPepperBurger

I admit I have been watching "My Fair Wedding" episodes all weekend because I can't go anywhere due to the Snowpocalypse.

I think some of his things are beautiful, but he talks about centerpieces and floral design like he discovered the cure for freakin' cancer.

paintgirl

What I love is the girl giving her little "thank you" speech at the end and he gives them the fake air kiss. It is so disgustingly staged.

Dude. Really?

Ekath - I kind of remember why I disappeared. My snark level goes through the roof when I get on here.

bsidebella

Personally, I have no freaking clue how wedding planning works or what aspect is more important than another and how things coordinate, etc etc. I'm pretty sure, if left to my own devices, I would probably forget a cake or something.

If someone swooped down like a Big Gay Wedding Planning Angel and helped me put things together, I would be ecstatic.

GreenPepperBurger

My friend says I should deliberately plan a crap-tastic wedding just so I could have David come and fix it for me. I'm pretty sure David Tutera would shoot down all of my ideas anyway without me having it intentionally be bad.

Goldlie11

I have mixed feelings.  Most of the time, I think that the finished product is amazing.  There have been tines when the bride is very unhappy with what she is doing and is very happy to have things changed.  Most of the time when the bride has a dress that she really loves, he has her keep it.

There are times, though when I find some of his comments rude.  I'm also not a big fan of most of his centerpieces.  I've seen some where he completely obstructs someone's view.  

Simply Fated

I like that he helps the bride... especially if she has an idea, but isn't sure how to pull it off. And his finished products always look great.

What I don't like is how he makes it all look so simple, but in reality he is giving her so much free stuff that the average bride who watches that show couldn't possibly afford any of it. He makes the unrealistic finished product seem so easy.
It's like when I was in ninth grade and our English teacher gave us a sample report and told us we now had to write one. The report was so well written it was intimidating to know we had to follow that up with our own. I have no problems writing reports, but that finished product he gave us to use as a guide made the whole task seem so daunting.

loopy82

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_david-tutera?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:1e4fdc93-1e64-4a72-9c2d-26aa50af370ePost:1308e52c-2ca3-4636-8af0-8c2593ed5975">David Tutera</a>:
[QUOTE]Can we get another "get the f over yourself" for David Tutera? Or is the new kinder, gentler NEY not quite that harsh?
Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]

It has gotten a little too nice around here sometimes. For example when the person who was too lazy to get divorced was planning her next wedding.

At one point I think it was kind of at the point where it seemed like people were being mean just to be mean, but lately if feels kind of like MotoLyn's new avatar pic. We need to find a balance.

hetshup

I dislike his "themes". I mean it all has to be themed, and sometimes they have perfectly good ideas, and he shoots them down. I saw the greek warrior one the other day and I liked her veggie centerpieces. 

One thing with DT, you know that it will NOT be subtle or understated. And all his flowers look exactly the same. Meh. 

AudgiePodge

I must be out of the loop.

loopy82

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_david-tutera?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:1e4fdc93-1e64-4a72-9c2d-26aa50af370ePost:0acca89e-1ef1-4687-a83b-465e904d34e6">Re: David Tutera</a>:
[QUOTE]I must be out of the loop.
Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]

You obviously do not watch enough My Fair Wedding then.

AudgiePodge

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_david-tutera?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1e4fdc93-1e64-4a72-9c2d-26aa50af370ePost:2295fd4a-9fc4-4f74-9091-222523393e5c">Re: David Tutera</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: David Tutera : You obviously do not watch enough My Fair Wedding then.
Posted by loopy82[/QUOTE]
I watch some Bridezillas tho. Does that count?

loopy82

I think there should be an episode where DT takes over a Bridezilla's wedding. That could be trashily good.

marleylikeair

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_david-tutera?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:1e4fdc93-1e64-4a72-9c2d-26aa50af370ePost:1e4a0927-e4bf-4c40-b06d-f388466aa001">Re: David Tutera</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to David Tutera : It has gotten a little too nice around here sometimes. For example when the person who was too lazy to get divorced was planning her next wedding. At one point I think it was kind of at the point where it seemed like people were being mean just to be mean, but lately if feels kind of like MotoLyn's new avatar pic. We need to find a balance.
Posted by loopy82[/QUOTE]

