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So yesterday there was a baptism of a baby at my church.  So FI and I are just standing there minding our own business when I look over and see my mother just beaming at us.  FI said she had her "impregnate my daughter now" look on.  Later she comes up to me and is like" Oh isn't that baby precious!"  Beam. Smile. Ask me with her eyes to make her a grandmother.  Good Lord woman!  Let me get married first! So ya, my mother has the grandmother fever, bad.  You may recall I am in no hurry to have children (like 10 years from now) so I feel kind of bad for her.  Though she may get lucky and my idiotic brother may knock some girl up and she might get her wish, just not from me.  *sigh*

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    bethsmilesbethsmiles member
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    edited December 2011
    My weekend was full of studying. I'm going to be so glad when finals are over on Thursday!


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    elanniselannis member
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    This weekend we had a laid back date night for my bday (today) and we went to church for the first time since we were little.

    FMIL and my mom both have baby fever. I feel your pain, lol. 
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    Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    edited December 2011
    My mother gets the grandmother-fever occasionally, too.  When I was 18 she even mentioned that if I got accidentally pregnant, she'd "be mad for like an hour".

    I get it a lot less now, though, since I've told her that we may not ever have children at all and she'd better work on my brothers.


    My weekend was sucktastic.  I was sleep-deprived and fighting a sinus infection so I spent all of it trying (and failing) to sleep.  But we finally booked our ski trip (we leave on Saturday) so I'm supermegastoked about that.
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    edited December 2011
    My mom has the opposite of baby fever. She has the opposite of wedding fever, too, which really bums me out :/

    FI's mom, though, I have no idea. She held a baby shower for a friend at her house yesterday and I hightailed it out of the room so fast I didn't even see her reaction (FI and I were there to pick something up and left just as the shower started. They were talking about c-sections; I thought I was going to throw up).
     
    My weekend was blah. Had a nervous breakdown out of nowhere yesterday, that was fun. I'm looking forward to Friday already.

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    jemmini6jemmini6 member
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    edited December 2011
    My mom already has 2 grandkids and now 2 step-grandkids and she still wants H and I to hurry up and have kids.  Luckily though, my in-laws aren't in any hurry to become grandparents.

    THis weekend was pretty good.  H and I had 90 minute massages on Saturday afternoon, then his company holiday party Saturday night, which was fun.
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    edited December 2011
    My weekend was so busy. I have a had off and planned to take it off too because I knew I would be tired.  I had 4 performances of A Christmas Carol, they all went great and it was so much fun.  There was little time for BF & I to hang out but as we always say we've got the rest of our lives.  I auditioned for a show last night. I danced great but sang horribly.  So I pretty much know I am not getting into the show.  I was pretty bummed last night about it, but oh well.  I went to the mall earlier this morning, and am now 95% done with my Christmas shopping.

    My mom had bad grandbaby fever luckily my younger sister had a whoops.  So it totally took the pressure off :-)

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    edited December 2011
    my parents would love for us to have kids, but they know it will be a few years and they're fine with that.  H's mom, is always asking us... and then telling us she's going to move across the country so she can watch our kids.  I'm not too sure about that.  we'll cross that bridge when we come to it!!
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    lunarsongbirdlunarsongbird member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm not entirely sure my parents are that excited to have grandbabies yet...they still have a daughter at home! LOL.

    This weekend, Andrew and I made donzens and dozens of christmas cookies! And on Sunday we had some awesome BBQ and decorate the rest of our Christmas tree. :) Hooray!
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    I had a great weekend! (Sorry to the girls who had sucky weekends. Hope the week treats you better!)

    Got engaged on Saturday and spent Sunday just relaxing.

    My mother also has baby fever! She told FI and I that it was okay if we skipped Halloween until we had a baby. We just laughed at her. So, she spent all of Halloween dropping hints about us getting married. So, she got one wish. She can wait a few Halloweens for the next one. I just laugh it off and change the subject.
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    CASK85CASK85 member
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    My in-laws are dying for us to make a baby. H's dad point blank told me "I want a granddaughter" before we even got engaged.  But it won't be happening for at least 3 more years, so they'll have to wait. My parents are in no hurry to become grandparents, thank goodness. 

