I Don't Know WHO Told, But I'm Going To Punch You, So FESS UP (Confessions of a Bridal Consultant)

peekaboo2011

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[QUOTE]Yeah, while it's annoying to go through an appointment with someone, especially a very young someone, and have them not buy, it seems like it might be a cultural thing? I know she's young and without a ring, but do you at all think it could have been just a mistunderstanding?  I would find the snooty, b!tchy, must spend at least $3,000 on a dress or it's not good enough no matter how much I like it, where's my champagne, brides waaay more annoying! But I totally see how frustrating this could be. The biggest red flag would be not havng her mom or boyfriend there (whoever is paying)! Did she even tell you a budget! How can you just try on things blind without knowing whether you can afford it or not. That's super dumb. 
Posted by DanieKA[/QUOTE]

<div>We had a budget.  It was IN budget!  Had she not wanted the "make you look like a cupcake" slip, it would have been waaaaay under budget.</div><div>
</div><div>Snooty brides are obnoxious.  But they're honest.  And honesty is what really matters to me.  Don't waste my time.  If you aren't going to buy your dress from us, tell me that right off the bat.  I'll do everything in my power to change your mind.  If you're already in love with another dress, describe it to me.  I'll top it AND keep you in budget (or slightly over, but I know when to overstep my bounds and when to let it slide).</div><div>
</div><div>If I can't convince you to buy your dress from me after you told me you weren't, at least I gave it the best try I could.  And that's what this is about.  She was almost as obnoxious as the girl who walked in, gave me a budget, told me it was flexible but that she was only here for a couple days from out of country, tried on like a bajillion dresses a little outside her budget, fell in love with a dress, and told me she was coming back to get it before she flew home.  She lied.  And I was seriously hurt.  I worked hard to find that perfect dress, and she treated me like I was dirt.</div>

DanieKA

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I Don't Know WHO Told, But I'm Going To Punch You, So FESS UP (Confessions of a Bridal Consultant) : We had a budget.  It was IN budget!  Had she not wanted the "make you look like a cupcake" slip, it would have been waaaaay under budget. Snooty brides are obnoxious.  But they're honest.  And honesty is what really matters to me.  Don't waste my time.  If you aren't going to buy your dress from us, tell me that right off the bat.  I'll do everything in my power to change your mind.  If you're already in love with another dress, describe it to me.  I'll top it AND keep you in budget (or slightly over, but I know when to overstep my bounds and when to let it slide). If I can't convince you to buy your dress from me after you told me you weren't, at least I gave it the best try I could.  And that's what this is about.  She was almost as obnoxious as the girl who walked in, gave me a budget, told me it was flexible but that she was only here for a couple days from out of country, tried on like a bajillion dresses a little outside her budget, fell in love with a dress, and told me she was coming back to get it before she flew home.  She lied.  And I was seriously hurt.  I worked hard to find that perfect dress, and she treated me like I was dirt.
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]<div>
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</div><div>I get you. I'm sorry it was so frustrating. I wasn't trying to pick on you (swear), just trying to look at other reasons she might not have bought<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />. And as for the cupcake look, she's not that much older than 15, so maybe she didn't get to have a Qiunceanera and was wanting the big poofy princess look for her (pretend) wedding! It kind of reminds me of the look a lot of the girls go for on that TLC show MY Big Fat Gypsy Wedding! And ooohh boy, those girls are young! No wonder they want to look like Barbie, they are still playing with them!!!</div><div>
</div><div>I hope it's not all bad at the job! Tell me there's 10 good brides for every 2 bad ones!</div><div>
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SeaTea02

