2 things

Blue & White

1) I'm super disturbed that 9-10 year olds are having BABIES.  And sex.  That's all.  holy crap.  I didn't even have my period then and didn't have a boyfriend until SIXTEEN!  What the heck is happening?

2) I was wondering from loopy's post, but didn't want to totally threadjack - how many of you would be okay with being a SAHW (stay-at-home-wife)?  Or SAHM (mom) once babies come into the picture.

Blue & White

My answers:
1) I'm obviously disturbed.  I don't know what I'm going to do if my kids grow up that fast.  Probably freak out. 

2) I never thought I'd want to be a SAH-anything, but now that I'm working only 3 days a week in the spring (I totally love being a college instructor), I could see how it'd be desirable once chidlers come around.  But I also hate relying on the BF to pay more rent than I do, so there's that too.  I think I'd be happy either way, so I'm not that picky.

AudgiePodge

1. I'm not going to wrap my pretty little head around that.

2. I've been a stay-at-home mom since my daughter was 6 months. She will be 4 in December. I love it and can't imagine it any other way.

Blue & White

audgiepodgie, I can't even think about it.  I'm really just venting on #1

CASK85

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[QUOTE]1) I'm super disturbed that 9-10 year olds are having BABIES.  And sex.  That's all.  holy crap.  I didn't even have my period then and didn't have a boyfriend until SIXTEEN!  What the heck is happening? 2) I was wondering from loopy's post, but didn't want to totally threadjack - how many of you would be okay with being a SAHW (stay-at-home-wife)?  Or SAHM (mom) once babies come into the picture.
Posted by Blue & White[/QUOTE]
1) I didn't even know that was physically possible. <div>
</div><div>2) I think I'd like to do it in theory. I like cooking and cleaning and taking care of my home (and kids, I'm assuming).  But I'm a little afraid I might get bored after awhile. </div>

PiSquared

1. I am also disturbed by the thought of 9 and 10 year olds having children. I would think that someone so young would not be prepared physically or emotionally to raise a child. What brought on that question? Is there a news story I missed?

2. Assuming finances were not an issue, I think at this point in my life that I would be happy being a SAHM, should I ever reproduce. If you asked me that question 5 years ago, I would have answered with a resounding no. I have a career and I enjoy my work, but I do find myself becoming more domesticated.

stemms8810

1)  My daughter is almost 4 years old and I am already terrified of having to deal with the issue of sex especially since kids are starting earlier.  Her dad swears he is going to put her on the depo shot when she is 12.  I used to think he was overacting but now I totally get it.  Very scary!

2)  I used to think I wouldn't want to be a SAHM because I wouldn't feel fulfilled or something if I didn't work but as my life is heading towards marriage and a home together I feel like I would enjoy being a SAHM.  I know this may or may not be possible.  Even working part time would be perfect for being able to spend extra time with the kids.

SeaTea02

1) I am super disturbed by the sex and babies, but it is possible. I was 9 when I got my period, but I wasn't even thinking about sex. gross.

2) I would consider it. How do you know if you have enough money though? What do you guys think is a good income for your spouse to have for that to work?

bethsmiles

1) I am disturbed as well. I got my period at 11 but I definitely wasn't thinking about having sex! Where are these children's parents?

2) I wouldn't be a SAHW. I want to have a career, but once kids come into the picture I would love to be a SAHM. I know that BF would be comfortable being a SAHD, so we are hoping that when we have children one of us will be at home with them. I'm very excited to have kids. Its the one part of the future that BF and I talk about more than anything else.

Wrkn925

1.) My half-sister is 12.  I fear for her everyday.  She wears skinny jeans, flat irons her hair and rolls her eyes so much I forgot what color they are.
She will be trouble, but her Mom keeps a pretty tight leash.  I'm crossing my fingers.

2.) I could do it with a part-time job, work from home, or have some kind of hobby that produced a small amount of income.  I feel like I would need something else, but who knows what the future could bring.

[Deleted User]

1. When you're that young, you have no idea what you're doing. How sad that we have to talk to kids about these things at such an early age. I was probably still grossed out about the idea of kissing a boy when I was 10!

2. I really don't think I could be a SAHW at all. I have a great respect for SAHMs, but I don't know if I could do that either. I do feel that it is important for one parent to be at home with the kid(s) at all times though...and so I would want my spouse to be onboard to share both home and work duties. Since I haven't had kids yet though...I suppose I'll have to wait to know how I truly feel about potentially being a SAHM. Who knows, things may change when the situation actually comes up.

StarGazingHiker

1- Oh wow... thats ridiculous and as a teacher, I know first hand how 9 and 10 year old boys and girls behave... its pretty bad sometimes! Makes you wonder what's causing it.