    My weekend was pretty good. I went to a cookie exchange party on Sunday. I worked a few hours, which was no fun. And now it is monday. . . boo.
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_mothers-babies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:265d85e5-b113-48c8-bc18-a96a9569299fPost:bcc8fd0a-791d-4f46-b006-e78dc7144d75">Re: Mothers and Babies</a>:
    [QUOTE]My in-laws are dying for us to make a baby. <strong>H's dad point blank told me "I want a granddaughter" before we even got engaged.</strong>  But it won't be happening for at least 3 more years, so they'll have to wait. My parents are in no hurry to become grandparents, thank goodness.  My weekend was pretty good. I went to a cookie exchange party on Sunday. I worked a few hours, which was no fun. And now it is monday. . . boo.
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    What if you have a boy? Does that mean he wants you to keep procreating until you have a girl? ;)

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    edited December 2011
    Both my mom and FI's mom are totally like this. FI and I refer to moments like you described as 'grandma moments.' I'm an only child, and FI's older brother is not going to have kids, so we are both of our families' only hopes! :-/ We're not even sure we want kids yet.

    My weekend was incredibly busy and I'm sooo ready to go home for the holidays.
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    thejucheideathejucheidea member
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    My parents couldn't care less. Tyler's parents, however, long for grandchildren, and his grandmother longs for great-grandchildren. They're not overbearing about it (to me at least).

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_mothers-babies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:265d85e5-b113-48c8-bc18-a96a9569299fPost:417efdc8-9240-4784-80f8-67dbf59f5d5f">Re: Mothers and Babies</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Mothers and Babies : Just tell him you are the new girl and he can dote on you :)
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    He does :) hehe 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_mothers-babies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:265d85e5-b113-48c8-bc18-a96a9569299fPost:417efdc8-9240-4784-80f8-67dbf59f5d5f">Re: Mothers and Babies</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Mothers and Babies : Just tell him you are the new girl and he can dote on you :)
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    He does :) hehe.
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    edited December 2011
    I'm fortunate that I haven't had those "looks" from either mine or FI's family. My mom wasn't all out ecstatic that I'm getting married (but not against it either, it's hard for my mom to get excited, lol) and FI has an older sister who just had a baby this past summer, so his mom's content for now.

    I think the only reason my mom's not in any big excitement is because she wants to make sure I finish college. She's already worried that getting married might make me drop out, and if that didn't, a baby definitely would. I have absolutely NO intentions of starting a family until I've graduated. Once I have, though, I'm sure mom will want some grandkids (and I know for a fact my grandmother would want great-grandkids).
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    cu97tigercu97tiger member
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    My parents already have two grandkids (one boy and one girl) but FI is an only child (basically, his half-sister and dad are out of the picture). FMIL would be thrilled to have a grandchild, but she doesn't bug us about it. I'm the one with baby fever! Every day I take my pre-natal vitamin (YAY!), then my pill (BOO).

    FI and I went to see our respective colleges play each other in basketball on Saturday. His team whooped up on mine, so it wasn't as fun as I was hoping. Then FI ran a half-marathon yesterday. We basically were away from home for 90% of the weekend, so I'm still tired and it's gray and rainy here. Feels like it should be naptime!
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    polkadot111polkadot111 member
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    haha funny. My mom is the same. The other day she told me, "Hey I will hang out with my grandbaby while you work!" MOM. I haven't even gotten pregnant yet. REALLY? She also asks me constantly, "So, how long until you get pregnant?" It's actually sort of sweet I think. It means she is at least excited about it.

