A wonderful hint

pinkcottoncandy7

Hey Ya'll! So BF works at Barnes and Nobles and bought me the Ultimate Wedding Planning kit. So excited...we kinda have a time in mind and of course we are madly in love....just venting I guess on the whole cart before the horse. Just hoping the proposal doesn't feel anti-climatic. LOL! What do you guys think?

palmettogirl924

I don't understand, what do you want me to comment on/about? How would I know if it's "anti-climatic"... that would depend on what has happened BEFORE the proposal. ie: have you talked about it, pushed  him into proposing, shopped for rings, talked an exact date, etc. Him buying you a wedding planning kit does not equal proposal.

Yes, it is a little cart before the horse, if you will, but maybe he bought it for the future, or perhaps just because he thought you would enjoy it.

msjenna519

misskrysbaby

Yeah buying a book like that means he's thinking about marriage and a future wedding (it seems like you guys have talked about it recently, so buying a planning book fits) but not that a proposal is imminent. No cart before the horse here, as msjenna said, you are allowed to talk about marriage and wedding stuff before a proposal.

SeaTea02

Just don't use it yet! That is cart before horse. 

BF got me a wedding planning kit from Target... several months ago. It was on sale for like $4. It doesn't have to be anti climatic. This was many many months ago and it has lived under my bed ever since.  

mzm153

I'd just enjoy reading the book and the relationship, but not expect a proposal so soon. But it is most likely to come.

loves2shop4shoes

*Footstomp!*

Sorry, that was my expression of the day.  Carry on.

desertsun

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wonderful-hint?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:30584ab0-7f71-4d97-a718-ac9e2f073abdPost:5c11fae3-a0c1-4e87-bc53-3ffbf8779489">Re: A wonderful hint</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: A wonderful hint : This. Do not fill it out, until you Both consider yourselves to be engaged. As wise other posters have said before me, <strong>"wedding planning" is not very difficult.  It takes little to no time to just call a vendor and book them.  The difficulties are: dealing with family members and friends who create drama</strong>, and have made huge assumptions about what your wedding will be like, are trying to live vicariously through you, have some deep-seated issues with their own romantic relationships or lack thereof and somehow take it out on you, are inconsiderate of you, etc......Too bad they don't make a book for THEM.  (Or I guess they do - etiquette books...) In all seriousness, <strong>I think that is a sweet gesture , but as is the general consensus of this board - wait until you are actually engaged, to actually plan.  It'll be here soon enough!</strong>
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stemms8810

I don't think that will make your proposal anti-climatic.  My BF told me there will be a proposal and even said maybe he shouldn't have said that because it ruins the surprise.  But I told him I don't know where, when and how he will do it so it didn't ruin it at all!  Like someone else said, it doesn't necessarily mean it will be really soon.  I think it was very thoughtful your BF thought of you and bought it for you.  Just don't use it yet.  That is what your engagement is for!

calindi

Eh, most of us have talked to our boyfriends extensively about engagement, weddings, marriage, children before he ever proposes.  Most girls have at least a vague idea when the proposal is coming, as there has already been discussions on when they'd want to get married and perhaps even looking at rings together.  I don't think him buying you a book is at all going to make it anti-climactic.  I do agree that you should put it on a shelf until you're engaged, though.

I can't imagine anything making the proposal anti-climactic.  It's when you're formally agreeing and publically announcing your intention to marry.  That's a pretty special thing!

[Deleted User]

i also agree that it won't make anything anti-climatic!  it will also be a lot of fun to actually bring the book out once you're engaged.  i've just been using a binder, and sometimes i wish i had a pretty book or something to keep all my wedding stuff in.

additionally...  it's not the wedding planning that's hard, but like PPs have said...  it's the family and friends and their opinions.  ugh!! 

remember to enjoy the last few days/weeks/months of dating.  once the engagement happens, it'll be like a whirlwind.  the anticipation and suspense will be over...  so just enjoy now while it lasts! 

pinkcottoncandy7

 Thanks guys, so true. I am enjoying the courtship.  I def haven't pressured him at alll. We haven't looked at rings either, but of course we talk about what we see for our future.  We live in a close knit community and come from big families, so yeah the opinions are already free flowing.  I think you are right about it not being anti-climatic.  Thanks, ya'll.