Confessions/Unpopular Opinions

[Deleted User] · June 2012

I confess I'm ready for H's bro to go home. or decide to be part of the family. one or the other will work.

JordanL1221 · June 2012

Jemm-I totally agree with you. Hot damn. I understand taking a self portrait if you change your hair, get your braces off, something like that. But everyday? No. You are an attention whore with low self esteem and I feel sorry for you.

Confession- BF gets home at 5:00 and I will unload the dishwasher and hang his clothes up at 4:45 because I work well under pressure and because I'm too crampy to get up.

Confession-I know I'm not married yet, but ever since our we lost our baby last month, Mark and I want to try again for a baby. We are financially stable, mature, and we were so excited about the little one (even though it was a BC baby), as were our families, that we aren't going to necessarily "try" , but we aren't going to prevent. Our parents were all so happy to get a grandbaby and we were so excited to be parents, it's not even funny. Our families aren't religious, so they weren't upset about the first little surprise.

Confession- I did a no-no yesterday. I know that BF got my E-riing from a local jewler. I took my friend in the store yesterday and scoped out the rings to maybe get an idea of what he had purchased. I'm so excited, and patiently waiting.

Confession- I'm trying so hard to lose these ten pounds that have snuck on, that I've thought about going on diet pills to help jump-start the weight loss.

Edited because aparently I don't know the difference between an U/O and a confession.

K Everdeen12 · June 2012

Confession, I love that you guys are calling me Katniss.

Jaycee - we can move out of our apartment next August (2013). Three years didn't seem like a big deal when we bought it, but it suuuuucks.

tuarceatha · June 2012

I confess I talk about you all a lot to FI, and fumble over how to refer to you. But when I talk about what you all said to other people you're "these people on a wedding blog"...? I dunno how to get out of saying where the source of the facts/links/topics I am bringing up but I don't want them coming on here and reading all that I write, so I won't say the girls on NEY said XYZ.

I confess it pisses me off that FI never picks up my stuff. (I randomly put his stuff away all the time... well whenever I sporadically clean up). I've recently stopped folding his laundry and cleaning up his stuff.
I'm a passive-aggressive partner and I know it.

I confess that I fear how boring life will seem when I'm not planning a wedding and having a house build. FI best inpregnant (sp) me asap.

U/O-None. I'm wicked popular, IMO.

bsidebella · June 2012

Bri wanted me to post a "real" confession, so here it goes:

I am having the worst time wedding planning. I really hate it. I'm not having fun. I realized this a little too late and now I kind of feel stuck because time and money have already been invested in it. I'm terrified of it happening - not the marriage; I can't wait to be married. But I feel like I've lost control and I can't get it back.

If I had a TARDIS, I would go back in time and convince FI to elope or something.

My mother told me a secret a few weeks ago. She said, "Weddings aren't about you or about the groom. They're not. They're for everyone else. They're for the parents and the grandparents and it's their chance to throw a party and show off a bit. Unfortunately, you guys get caught in the middle of it."

I'm realizing now how true her words are.

jaycee7389 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessionsunpopular-opinions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:25d7fa6a-4fe5-4c7b-9638-65b9de70f909Post:8bf386e1-e8e2-4510-8e54-519b059ade58">Re: Confessions/Unpopular Opinions</a>:
[QUOTE]Confession, I love that you guys are calling me Katniss. Jaycee - we can move out of our apartment next August (2013). Three years didn't seem like a big deal when we bought it, but it suuuuucks.
Posted by K Everdeen12[/QUOTE]

Yeah, same here. Now we're like IWANTAFUCKINGYARD! It also sucks not being able to host parties.

[Deleted User] · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessionsunpopular-opinions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:25d7fa6a-4fe5-4c7b-9638-65b9de70f909Post:30be298b-b5c4-41c8-956b-0681112b31a8">Re: Confessions/Unpopular Opinions</a>:
[QUOTE]Bri wanted me to post a "real" confession, so here it goes: I am having the worst time wedding planning. I really hate it. I'm not having fun. I realized this a little too late and now I kind of feel stuck because time and money have already been invested in it. I'm terrified of it happening - not the marriage; I can't wait to be married. But I feel like I've lost control and I can't get it back. If I had a TARDIS, I would go back in time and convince FI to elope or something. My mother told me a secret a few weeks ago. She said, "Weddings aren't about you or about the groom. They're not. They're for everyone else. They're for the parents and the grandparents and it's their chance to throw a party and show off a bit. Unfortunately, you guys get caught in the middle of it." I'm realizing now how true her words are.
Posted by bsidebella[/QUOTE]