Loopy, I think people made their points on that post. I believe that if you have a valid point, you can make it without being mean. I think, for the most part, that's been happening lately: good, smart advice without the 'tude. Just because we're on the internet doesn't mean civility should be abandoned.

marleylikeair

On the subject of DT, I haven't seen MFW in about a year, but he never really rubbed me the wrong way. And I have a very low tolerance for self-importance. I mean, these brides are submitting their weddings for takeover--it's not like the guy is waltzing in uninvited and telling her what to do.

Elle1036

The girls on My Fair Wedding signed up to have their weddings changed.  David Tutera is just doing his job.

I would love to have him plan my wedding.  I love what he comes up with.

KD+BC

I think he goes out of his way to spend way too much money. The wedding he puts together for girls with a miniscule budget while calling their ideas trashy, bugs me. I mean everyone deserves to feel like a beautiful bride on their wedding day but I was able to do that with one $700 wedding dress, flowers that cost less than $500, and a cake that cost less than $400. You don't need tons of flowers flown in from all over the world to have a gorgeous bouquet and centerpieces. My centerpieces were ::GASP:: fake! Did anyone seem to care? No. I got tons of compliments on them! We had good food, a great DJ, and an open bar and I felt beautiful.

He pisses me off.

ps. I was never super snarky but I look like a b!tch compared to a lot of the new NEY girls. I'm glad you're back paint.

motoLyn

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[QUOTE]In Response to David Tutera : It has gotten a little too nice around here sometimes. For example when the person who was too lazy to get divorced was planning her next wedding. At one point I think it was kind of at the point where it seemed like people were being mean just to be mean, but lately if feels kind of like MotoLyn's new avatar pic. We need to find a balance.
Posted by loopy82[/QUOTE]

When the forum finds that balance the avatar will change.  May the force be with you.  I also found a picture where a unicorn was farting out rainbows but I lost it and can't find it now. 

I've only seen my fair wedding once, and during that time he did an awesome job with this bride's wedding.  She was so lost in her planning and was just settling with her dress.

paintgirl

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_david-tutera?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:1e4fdc93-1e64-4a72-9c2d-26aa50af370ePost:1e4a0927-e4bf-4c40-b06d-f388466aa001">Re: David Tutera</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to David Tutera : It has gotten a little too nice around here sometimes. For example when the person who was too lazy to get divorced was planning her next wedding. At one point I think it was kind of at the point where it seemed like people were being mean just to be mean, but lately if feels kind of like MotoLyn's new avatar pic. We need to find a balance.
Posted by loopy82[/QUOTE]

Agree. I lurked for awhile before coming back and what I noticed was a lot of back pedaling. Ask a question and get some good advice? Go back and say that's what you meant to say in the first place - it came out wrong. Never respectfully disagree with anyone. Rainbows and kittens and kumbaya. 

And Marley, I'm not saying we all need to be bi*ches all the time. (You're the one whose bf made that gorgeous keepsake box, right? I said posted a nice reply to that.) But if someone is doing something dumb and asks for advice, I'm probably not going to tell them it's the coolest idea I've ever heard.

paintgirl

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_david-tutera?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:1e4fdc93-1e64-4a72-9c2d-26aa50af370ePost:87327b70-6add-4a23-ba3a-c7516c273dd5">Re: David Tutera</a>:
[QUOTE]The girls on My Fair Wedding signed up to have their weddings changed.  David Tutera is just doing his job. I would love to have him plan my wedding.  I love what he comes up with.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

I didn't say he was doing things the girls don't like. I'm saying he needs to get over himself. He acts like he's the savior of all weddings and usually puts down the women he's working with in the process. In the one I saw today, he condescendingly said, "Now that you are in MY world, there are no grocery store bouqets." Ok, well in HER world, that's all she could afford. I don't drop my clothes off at Goodwill and say, "Now that you have MY clothes, there will be no KMart clothes." If it's a gift (as the show is) give tactfully.