    This weekend I spent sick and doing homework. I am still sick today and I am getting tired of it!!
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    Beth- I so feel your pain.  All I did all weekend was study too!  Bleh!
    Ely- Happy Birthday!!!!!!  Omg Happy birthday!!! Why did you go to church if you don't mind me asking?
    Elle- I am sorry you are sick :( I hope you feel better soon and have an awesome next weekend!
    Yaga- Glad I could make you laugh :)
    Bside- Sorry your mom isn't involved.  :( *hugs*  Sorry your weekend was bad too.  All these bad weekends suck!
    Jem- That sounds so nice but I admit I am little weirded out that his company paid for it... is that normal?
    Danser- Sorry your audition didn't go so well but I am glad the rest of your weekend was good!
    Coco- I use hope she doesn't move.  I think that would not be so fun lol.
    Lunar- That is the funny thing.  My youngest brother is 14.  Both of my brothers are still at home.  One would think that she would try to raise her children, but maybe she has giving up.  She is fighting a loosing battle with them.  YAYA for Christmas trees and baking!
    NCY- YAYA!
    cschino- What is it with parents and baby fever?  I just don't understand.  Glad your weekend was fine.

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    edited December 2011
    Haha that's is pretty funny. I love when people get baby fever. FI's parents are kind of the opposite. They traveled all over the US and Europe after they got married (IDK how they supported themselves or what they did about work!) and really want us to have an experience like that. Sorry, as much as I'd love that..it's not possible.
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    Opps I missed a few people while I was posting.
    Mooko- That must suck to have all that pressure of being the only hope!
    tiger- You are so funny.  :)  I am hoping for a mini tiger soon though.  AZ seems the place to be if you want to get prego!
    Hope- Well I am glad you like it lol.  I am sorry you are sick get better and good luck with finals!
    also Beth good luck with finals and anyone else who is a student with finals this week!

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_mothers-babies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:265d85e5-b113-48c8-bc18-a96a9569299fPost:8c34588c-5f9c-46c0-9711-a83b1dcd5f78">Re: Mothers and Babies</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Mothers and Babies : What if you have a boy? Does that mean he wants you to keep procreating until you have a girl? ;)
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    Probably. He really wants a girl. lol
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_mothers-babies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:265d85e5-b113-48c8-bc18-a96a9569299fPost:3537da1f-a40a-41c7-a783-59c88364ab83">Re: Mothers and Babies</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Mothers and Babies : Probably. He really wants a girl. lol
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    Just tell him you are the new girl and he can dote on you :)
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_mothers-babies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:265d85e5-b113-48c8-bc18-a96a9569299fPost:f41b5294-dd19-4525-91bf-7c6263919422">Re: Mothers and Babies</a>:
    [QUOTE]My mother gets the grandmother-fever occasionally, too.  When I was 18 she even mentioned that if I got accidentally pregnant, she'd "be mad for like an hour". <strong>I get it a lot less now, though, since I've told her that we may not ever have children at all and she'd better work on my brothers</strong>. My weekend was sucktastic.  I was sleep-deprived and fighting a sinus infection so I spent all of it trying (and failing) to sleep.  But we finally booked our ski trip (we leave on Saturday) so I'm supermegastoked about that.
    Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

    Ha I love this! We are the same way. Both my siblings have kids so I keep telling everyone that we don't want/need them as I spoil the niece and nephews like crazy. I have always told my mom that I don't want my own kids and she's cool with it but everyone else we tell they try and say "oh some day you'll change your mind and decide to have them" Doubt it since i've been saying this since high school!

     

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_mothers-babies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:265d85e5-b113-48c8-bc18-a96a9569299fPost:b6de0a01-34c4-4f35-9c28-f400967b569f">Re: Mothers and Babies</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>My mom has the opposite of baby fever. She has the opposite of wedding fever, too, which really bums me out :/</strong> FI's mom, though, I have no idea. She held a baby shower for a friend at her house yesterday and I hightailed it out of the room so fast I didn't even see her reaction (FI and I were there to pick something up and left just as the shower started. They were talking about c-sections; I thought I was going to throw up).   My weekend was blah. Had a nervous breakdown out of nowhere yesterday, that was fun. I'm looking forward to Friday already.
    Posted by bsidebella[/QUOTE]

    My mom is similar. She isn't a fan of weddings (says they are a waste of time and money) and she doesn't want me having kids until I'm married... however she has suggested a venue for me and has saved some "little things" for my future child. o_O