all truth. I also felt like this for the entire engagement. you'll get through it! *hugs*

abwatts · June 2012

Jemmini - Texas will never regualte the size of food I am pretty sure, so you can always come down here and get it. But you are right... there has GOT to be more education about healthy choices. I work in an office of adults and I am amazed at what they think is healthy (FACT: Coconut as a topping does NOT make a donut healthy). I love me some junk food, but at least I know that it is that I am putting in my mouth, and not delusional on the nutritional value of my bean burrito....

RDR - sorry.. my posts are usually long too.. Its not just posts, its emails, text messages.. I'm a talker. Apologies

U/O: I too hate TOMS (i wish i didnt)
U/O: I love my mother, but I dont want her at the birth of my (future) babies
U/O: I'm a democrat in Texas...
U/O: I want to be a stay at home mom.. and always have.

loves2shop4shoes · June 2012

Confession: I have the sads.

JordanL1221 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessionsunpopular-opinions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:25d7fa6a-4fe5-4c7b-9638-65b9de70f909Post:df2fd68a-f540-4127-9fbb-db1c1f2b7b1b">Re: Confessions/Unpopular Opinions</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions/Unpopular Opinions : These are confessions, not U/Os.
Posted by hellotarra[/QUOTE]

My bad.

peekaboo2011 · June 2012

I confess that I'm swamped at work and still on TK for about 10 min.

I confess that lately I've been pissed as hell at almost anything that moves.

I confess I refuse to read this thread in its entirety because I'm exhausted and really don't care.

I confess that I've been eating like shite lately because I know I've gained weight and don't care enough to start exercising. I realize that this may be part of my terrible mood, but I really DGAF right now.

I confess that after writing down my confessions, I think I might have a problem.

mookow86 · June 2012

I confess that I'm somewhat happy DH is traveling for work next week because I miss having time to myself.

motoLyn · June 2012

Confession, I wish could interact more with you ladies so I would feel like I know what is going on with the inside jokes, but then I realize that I'm lazy and just not around long enough to catch on. So I'm ok with it and annoyed at the same time.

Also confess that I reallllllllly would like to go on blast and be obnoxious and rude to every BSC poster that comes in here, but I'm afraid of getting banned and having to make up a new S/N and lose my post count.

Confession #3: I eat thing sI shouldn't such as blue cheese on crackers or cheesecake and know I am getting married in a week and don't exercise. I DO NOT feel I am a typical bride, shouldn't I be eating nothing but lettuce, then the other part of me goes "WTF just stop whining about it".

U/O: I think the eecards are idiotic. Like the messages but the whole idea isn't funny.

psubride09 · June 2012

I confess that I'm afraid the closer I get to my wedding, the more I understand why Bridezillas are the way they are, and THAT IS NOT OKAY.

K Everdeen12 · June 2012

UO, maybe? I don't get the couple pose when the girl puts her hand on her dude's chest. It looks weird and awkward to me.

I say UO, maybe because I feel like no one else has a strong opinion on this at all.

melmac86 · June 2012

Confession - I gained back most of the weight I lost in the Thintopia challenge over the weekend and I had a damn good time doing it. I had people wining and dining me from Friday - Monday and I really don't regret it.

Confession - My closet looks like it threw up with the amount of clothing strewn about. I have enough clean underwear to last 2 months and clean clothes to last me even longer, so sometimes (ok, most times) I go that long without doing laundry, because I hate it that much.

UO - I don't like when people say hubby, hubs, wifey, THE wife etc... I don't know why, but it bugs me.