GreenPepperBurger

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: David Tutera : When the forum finds that balance the avatar will change.  May the force be with you.  I also found a picture where a unicorn was farting out rainbows but I lost it and can't find it now.  I've only seen my fair wedding once, and during that time he did an awesome job with this bride's wedding.  She was so lost in her planning and was just settling with her dress.
Posted by motoLyn[/QUOTE]


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marleylikeair

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: David Tutera : I didn't say he was doing things the girls don't like. I'm saying he needs to get over himself. He acts like he's the savior of all weddings and usually puts down the women he's working with in the process. In the one I saw today, he condescendingly said, "Now that you are in MY world, there are no grocery store bouqets." Ok, well in HER world, that's all she could afford. I don't drop my clothes off at Goodwill and say, "Now that you have MY clothes, there will be no KMart clothes." If it's a gift (as the show is) give tactfully.
Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]

Ew. I've never seen an episode that included this kind of condescending talk. I wouldn't like that, either. I'm sure the producers encourage that kind of thing, though, for the sake of ratings. Still not cool.

SeaTea02

I did hear the grocery store comment. As a florist, I laughed :-)

Honestly, 90% of the time those girls NEEDED some help. Like the forest girl... horrible. 

Tutera does over do having the lighted colored back drops. It is over done and out dated now. Move on. 

marleylikeair

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_david-tutera?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:1e4fdc93-1e64-4a72-9c2d-26aa50af370ePost:dd020777-333c-4839-aed4-b74bca216e72">Re: David Tutera</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: David Tutera : Agree. I lurked for awhile before coming back and what I noticed was a lot of back pedaling. Ask a question and get some good advice? Go back and say that's what you meant to say in the first place - it came out wrong. Never <strong>respectfully disagree</strong> with anyone. Rainbows and kittens and kumbaya.  <strong>And Marley, I'm not saying we all need to be bi*ches all the time. (You're the one whose bf made that gorgeous keepsake box, right? I said posted a nice reply to that.) But if someone is doing something dumb and asks for advice, I'm probably not going to tell them it's the coolest idea I've ever heard.
</strong>Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]

Yep, that was me! Thanks. :)

I haven't seen anything even remotely offensive in any of your posts, paint. You seem pretty cool to me. If someone is doing something dumb and is asking for advice about that dumb thing, I have no problem with people saying, hey, that actually doesn't sound like the best idea, because X, Y, and Z. What I don't like is when people get overly harsh, take a condescending or judgemental tone, or say things just for the sake of being mean. And if that happens, I'll speak up.

One of many reasons I'll speak up is that I don't want lurkers or newbs to think the majority of us on the board condone that kind of speech. Because when I first started coming around here, I was getting a pretty negative vibe, even after lurking awhile.

I think most people who come on a board and say something "flame-worthy" benefit waaaaay more if we reply to them in a civil and friendly way. They're more apt to stick around. They're more apt to listen to the advice if it's given in a respectful way.

Respectfully disagreeing is all I'm lookin' for!

PaigeMcC

What's a David Tutera?

Elle1036

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: David Tutera : I didn't say he was doing things the girls don't like. I'm saying he needs to get over himself. He acts like he's the savior of all weddings and usually puts down the women he's working with in the process. In the one I saw today, he condescendingly said, "Now that you are in MY world, there are no grocery store bouqets." Ok, well in HER world, that's all she could afford. I don't drop my clothes off at Goodwill and say, "Now that you have MY clothes, there will be no KMart clothes." If it's a gift (as the show is) give tactfully.
Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]

I knew what you meant.  I was just saying that I think the attitude is part of the show.  He's just doing his job.  Who knows what he's like in real life?

motoLyn

GPB that was awesome, thank you for making my dreary Tuesday much  brighter now. 

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[QUOTE]What's a David Tutera?
Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]


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PaigeMcC

Sooo, he's some wedding guy then? Yep.  Not really interested in whatever bullshit he's selling.