Procession Order

heatherfitz

Hello, all!

So, I've been browsing the boards for procession order ideas and holy moly are there a lot! I was wondering if anyone can help me with order and pairing ideas? This is who we have:

Bride
Groom
Groom's Mother & Father & Sister
Bride's Mother & Step-Father, Biologial Father, & Grandmother
Officient

I'd like to have my step-dad and real dad walk me halfway down the aisle then walk the rest by myself.

So that leaves the groom, his sister and parents, my mother, and my grandmother to walk.

Who should go when? And who should be paired with who?

Any and all help is greatly appreciated!

Happy wedding planning

TiffannieF

Couple things/options to think about:

1-is your both your dad and step dad ok with this?  I know guys are kind of prideful and it might seem like you are having 2 life partners walking you down (if they are not homosexual, this could be a problem).

2-what do they do when they are half way down the aisle, follow behind you and they will be side-by-side?

3-Are you having ushers?  If you have ushers you can have the usher escort your mom, g-ma, and FSIL down the aisle.  And/or have your step dad escort your mom down the aisle.

If you are not having an usher:

-mom and g-ma can walk together

-groom and his mom can walk down together while his dad escorts FSIL down the aisle.  groom can escort his sister down the aisle while his parents walk down together, or usher can escort FSIL down the aisle while parents walk together.

HTH

heatherfitz

growing up, my dad was scarcely involved in my life. but through the past year we've re-connected and he's an important figure in my life now. he's made it clear that he wants to walk me down the aisle, but my step-dad is the one who actually helped raise me and i'd feel horrible if he weren't involved.

i actually really don't like the idea of being "given away" as i don't feel i'm anyone's property. so that's why i thought of the walking-halfway-down-the-aisle thing. i guess i hadn't thought it out all the way, because once we make it halfway, where do they go? haha

and no ushers i like the idea of officiant-groom & groom mother-groom father & groom sister-bride mother & grandmother-bride, step-father, & father

thanks so much for you help!

juma1111

Just because they walk you all the way down the aisle doesn't mean they have to give you away. I have my 2 sons (ages 4 & 5 at the time of the wedding) walk me down the aisle. When we got to the end, they each gave me a kiss on the cheek and went to sit with my mom in the 1st row. I then joined my now husband at the alter. All you do is skip the portion of the ceremony where the officiant asks "Who gives this bride blah blah blah"

Easy.

heatherfitz

great point,  juma1111. skipping the "who gives this woman away" part will hopefully imply that no one has to give me away, haha. and it'd be easier to make it to the end of the aisle with the dads instead of halfway :P thanks!

naomikb

You've gotten good advice on the father/stepfather walking issue.  So I will address the order...

I would do:
Groom's sister + an usher or groomsman
Bride's grandmother + an usher or groomsman
Groom's parents, dad escorts mom or usher/GM/G escorts mom and dad walks by himself
Bride's mom + groom or groomsman or son to escort her
Groom & officiant
Groomsmen + bridesmaid pairs (or have all the GMs come in, then all the BMs)
Flowergirls (you didn't mention any but if you have any they go right before the bride)
Bride + her fathers in whatever capacity you choose