Edit - I was wined and dined cause of my bday and that is why I do not regret it!

jaycee7389 · June 2012

I hate it more when people who are not married say those things. This girl on my facebook constantly refers to her BF, not even FI, as hubby. It drives me insane!

jemmini6 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessionsunpopular-opinions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:25d7fa6a-4fe5-4c7b-9638-65b9de70f909Post:ea60b6ff-3807-4625-b19a-215f1c2b4de6">Re: Confessions/Unpopular Opinions</a>:
[QUOTE]Confession - I gained back most of the weight I lost in the Thintopia challenge over the weekend and I had a damn good time doing it. I had people wining and dining me from Friday - Monday and I really don't regret it. Confession - My closet looks like it threw up with the amount of clothing strewn about. I have enough clean underwear to last 2 months and clean clothes to last me even longer, so sometimes (ok, most times) I go that long without doing laundry, because I hate it that much. UO - I don't like when people say hubby, hubs, wifey, THE wife etc... I don't know why, but it bugs me. Edit - I was wined and dined cause of my bday and that is why I do not regret it!
Posted by melmac86[/QUOTE]

Ditto, but S/O...I HATE when people say "my man" to refer to their SO. Same with "baby daddy". I've heard people sarcastically use those terms and it doesn't bug me, but when they seriously refer to their SO or father of their child that way, it just sounds uber trashy and ghetto.

melmac86 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessionsunpopular-opinions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:25d7fa6a-4fe5-4c7b-9638-65b9de70f909Post:51f1fbff-d108-4e39-8682-28d55dbd6459">Re: Confessions/Unpopular Opinions</a>:
[QUOTE]I hate it more when people who are not married say those things. This girl on my facebook constantly refers to her BF, not even FI, as hubby. It drives me insane!
Posted by jaycee7389[/QUOTE]

Oh, yes. This is way worse since it doesn't even make sense.

csousa1 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessionsunpopular-opinions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:25d7fa6a-4fe5-4c7b-9638-65b9de70f909Post:7eb177e6-b46b-464e-990f-fb1de509500f">Re: Confessions/Unpopular Opinions</a>:
[QUOTE]UO, maybe? I don't get the couple pose when the girl puts her hand on her dude's chest. It looks weird and awkward to me. I say UO, maybe because I feel like no one else has a strong opinion on this at all.
Posted by K Everdeen12[/QUOTE]

This is obviously a controversial topic, second only to that of abortion or the death penalty. The great awkward-role-reversal-chest-groping-pose debate of '12.

lavenderfields13 · June 2012

I'm REALLY glad I'm not the only one who doesn't change my sheets enough.

confession: I keep back and forth between wanting to exercise and try really hard to lose weight and just trying to convince myself I'm not going to be super skinny again and I should accept and love my body how it is now.

U/O: I don't get why if you want to get married and become a SAHM as soon as you get out of college why you even want to go to college. I think I just have a really U/O of SAHMs in general. It's just not something I connect with or have ever wanted for myself.

thelamarrs · June 2012

Confession: When I come on here I forget that I'm young compared to you guys and sometimes I feel like I'm too young to feel like I want to marry BF. Also, that I need to tread lightly about talking about BF since I've heard about how many of the ladies here were in the same position as me and then were divorced young. It makes me wary I guess.

Confession: I really think that if I hadn't stumbled upon NEY that I would be the harping GF who is pressuring BF into buying the ring and proposing while we're both in school. I see girls who have been with their BF for a short time scoping out rings and talking about how she thinks they are ready to make the leap and I just want to grab them, shake them and tell them to hold their fing horses and that getting married shouldn't be at the top of their to-do list.

Confession: I want nothing to do with my sister and her family. They caused a tornado of drama and moved out of the country leaving me to pick up the pieces of my mom. Then has the gall to call her crying and wanting her forgivness. She's a manipulative b!tch and lied to me for many months up until her move. She's so ashamed of the way she left me, and knowing how I feel about her now, that she hasn't spoken to me since she moved... two years ago.

U/O or Confession (not sure which): It irks me greatly that girls plan their weddings on pinterest even if they aren't engaged or even have a BF. I feel like its no better than the girls that come here. Pinterest is a BSC machine IMO when it comes to weddings.

CASK85 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessionsunpopular-opinions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:25d7fa6a-4fe5-4c7b-9638-65b9de70f909Post:c1fc3c66-99b5-4993-9a42-ffc1d64db993">Re: Confessions/Unpopular Opinions</a>:
[QUOTE]Confession: I have the sads.
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]
What's wrong, Shoes? U can no hav sadz, plz?

catrb89 · June 2012

I confess that I'm on an anti-depressant/anti-anxiety med and sometimes it makes me feel insecure, despite working in mental health field.