2- Finances willing, I plan on being a SAHM at least until the munchkins are old enough for school, then I'll go back to work. The wonderful thing about being a teacher and soon to be school psychologist is that I'll have the same schedule as the kids so it'll be good! But we definitely plan on me being a SAHM as long as we can afford it.

ToTheMoonAlice

This is the article you're referring to, yes? I heard some rumors that supposedly the girl is older than 10 (more like 15) but nothing's been confirmed yet. I think it might just be a rumor.

deburnin

1.) I didn't have my first BF till 17. The middle school in my town had a bunch of horror stories like this while my sister was there. Three kids were caught having a threesome in the bathroom during a school dance. Students weren't allowed to use the restrooms without a hall monitor accompanying them and only X amount of bathrooms were open for the entire year. It seems to have died down (or I could just not being hearing about it since none of my siblings are in the school anymore).

2.) Just being a stay at home wife/mom would drive me insane. I like getting out and I enjoy my job. That being said I would like to have the ability to only work part-time and focus on writing again.

jemmini6

1)  You have to wonder where the parents are.  Even if I was physically capable (ie had my period) of having sex at that age, I was not interested and my parents never would have let that happen.

2)  SAHW?  No, there is definitely not enough at my house to keep me occupied and I would be bored out of my mind.  SAHM?  I'd like to for at the very least 3 months, maybe 6 months to a year, then we'll reconsider based on how the first few months were as well as our financial situation.

leia1979

1) Seriously, I heard on the news about the 9 or 10 year old in Spain. That would not have even been physically possible until I was 12 and a half! I never kissed a boy until I was 18.

2) I would not want to be a SAH-whatever. We don't want kids, and I'd be bored. Also, I earn more than FI, so that just wouldn't work. When we adopt furbabies, I would like to take vacation or work from home for awhile to help them adjust to their new home.

loopy82

I never thought I would be able to be at a SAH anything either. I was always - I will always work. I couldn't sit home. It would drive me crazy. I have grown accustomed to it. What can I say. I would prefer a job. A job I like. I would prefer to stay home than to go to a job that I hate and despise. Some days DH likes me at home, some days I think he wishes I was working.

musikbx

It's hard to say this definitively because life and circumstances change. However, I've focused so long and hard on my career, I don't imagine I'd give it up (voluntarily.)  

Even when Babby is formed ;-)

GreenPepperBurger

1) I got my period when I was 11. Looking back, I'm still kind of horrified that my body had deemed itself ready to have babies at that age. I'm still not ready to have a baby. E-Gads.

2) This has gotten me in trouble on some other boards, but I could never be a SAHW. I'd feel bad about not contributing to the household while my husband went to work. Also, I know myself. I would probably sit on my ass watching television or going online rather than say, cleaning the house or preparing a meal. I'm very career and goal oriented. As for being a SAHM, I don't think I could do that either. I might take a break from work for a year or two and stay home with my child, or try to arrange it so that I could work from home some of the time. I don't think I could never not work. But let me pop a kid out and then I'll get back to you.

MidniteRae

Josh and I joke that I am a SAHGF(Stay at home girlfriend) while I have been looking for a job. I hate it. My depression and anxiety have gotten worse.  I honestly don't think I could ever be a SAHM or a SAHW. I woulod rather be working all day. I am one of those people who always need something to do. Josh would love to SAH.

mookow86

1) Disturbing. Didn't even kiss a boy until I was in college.

2) I don't think I could do either, after spending a bajillion years in school, and paying a bajillion dollars to do so. BF jokes about being a SAHD all the time, and I think he would be really good at it. My mom quit work until I was in school, and I definitely think it's important that either BF or I do at least that if we have kids someday.

PaigeMcC

1) Gross.

2) I WANT TO SO BAD! I'm not even kidding.  FBD and I have discussed that IF we make enough then I can be a SAHM at least for the first few years of our kids lives.  I wouldn't want to be a SAHW because I'd be bored...but with kids to play with I'd be okay.

MeganAngela

1) I had "boyfriends" at a young age (i.e. middle school, first kiss at 12), but I would have NEVER let my "boyfriend" talk me into having sex!  I don't understand WHY these kids want to outside of the hormones.  I mean, be a kid while you can!  Stuff like this is why FI and I have decided that we are going to home-school our kids.  We don't want them in this kind of fast-paced environment too early before we can set good rules and boundaries.

