Too alike

PandaBurr

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[QUOTE]If this is the biggest problem you have in life, consider yourself lucky.
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

Seriously, haha. About 70% of my family "isn't allowed" at our wedding because of a tiff my mom has with them. She said if they show up, either she'll make a scene or not come at all. Most likely make a scene. I'm not even entirely sure my brother will even go because of my mom. It's completely and utterly heartbreaking for me, because I have to choose between family members, who I'm very close with. My mom has a personality disorder, so I really can't blame her for the way she acts, as much as I want to.

bajediva

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Too alike : My ESP is so much more clear since I sprung for the HD antenna.  It's a amazing difference.  Longer range.  Also, if it was you who was thinking about chocolate cake earlier, I am totally getting a slice from the grocery.  You made me hungry.
Posted by sunbird627[/QUOTE]
It was chocolate ice-cream, actually. But close. That thing is good.

catemeg

I call MUD.  This is just too stupid.

OP, if you're real (which I doubt) you need to think of a marriage, not a wedding.  Your pretty pretty princess day is not what they write in fairytales or plan on stupid TV shows, it's a day to celebrate the beginning of your marriage.  That's it.  A party for a marriage.  Soooo... focus on the marriage?

And once you focus on the marriage, you'll realize that making decisions together is an important part of being in a healthy relationship, and thus a healthy marriage.  Thus making all your wedding decisions with your BFF is only cool if a) your BF is your BFF or b) you're a lesbian and your GF is your BBF.

Let me guess... did you pick out your own ring, too?  I'm guessing Tiffany's... cuz you'd be okay with a smaller diamond so long as it's Tiffany's and will trade up later.

Narwhal

Listen, divernon.  If your friend is really your friend, she won't care if you have the same ideas she has.  Maybe your ideas will change, maybe hers will.  Maybe you will end up having different budgets.  Maybe your boyfriend will want some input.  The fact is, the likelihood of you two having the exact same wedding is slim to none.

While not always nice, we do try to be helpful.  If we weren't trying to help you, this thread would have just died and you wouldn't have gotten any responses.  We're not here to validate your thoughts, but we will try to rein them in.  We try to concentrate more on our relationships with our SO, instead of only the day.  If you get the relationship on the right track, everything else will work itself out in time.  No need to stress over little details or things that probably won't even happen in the future.

We don't mind talking about marriages before we're engaged, but we're of the firm belief that a wedding is only a day, and the marriages come first.  There are many women on this board who are engaged and some that are even married (and growing spawn!) that also stick around.  We like to talk about things that are going on in our lives, whether related to weddings or not.  I suggest you check out Jeana's sticky at the top of the board.  Lurking a little bit before posting could have saved you from getting your feelings hurt (maybe).

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]Wow...umm, thanks anyway guys. I always thought everyone on here was so nice and helpful! Thanks for judging me for valuing my friendship and trying to think ahead while my boyfriend saves to buy a ring. I'm a little astounded at your responses. I hope you all have very lovely lives and weddings, I'll just get back to my own now. Why the hell is there even a NEY board if you all are so adverse to talking about your weddings before you get engaged?
Posted by Divernon24[/QUOTE]

<div>You're welcome.  We offered good advice, if you can't handle the bluntness then I'd say your local board or weddingbee would be more puppies and rainbows.  They tend to be less blunt than we are.</div><div>
</div><div>Also, the board is here so TK can make money.  They want you to spend and act all crazy with wedding-stuff before you're married.  They're a company.  Generally, most of the ladies here go by the "enjoy your relationship, have good communication and when the time it right everything will work out" philosophy.  If that's not your style - I'd say get out of here before you get your feelings hurt.</div>

katanne9

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[QUOTE]Wow...umm, thanks anyway guys. I always thought everyone on here was so nice and helpful! Thanks for judging me for valuing my friendship and trying to think ahead while my boyfriend saves to buy a ring. I'm a little astounded at your responses. I hope you all have very lovely lives and weddings, I'll just get back to my own now. Why the hell is there even a NEY board if you all are so adverse to talking about your weddings before you get engaged?
Posted by Divernon24[/QUOTE]

A. Neither of you are even engaged. Chill out.

B. Who cares what she's doing. Do what you want. Who cares if they are similar.

C. Judging? Astounded? Really? That's pretty strong.

D. We're adverse to those who are NEY planning their wedding because it's a BAD idea.

oceana919

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[QUOTE]Wow...umm, thanks anyway guys. I always thought everyone on here was so nice and helpful! <strong>Thanks for judging me for valuing my friendship and trying to think ahead while my boyfriend saves to buy a ring.</strong> I'm a little astounded at your responses. I hope you all have very lovely lives and weddings, I'll just get back to my own now. <strong>Why the hell is there even a NEY board if you all are so adverse to talking about your weddings before you get engaged?
</strong>Posted by Divernon24[/QUOTE]

::FACEPALM::

<- The line for beebee's with hurt feelings is back there. Take a friggin number.

Goldlie11

I just realized how similar my wedding is compared with a family member who got married around 2 years ago.  We're both using red.  We're both getting married in a hall.  The thing is, I don't think she cares because we're both adults.  Furthermore, neither of us has a patent on using red for a wedding color.  

Most weddings have a lot in common.  Unless either of you are doing something super extraordinary, there will be similarities.  I doubt anyone will notice.