Maybe you ladies might understand this, and I just want opinions, really. I know that it's a silly thing to fret over, but it has kind of been bugging me. Sorry it's so long!
I have been friends with a guy named Michael for going on 7 years now. We met through a church group (ugh) and spent years in the same town, hanging out, ya know. Friend stuff. I wrote him letters every day when he was in boot camp, we are very similar people, and we have leaned on each other for a long time when we've had life problems. We've never been involved with each other, always been friends with each others SO, it's a rare but truly JUST a friendship. Of course, as people begin to grow up and move, you lose contact, right? Over the last 3 years we have called and texted each other maybe once a month, kept up with what we were doing, and still confided major problems with each other. Drifting apart was both of our faults, and I am in no way angry about it.
I've been married and divorced. Even though I knew he couldn't come, I invited him, obviously as an extension of friendship. When finally left abusive ex, he listened to me on the phone for hours and gave advice. I've met his FI, we've had some good conversations, and never once has Michael said 'My FI is jealous, unsure, not cool with it, WHATEVER, we probably shouldn't talk' or anything of that nature. I a hundred and ten percent would have been okay with that.
NOW. Buildup over. They've been engaged, this I have known. They are getting married next month and not once has Michael mentioned it to me. I do not know if this is because they had planned on not inviting me and he didn't want my feelings to get hurt, or he's trying to put distance between us because he's getting married and I'm a girl, I'm just not really sure. It's a silly thing to worry over, and I'm still wondering if I should maybe call him on wedding day and say 'Hey, good luck, congrats' because I truly mean it, or if this would just make him feel bad for whatever reason. I've way overthought this and my BF has told me many times to just let it go. It's not gnawing at me, it's not keeping me up at night, I'm just wondering. Am I right to have my feelings a little hurt by someone I thought, even after drifting, was still a pretty good friend? Or is my definition of friend too loose now?