2) FI and I have already decided I'm going to be a SAHW/SAHM.  His job doesn't make him a ton of money, but he is old school and it is how his parents are.  We live within our means, so we know it can be done.  If we really need the money, I'll be more than happy to go get a job (FI has insisted that it only be part-time if anything).  He's offered to get a second job and that does leave me feeling bad at times, but it is something he feels very strongly about.  I'm the type of person that I'm a homebody anyway, so I can ALWAYS find something to do at home.  Plus, I enjoy cooking and cleaning and keeping things in order.  FI also sees it as an opportunity for me to continue following my dreams unhindered (I want to be a writer).  We also both feel really strongly about having a parent in the home at all times.  His mom was at home with him, but I was a latch key kid that started taking care of my younger siblings alone at 9 years old.  We don't want our kids to have the life I had.  That is really important to us.

Elle1036

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[QUOTE]1) I'm super disturbed that 9-10 year olds are having BABIES.  And sex.  That's all.  holy crap.  I didn't even have my period then and didn't have a boyfriend until SIXTEEN!  What the heck is happening? 2) I was wondering from loopy's post, but didn't want to totally threadjack - how many of you would be okay with being a SAHW (stay-at-home-wife)?  Or SAHM (mom) once babies come into the picture.
Posted by Blue & White[/QUOTE]

1.  I was 18 the first time I kissed a guy.  I realize that's really late by most standards, but I think that 9 or 10 is way to young to even be kissing people.

2.  I really want to be a SAHW who doesn't stay at home.  The simple fact is that BF is a lot more career-oriented than I am.  He knows exactly what he's going to do and has had enough experience already to know that he will love it.  Me, on the other hand?  I have no problem working full-time now, but the idea of doing one thing for 40+ hours per week for the rest of my life?  That gives me panic attacks.  I have a ton of widely-varied interests, and I want nothing more than to have the time and money to be able to explore those.

Growing up, I always thought I wanted to be a career woman.  It just made sense for someone who's smart and independent.  I've only recently realized that I can be smart, independent, and have skills without having any serious career aspirations.  I'm just so thankful to have found someone whose goals line up so perfectly with mine.

Blue & White

PiSquared, It's been in the news a lot lately related to teens hitting puberty crazy early (all sorts of theories - antibiotics, etc.) but the local news total said a 10 year old here just had a kid.  a ten year old.  Holy moly.

rllevy

1) duh, and I bet they're married too. I mean, don't you realize that 50 years ago people tottttally got married at like, 9 or 10 and started poppin' out the puppies? That is why my 3 month relationship with my pre-teen boyfriend is OK, duhs! we is in luvz, k thx bai!

(/sarcasm)

In honesty, it makes me very sad... having a kid that young will statistically ruin your life, and no one who is that young can consent to wanting to have sex/make babies.


2) I don't plan to be a SAHM, but if we do have kids, my FH is probably going to be a SAHD. He is an adjunct professor, so he typically teaches from 6pm to 9pm or during the day from, like, 10am to 1pm. He also does design work out of his home office. when I'm home (like this week, yay!) I usually leave the house around 6am and get home around 7pm. And this is the first week since August that I am home all week... which also means cramming 6 months worth of appointments (doctor, dentist, mechanic, etc) into one week.

My paycheck is also quite a bit larger than his, and I get benefits (health, life, dental, vision) from work. Oh, and he loves kids. I am more than happy to have them, but I'm not really super into them. Plus, I am extremely type A and am terrified of messing up/failing to do a good job raising my kids.

MLekathLEEN

1.) I don't even want to think about that

2.) I would LOVE to be a SAHM. My mom worked full time until I was 10. I don't feel like she missed out on things but I just feel like I should be home with my kids at least until school age. Maybe I'd find some type of work to do from home or work on my masters so my career isn't completely laying stagnant for 5+ years but who knows.

Beads921

1) 10 year old should not be having sex. At 10, I wasn't even thinking about sex. Boys were cute, but they had cooties, so it was best to keep your distance.

2) I know I couldn't be a SAHW, even if my partner made enough to support us. I'd just be too bored all the time. A SAHM I could do, and want to do. But only until my children are all in full time school. I just need to get out of the house on a regular basis or else I go nuts.

calindi

1) Yikes

2) I'd love to be a SAHM, but not a SAHW.  I'd get too bored!  That said, I don't think I ever plan on not working - just working from home on a flexible schedule.  I plan to open my own consulting business in a few years once I get my MBA, and that will enable me to work from anywhere and take on as many clients as my schedule allows.  My Mom stayed home with my brother and me until he started 1st grade, and then she went back to work part time.  By 3rd grade, my Mom was working full time and my Dad owned his own business so he'd be at home in the afternoons.  At that point, I could have gone to daycare and not cared.  But I don't want someone else influencing my children more than their parents, so until he starts school at least I want to be home with them.