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    BF's mom can't wait for us to have kids. BF and I also really look forward to having kids. I need to stay away from babies because they make me feel like turning the factory on.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_mothers-babies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:265d85e5-b113-48c8-bc18-a96a9569299fPost:e11cebd1-b224-4dcc-9291-147d00029c74">Re: Mothers and Babies</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Mothers and Babies : Ha I love this! We are the same way. Both my siblings have kids so I keep telling everyone that we don't want/need them as I spoil the niece and nephews like crazy. I have always told my mom that I don't want my own kids and she's cool with it but everyone else we tell they try and say<strong> "oh some day you'll change your mind and decide to have them"</strong> Doubt it since i've been saying this since high school!
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    </div><div>I haaaaate when people tell me that.  Ugh.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_mothers-babies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:265d85e5-b113-48c8-bc18-a96a9569299fPost:9436f114-9f34-4d66-a779-3b3f80587ae0">Re: Mothers and Babies</a>:
    [QUOTE]Beth- I so feel your pain.  All I did all weekend was study too!  Bleh! <strong>Ely- Happy Birthday!!!!!!  Omg Happy birthday!!! Why did you go to church if you don't mind me asking?</strong> Elle- I am sorry you are sick :( I hope you feel better soon and have an awesome next weekend! Yaga- Glad I could make you laugh :) Bside- Sorry your mom isn't involved.  :( *hugs*  Sorry your weekend was bad too.  All these bad weekends suck! Jem- That sounds so nice but I admit I am little weirded out that his company paid for it... is that normal? Danser- Sorry your audition didn't go so well but I am glad the rest of your weekend was good! Coco- I use hope she doesn't move.  I think that would not be so fun lol. Lunar- That is the funny thing.  My youngest brother is 14.  Both of my brothers are still at home.  One would think that she would try to raise her children, but maybe she has giving up.  She is fighting a loosing battle with them.  YAYA for Christmas trees and baking! NCY- YAYA! cschino- What is it with parents and baby fever?  I just don't understand.  Glad your weekend was fine.
    Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Thanks! : ) ... I used to go to church when I was little and then my parents stopped going because of odd work hours, so I stopped obviously too, lol. I ended up going to church a few times with my BFF a few times when I was living at home after college and I just really love the atmosphere and it is just kind of peaceful and makes me feel good. So I decided that I want to start going to church again. This is the first one that we've checked out. We're going to see a few others before we pick "our church". FI is on board. He isn't a morning person, but he says he wants to go with me. He's pretty much the same way in that he hasn't been to church in years. He used to play in a church band though a few years ago (bass). So he's hoping he might be able to get back into that too. </div><div>
    </div><div>Sorry that was so long, lol. I couldn't explain earlier because I set up a "Stay Focused" extension on my Google Chrome and I was almost out of time. <strong>Thanks Yaga for that suggestion!! : )</strong>

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    raven - wierd that his company paid for the company holiday party?  Or were you referring to the massages?  Because no, they did not pay for those, it was a groupon I bought a few months ago.  They were unrelated, but just happened to be the same day.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_mothers-babies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:265d85e5-b113-48c8-bc18-a96a9569299fPost:d2ae5588-e43b-4ef9-a08d-8477184f3b82">Re: Mothers and Babies</a>:
    [QUOTE]BF's mom can't wait for us to have kids. BF and I also really look forward to having kids. I need to stay away from babies because <strong>they make me feel like turning the factory on.</strong>
    Posted by wink0erin[/QUOTE]

    <div>Haha, that's hilarious. I have to agree with you. I'll be ready way before FI to have babies. </div><div>
    </div><div>I'm concerned on how our moms will act once we do have a baby. It'll be a first grandchild for both of them. It'll be a miracle if the child isn't spoiled rotten. I've joked about having a baby now and giving it to FMIL just to try to avoid that a little, lol. My mom will be just as bad though. She's incapable of telling my cousin's kids "no". I told her she won't get away with that with our kids. She immediately told me that her grandma didn't listen to her, so she's not going to listen to me... in more or less words, lol.  </div>
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