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[QUOTE]So, what about her visit are you so distraught over? The fact that she got engaged at a younger age than you? Has been engaged longer than you? Fell in love with a dress she couldn't afford? Accidently says BF instead of FI? (something I do about a million times a day and I've been engaged nearly a year) What nerve. Also, being engaged does not require having a ring. Not in my state at least. FWIW - My parents got married out of HS and have been happily married 26 years. Your post comes off as judgey, ignorant, and frankly quite bitter. How is she crazy? You are the one who sounds crazy.
Posted by dragonwagon[/QUOTE]<div>
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</div><div>Well, aren't you pleasant?</div>

alanna91

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[QUOTE]I wanted to say "It wasn't me" that sent that girl to you, and then I thought of this: <a href="http://youtu.be/GH_StQ6KdW0" rel='nofollow'>http://youtu.be/GH_StQ6KdW0</a> hahaha Sorry, hon. :(
Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]

Ahhh! Before I even opened that link I knew what you were talking about. You're awesome.

I would also like to add that the rink I used to skate was well-known for it's churros. Ice rink and churro wedding?

Peek, it must get so totally frusterating, but don't stories like that make the job interesting? Have you ever given BSC brides advice before?

bawidget

Peek I don't know how you do it. I would not be able to hide my frustration. During say yes to the dress marathons I always think they make it look easy, but then they show situations like this one that seems shady and I feel so bad for the consultant!!

I hope you have some awesome bride during your next shift who buys a ridiculously expensive dress thereby getting you a fabulous commission

peekaboo2011

She was my first BSC.  And no, I didn't give her any advice.  It was really hard though, especially being on here.

The girls that make it interesting, the girls that really make this job worth it, are the ones who appreciate what I do.  It's the girls that you click with from the second they walk in, the girls who you can talk to about colors and tell their FI's to shut their mouths about football.  The girls whose weddings you really want to go crash because of how awesome they are.  Those are the girls who make this job interesting, who make it worth all of the awful brides.

wink0erin

When I was in high school a friend of mine used to beg me to go to the bridal shop to try on dresses. I never went.

I don't know if she ever went with anyone else, but I imagine she thought it was like going to the mall to try clothes on.

She was also completely crazy. Not BSC in the wedding sense, just legit crazy.

lunarsongbird

Maybe she was secretly even younger and wanting a dress for her quinceanera.



I've heard cupcakes are quite fashionable for quinceaneras....or...was that for a gypsy wedding?

peekaboo2011

Kind of like that.  A little fuller...with a bubble skirt and one ginormous pickup the entire way around.  

dragonwagon

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I Don't Know WHO Told, But I'm Going To Punch You, So FESS UP (Confessions of a Bridal Consultant) : Well, aren't you pleasant?
Posted by SeaTea02[/QUOTE]

Actually, I am a pleasant person. I am just really curious to know what wrong this girl did.

mymissingpuzzlepiece

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I Don't Know WHO Told, But I'm Going To Punch You, So FESS UP (Confessions of a Bridal Consultant) : Actually, I am a pleasant person. I am just really curious to know what wrong this girl did.
Posted by dragonwagon[/QUOTE]

<div>Didn't they spell it out enough for you?</div>

dragonwagon

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_dont-told-but-im-going-punch-fess-up-confessions-of-bridal-consultant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1eb41354-d840-48c9-acd1-d2332ebfb150Post:afc9e70e-1349-4770-aee7-b8a6d9a8f838">Re: I Don't Know WHO Told, But I'm Going To Punch You, So FESS UP (Confessions of a Bridal Consultant)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I Don't Know WHO Told, But I'm Going To Punch You, So FESS UP (Confessions of a Bridal Consultant) : Didn't they spell it out enough for you?
Posted by mymissingpuzzlepiece[/QUOTE]

They tried. Their reasoning sounds like tantrums of 13 year old girls. Based upon nothing but assumptions and emotions.

