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Reflecting on 2010...

Hey all.  Just had some thoughts about 2010 and I thought I'd share.  After FI and I watched the ball drop last night, I was thinking about all of the things that had happened in 2010.  FI and I had some really high highs, like getting engaged, moving into an apartment together, and getting a dog.  We also had some really low lows, like the suicide of our friend and the toll of law school on our relationship.

It makes me so sad that Tyler couldn't have been here with us to celebrate a new year.  He should have been there with us, sitting on the sofa, making some comment about a slutty girl he knew who could "suck start a leaf blower".  He was so funny and brilliant.  I really miss him.  I guess the grieving process is supposed to be a really long one.

As hard as Tyler's death was (and still is for me), I'm really glad I have FI.  He truly is my very best friend and I'm very lucky to have him.  He puts up with my shiit.  He  is always there for me.  He never judges me.  He treats me like a queen.  He hugs me and strokes my hair when I cry and laughs with me when something is funny. 

If you'd told me last year at this time everything that would have happened this year, I would've never believed it.  But I'm glad I have FI by my side for all of the surprises that will inevitably come my way.

Sorry for the rambling, mushy post.  It was just what was on my mind.  I hope 2011 has good surprises for all of you.  You're all wonderful women and I'm glad to be a part of NEY with you.

Re: Reflecting on 2010...

  • edited December 2011
    2010 was a big year for me too. I decided to take a chance on a relationship with someone who was my best friend. Now he's the love of my life and I know we're going to be together forever.

    I also moved 750 miles away from BF. And at that point we were only four months into our relationship. I wouldn't say it was the ideal situation, but it has worked for us.

    I hope everyone had a great NYE!
  • marleylikeairmarleylikeair member
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    edited December 2011
    Shoes and Coffee, nice to read your thoughts.

    Come to think of it, 2010 was a pretty amazing year for me, too! My BFF got married, I met BF, I ended a relationship with a guy who wasn't the right guy, I took a stand and drew boundaries with my crazy mom, took a chance on a job in another state, fell in love, moved halfway across the country, and started a whole new life. And got a part in Into the Woods.

    Whew. I need a nap. Laughing
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_reflecting-2010?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:31a7b53d-fed4-436c-8362-957fc5c25361Post:e021e02b-e7f1-4ff6-96d7-c6928a08c3d3">Re: Reflecting on 2010...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Shoes and Coffee, nice to read your thoughts. Come to think of it, 2010 was a pretty amazing year for me, too! My BFF got married, I met BF,<span style="font-weight:bold;"> I ended a relationship with a guy who wasn't the right guy</span>, I took a stand and drew boundaries with my crazy mom, took a chance on a job in another state, fell in love, moved halfway across the country, and started a whole new life. And got a part in Into the Woods. Whew. I need a nap.
    Posted by marleylikeair[/QUOTE]

    Oh yeah. I forgot to add that. I finally moved on from my ex. He was my first real love and despite the fact that he treated me like crap, I believed I was supposed to be with him. The day I started dating BF he texted me a picture of a ring (not my style ring either) and told me he was proposing. Ha. He messaged me a couple months ago to apologize for hurting. It was his way of trying to lure me back in, but I just told him what a loser he was and went about my business.
  • edited December 2011
    Shoes,
    Thanks for sharing. It really made me sitback and think about all I have to be thankful for. I graduated with a degree in both Biology and Spanish (it was a small miracle that i graduated on time), and after 12 years of working so hard, got accepted into medical school, and now am fortunate enough to have a choice amongst several. Last but not least, BF and I got through a little rough spot and are stronger than ever. I am so thankful for his support and willingness to move to whatever city I chose to attend medical school.

    2011 is gonna be even beter, I'm thinking curing cancer, I'm thinking engagment ponies, I'm thinking lots and lots of cupcakes.

    Coffee, way to go, I was in a similar relationship a few years ago and I don't know if I could have been as strong as you.
  • marleylikeairmarleylikeair member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_reflecting-2010?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:31a7b53d-fed4-436c-8362-957fc5c25361Post:9eef0962-f29a-48e4-86ef-05cb03e96ebc">Re: Reflecting on 2010...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Reflecting on 2010... : Oh yeah. I forgot to add that. I finally moved on from my ex. He was my first real love and despite the fact that he treated me like crap, I believed I was supposed to be with him. The day I started dating BF he texted me a picture of a ring (not my style ring either) and told me he was proposing. Ha. He messaged me a couple months ago to apologize for hurting. It was his way of trying to lure me back in, but <strong>I just told him what a loser he was and went about my business.</strong>
    Posted by CoffeeBean330[/QUOTE]

    Good job! Glad you washed your hands of that dude, he definitely does not sound good enough for you. Mine was a really, really good guy, so I felt terrible breaking it off, but I just wasn't truly in love with him, so it was for the best in the end.
  • deburnindeburnin member
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    edited December 2011
    *hugs* to Shoes.

    I'm pretty much in fvck 2010 mood. I lost two family members to suicide (my uncle killed himself NYE. That still hasn't really sunk in yet). It's kind of blocking out all the good that happened this past year...
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_reflecting-2010?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:31a7b53d-fed4-436c-8362-957fc5c25361Post:fd6e8f80-4d9b-4db1-a2ac-b0108a7e2ae1">Re: Reflecting on 2010...</a>:
    [QUOTE]*hugs* to Shoes. I'm pretty much in fvck 2010 mood. I lost two family members to suicide (my uncle killed himself NYE. That still hasn't really sunk in yet). It's kind of blocking out all the good that happened this past year...
    Posted by deburnin[/QUOTE]

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  • Beads921Beads921 member
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    edited December 2011
    2010 was a year of great change for me, too. I took a chance on a job which turned out to be amazing, and opened so many more doors throughout the year. I got out of a terrible housing/roommate situation, which although it was a hard thing to do, I don't regret for a second. I worked my ass off both professionally and as a student, and experienced great personal growth because of it. BF and I moved in together and started the next chapter of our lives. And right near the end of the year, I put my ass on the line, and I found out I got hired on for a double work term beginning in May at what could be a dream job. Because of that, I know I'll be in this city for at least another year and a half, and it's a great feeling to have stability. 2010 ended really well, after a kind of crappy/boring fall, so here's hoping 2011 keeps getting better.

    Shoes, I'm so sorry about your loss, and I completely understand how it feels. It sucks, hardcore, but it will get better. Best wishes for this new year!
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_reflecting-2010?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:31a7b53d-fed4-436c-8362-957fc5c25361Post:fd6e8f80-4d9b-4db1-a2ac-b0108a7e2ae1">Re: Reflecting on 2010...</a>:
    [QUOTE]*hugs* to Shoes. I'm pretty much in fvck 2010 mood. I lost two family members to suicide (my uncle killed himself NYE. That still hasn't really sunk in yet). It's kind of blocking out all the good that happened this past year...
    Posted by deburnin[/QUOTE]

    <div>Oh deburnin, I'm so so sorry!  I'm here if you want to talk.  You're always welcome to PM me too.  BIG HUG.</div>
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