Stolen from SB: Relationship Poll

jorja86

Who has more power in your relationship? 

Which one of you married/dated up?

Who is the better spouse/partner?

If you could change one thing about your relationship, what would it be?

Your favorite thing about your relationship?

jorja86

This is a post and run, because I'm about to go to bed after working last night.

Who has more power in your relationship? 

I do. I feel bad admitting it, but it's true. I'm much more opinionated about most things, and he's so easy going, that I get my way about 99% of things. 

Which one of you married/dated up?

As far as looks/intelligence/education, we're pretty much even as far as I'm concerned. Financially, he will make a lot more money than me eventually, but right now, I do. I also stand to inherit a significant amount more than he does one day. I also feel like my family and background wins hands down. I was exposed to a lot more great things growing up than he was, and am definitely less naive/more informed about a lot of things. 

Who is the better spouse/partner?

He absolutely is. He puts up with so much ish from me. I kind of suck sometimes.

If you could change one thing about your relationship, what would it be?

The religion thing. I guess maybe his political leanings as well, but that is pretty much all rooted in his extremely conservative upbringing.

Your favorite thing about your relationship?

I am more myself around him than anyone else. He makes me laugh every single day, even when I'm in a terrible mood. He offers me more stability than I ever thought was possible for me. We want the same things in life.

Hummingbird125

Who has more power in your relationship? 

Definitely me :-) I usually get my way if I want to do something and he doesn't - or vice versa, but that's only because he's so good to me.

Which one of you married/dated up?

In the traditional sense, I think he would say he did, since he was basically unemployed when we met, and I had a pretty good job. In general though, I think I did too, because he is definitely better looking than I thought I could get! (And better in every other way too!)

Who is the better spouse/partner?

Definitely him. He puts up with my occasional moodiness and does whatever possible to make me happy. He makes me a better partner though, because I need to try to be as good to him as he is to me.

If you could change one thing about your relationship, what would it be?

I can't think of anything at the moment!

Your favorite thing about your relationship?

I love how we're always on the same page about things. We have the same sense of humor and similar expecations, and we're happy doing the same things. For instance, the other day friends of our were trying to get us to come out pretty late, but we had both had looong days and were feeling lazy. He whispers to me "Is there any way you'd rather just go home, watch a Mad Men, and play gin on our phones?" As boring as it was, that was exactly what I wanted to do at that moment!

Peaseblossom55

Who has more power in your relationship? 
I don't know I think me, BF is pretty easy going on most day to day things

Which one of you married/dated up?
not sure there

Who is the better spouse/partner?
I really can't say we both have good/bad that make the relationship work

If you could change one thing about your relationship, what would it be?
BF would procrastinate less

Your favorite thing about your relationship

Our sense of humor and how we can laugh and joke with each other.

loves2shop4shoes

Who has more power in your relationship? 

Umm...probably me, lol.

Which one of you married/dated up?

Well, I was certainly more financially priviledged growing up.  So, in that way, I guess he married up.  However, I really feel like I married up in terms of the family I'm entering into.  I feel so bad for FI for having to deal with my family for the rest of his life.

Who is the better spouse/partner?

Ummm...I think FI does a lot more obvious and outward things for me.  Like, he'll cook every day and do the dishes and clean and do laundry.  I'll text him I love him for no reason at all.  I perform a lot of sexual favors for no reason at all.  I'm very supportive of his job and I never judge him.  Things like that.

If you could change one thing about your relationship, what would it be?

I wish we'd hit the lottery already!

Your favorite thing about your relationship?

FI loves me unconditionally.

msuprincess04

Who has more power in your relationship?  I do. I'm the least decisive person on the planet, but if there anything I do want, I generally get it.

Which one of you married/dated up? I think we are about even. We are very different people in totally opposite ways. We compliment each other.

Who is the better spouse/partner? He is. He's the communicator always trying to get me to open up.

If you could change one thing about your relationship, what would it be? We'd be better roommates. Our place is always dirty and he's so passive-agressive about me cleaning!

Your favorite thing about your relationship? He makes me laugh.

cu97tiger

Who has more power in your relationship?

I think we're pretty equal. I'm more likely to back down about something, so the edge probably goes to DH.

Which one of you married/dated up?

Again, I feel like we're equal. I've got a master's, but he's equally as smart. He makes more money than me and he's got a better body than I do, that's for sure, so I'll give the edge to me on this one

Who is the better spouse/partner?

I am better at communicating my love to him. He is better at acting calm and rationally.

If you could change one thing about your relationship, what would it be?

I'd make us 10 years younger, so that we felt more comfortable just being married for a few years before TTC.

Your favorite thing about your relationship?

How much fun we have together. We make each other laugh every single day.

Elle1036

I know this is an old thread, but I'm jumping in anyway since TK decided it's apparently more important that the last several days of posts.  Plus, I'm bored.

Who has more power in your relationship? 
Honestly, probably him, but not in a bad way.  Between his school and his military stuff, most of our decisions about money, vacations, etc., seem to be ultimately his.  I guess it makes sense, though.  I have a lot more personal flexibility than he does right now.

Which one of you married/dated up?
Both of us in different ways.

Who is the better spouse/partner?
I am.  Duh.  I am awesome.

If you could change one thing about your relationship, what would it be?
I wish he'd started med school several years earlier so that we could be closer to real life right now.

Your favorite thing about your relationship?
We both have really "fun" spirits. We manage to have fun together every day.

Vintagelove4

Who has more power in your relationship? 
Most the time it's me, but it really depends on the situation.

Which one of you married/dated up?
He did. Someday he'll might make more then me but right now I'm ahead in that department. Also family wise he dated up. My family loves him to bits and my father treats him like a long lost son.... his family is, well, distant.

Who is the better spouse/partner?
That depends on the day! He usually is though because he puts up with me so much.

If you could change one thing about your relationship, what would it be?
In dream world here, I'd change the fact that we have to work and make it so that we're set for life. That way we could avoid financial headaches and just go travel the world.

Your favorite thing about your relationship?
That no matter what we go through, highs or lows, we are still in love. That and no matter what we're eachother's bestfriend.

leia1979

Who has more power in your relationship?
I do. Mostly it's a personality thing, but I try to keep it equal.

Which one of you married/dated up?
He would say he did. Yeah, I make more money and have maybe made some better decisions along the way, but I don't look at it that way.

Who is the better spouse/partner?
He is. He puts up with me, and I can be a pain in the ass at times.

If you could change one thing about your relationship, what would it be?
I would make him stop snoring. That's really it. I would be so happy if he wouldn't snore. I miss sleeping without earplugs.

Your favorite thing about your relationship?
H is super supportive of me, both in work and extra curricular activities, like all my dance rehearsals and shows. He is also always game to look at kitties at the animal shelter with me.