Hey OP, since you are so grown and honest - next time, why don't you just try to level with the client. "Are you <em>really </em>engaged or are you girls just having a girls' day?" If said kindly enough, a statement like this could bring out the truth and get you off the hook from such an emotionally taxing job.

peekaboo2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_dont-told-but-im-going-punch-fess-up-confessions-of-bridal-consultant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1eb41354-d840-48c9-acd1-d2332ebfb150Post:ce089b55-cd5a-4d0b-9498-035699b87915">Re: I Don't Know WHO Told, But I'm Going To Punch You, So FESS UP (Confessions of a Bridal Consultant)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I Don't Know WHO Told, But I'm Going To Punch You, So FESS UP (Confessions of a Bridal Consultant) : They tried. Their reasoning sounds like tantrums of 13 year old girls. Based upon nothing but assumptions and emotions. Hey OP, since you are so grown and honest - next time, why don't you just try to level with the client. <strong>"Are you really engaged or are you girls just having a girls' day?" If said kindly enough, a statement like this could bring out the truth and get you off the hook from such an emotionally taxing job.</strong>
Posted by dragonwagon[/QUOTE]

<div>...or get me fired.</div><div>
</div><div>What happened to being able to vent about work?  You ever had a bad day and needed to unload?  I actually enjoy my job most of the time.  I enjoy my girls.  But half of this is about being able to keep my mouth shut and let the girls be.  So, I get to vent here.  And if that comes off to you as a 13 year old girl vent, then you are welcome to not read and go fall off the face of the earth.  Because really, your responses have been rude.  I don't sit here and tell you that you aren't entitled to vent.  So, back the fvck off.</div>

kaitlynmichelle

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I Don't Know WHO Told, But I'm Going To Punch You, So FESS UP (Confessions of a Bridal Consultant) : They tried. Their reasoning sounds like tantrums of 13 year old girls. Based upon nothing but assumptions and emotions. Hey OP, since you are so grown and honest - next time, why don't you just try to level with the client. "Are you really engaged or are you girls just having a girls' day?" If said kindly enough, a statement like this could bring out the truth and get you off the hook from such an emotionally taxing job.
Posted by dragonwagon[/QUOTE]

<div>I agree with Peek, that could get her fired.</div><div>I'm sure that you've had bad days at work before and have vented to someone else, be it online or in person.  If not, I want to know what you do, because it must be amazing.</div><div>
</div><div>If you honestly believe that she's overreacting, then just don't post on the thread.   Simple enough.  You can post wherever you like, but there was no need to be rude.</div>

meamolly

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_dont-told-but-im-going-punch-fess-up-confessions-of-bridal-consultant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1eb41354-d840-48c9-acd1-d2332ebfb150Post:1c194c54-9a30-4aad-a75d-22f6915559a3">Re: I Don't Know WHO Told, But I'm Going To Punch You, So FESS UP (Confessions of a Bridal Consultant)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I Don't Know WHO Told, But I'm Going To Punch You, So FESS UP (Confessions of a Bridal Consultant) : Actually, I am a pleasant person. I am just really curious to know what wrong this girl did.
Posted by dragonwagon[/QUOTE]


SHE TOOK UP TIME PLAYING DRESS UP

the end

mymissingpuzzlepiece

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_dont-told-but-im-going-punch-fess-up-confessions-of-bridal-consultant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:1eb41354-d840-48c9-acd1-d2332ebfb150Post:ce089b55-cd5a-4d0b-9498-035699b87915">Re: I Don't Know WHO Told, But I'm Going To Punch You, So FESS UP (Confessions of a Bridal Consultant)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I Don't Know WHO Told, But I'm Going To Punch You, So FESS UP (Confessions of a Bridal Consultant) : They tried. Their reasoning sounds like tantrums of 13 year old girls. Based upon nothing but assumptions and emotions. Hey OP, since you are so grown and honest - next time, why don't you just try to level with the client. "Are you really engaged or are you girls just having a girls' day?" If said kindly enough, a statement like this could bring out the truth and get you off the hook from such an emotionally taxing job.
Posted by dragonwagon[/QUOTE]

<div>See, your logic however doesn't work that well, considering how you responded to her post...why just not post all? Apparently you felt the need to voice your opinion which wasn't phrased (in my opinion) kindly at all. In some ways, to others, your post may have seemed like a vent about your dissatisfaction with her answer. Maybe you should stick to keeping quiet around here unless you have something good to say. </div>