I confess that I love animals more than most poeple.

I confess that even though cleaning the bathroom is "my job", I hate it and would rather hire a maid.

skepticals · June 2012

I confess that I dont post on here NEARLY enough, because I feel like when i finally get the chance, the board is already done with.

I confess that Im starting to not like the idea of living where I am right now for the rest of my life, even though this is exactly where BF wants to be.

jorja86 · June 2012

In Response to Re:Confessions/Unpopular Opinions:[QUOTE]U/O: I don't get why if you want to get married and become a SAHM as soon as you get out of college why you even want to go to college. Posted by leese19[/QUOTE]

I'm with you on this. When you're 22...be 22. I've wanted to be a mother my entire life, more than anything, in fact, and it's something I'm really excited about happening eventually. But, I am SO glad I have had the past 4 years to figure out who I am as a real adult, what I want in my career, and build a really strong foundation with my BF. Plus, it's really great to enjoy some time with an actual income you don't have to dedicate to a child. Go travel, buy yourself something major with YOUR money, buy great Christmas and birthday gifts for your parents and siblings.

I just think there is A LOT of living and learning that happens those first few years out of college that is totally skipped over if you jump onto the next stage right away. I also think I will be a better mother for having some of these experiences under my belt. I think, when I do become a mother, I wont look back on my life and wish I took some more time to figure out who I was before I took on the huge responsibility of shaping a child into who they will become.

I'm not saying you can't be a great mother at 22, just that you might be an even better one when you're 27.

bethsmiles · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_confessionsunpopular-opinions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:25d7fa6a-4fe5-4c7b-9638-65b9de70f909Post:007828d6-8d94-4523-997e-96924fa1defe">Re: Confessions/Unpopular Opinions</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess that I dont post on here NEARLY enough, because I feel like when i finally get the chance, the board is already done with. I confess that Im starting to not like the idea of living where I am right now for the rest of my life, even though this is exactly where BF wants to be.
Posted by PrincessTinyFeet[/QUOTE]

Come live in Colorado. Your BF will like it here :)

Also I agree you don't post enough! But I get it - the time differences makes it so there are a lot less posters around when it's finally night over on the west side of the country!

peekaboo2011 · June 2012

U/O: I really hate when girls wear sundresses to weddings. Even if it is an outdoor, informal affair, I feel like prints really don't have a place. Someone is paying for you to eat and drink, you owe it to them to look nice. I'm not saying that you need to be black tie, but I think a solid color dress looks way better than some floral print.

jaycee7389 · June 2012

In Response to Re:Confessions/Unpopular Opinions:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Confessions/Unpopular Opinions:U/O: I don't get why if you want to get married and become a SAHM as soon as you get out of college why you even want to go to college. Posted by leese19

I'm with you on this. When you're 22...be 22. I've wanted to be a mother my entire life, more than anything, in fact, and it's something I'm really excited about happening eventually. But, I am SO glad I have had the past 4 years to figure out who I am as a real adult, what I want in my career, and build a really strong foundation with my BF. Plus, it's really great to enjoy some time with an actual income you don't have to dedicate to a child. Go travel, buy yourself something major with YOUR money, buy great Christmas and birthday gifts for your parents and siblings.

I just think there is A LOT of living and learning that happens those first few years out of college that is totally skipped over if you jump onto the next stage right away. I also think I will be a better mother for having some of these experiences under my belt. I think, when I do become a mother, I wont look back on my life and wish I took some more time to figure out who I was before I took on the huge responsibility of shaping a child into who they will become.

I'm not saying you can't be a great mother at 22, just that you might be an even better one when you're 27. Posted by jorja86[/QUOTE]

I have zero desire to be a mother right now, but opinions like this bother me. If they want to be mothers now and can be great ones as you say, why not?

I cannot stand the 'enjoy being young' mantra. I rarely go out to the bars, never go to the club, and it has nothing to do with having a child or not. Some people just don't enjoy that lifestyle. Don't get me wrong, I go out on occasion wih my friends and H and I enjoy our date nights. I just think too many people assume everyone should enjoy their early 20s in the manner which they did or else those people are missing out.

jaycee7389 · June 2012

Peek, i2i 100 percent

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