Best Man walking MOH or waiting by groom?

pomundson0

I see a lot of questions about the procession, I'm just curious on your opinion of this.  my FI wants to walk his mom down the aisle to her seat (we aren't doing ushers).  My nephew will be walking my mom, and we were planning on having the Best Man walk with the MOH, everyone in pairs, down the aisle. His mom is insistant that the Best Man is supposed to be up waiting next to the groom while everyone walks in, or at least he can escort her (the Best Man is his stepdad).  We were thinking it would be a special moment for my FI to walk his mom but she is saying she doesn't want to take away from our day and our ceremony, but we think it'd be a nice gesture to show she's included. We of course don't want to force her to do anything she doesn't want but in the end, she knows we are't exactly traditional and it drives her up the wall   What say you all to whether the Best Man is supposed to walk with the MOH or escort his wife (the mother of the groom), or already be waiting up at the altar?  Thanks in advance!

MairePoppy

Which ever way you want to do it will be fine. But I have another option, just to add to your confusion : ) Or it might satisfy everyone.

 Your fi's parents can both escort him down the aisle. MOG would take her seat and  
 Step-dad/best man would continue to the altar with the groom
 
 Bridesmaids and Groomsmen
 
 Flower girls and ring bearers
 
 MOH, by herself
 
You, escorted by both your parents.

DramaGeek

We did exactly what you're discussing - H escorted his mom, BM escorted MOH.  It worked out great and it was a really sweet moment between H and his mom when they got to her seat.

If she doesn't want her son to escort her then I guess you have to honor that (even though I think it's kind of crappy) but I can assure you/her that it in no way takes away from the day.  In fact, I think it adds to it.

pomundson0

thanks for the ideas, ladies!

My main concern with all the girls having an escort down the aisle is it's an outside wedding, on pavement, but there are stairs (no handrail) down into the ceremony site.  I would feel HORRIBLE if there was a misstep because someone was anxious and I figured having someone to walk with them would be helpful. I know my knees act up from time to time, I wouldn't want to have to walk down them alone!

Drama Geek- I think it adds to it too  I'm glad to hear someone else did this!

DramaGeek

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[QUOTE]thanks for the ideas, ladies! My main concern with all the girls having an escort down the aisle is it's an outside wedding, on pavement, but there are stairs (no handrail) down into the ceremony site.  I would feel HORRIBLE if there was a misstep because someone was anxious and I figured having someone to walk with them would be helpful. I know my knees act up from time to time, I wouldn't want to have to walk down them alone! ;) Drama Geek- I think it adds to it too :)  I'm glad to hear someone else did this! :)
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Honestly, I can't think of a wedding where the groom DIDN'T escort his mom!

acaponi87

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[QUOTE]thanks for the ideas, ladies! My main concern with all the girls having an escort down the aisle is it's an outside wedding, on pavement, but there are stairs (no handrail) down into the ceremony site.  I would feel HORRIBLE if there was a misstep because someone was anxious and I figured having someone to walk with them would be helpful. I know my knees act up from time to time, I wouldn't want to have to walk down them alone! ;) Drama Geek- I think it adds to it too :)  I'm glad to hear someone else did this! :)
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If your MOH is okay with it than I wouldn't worry (which it sounds like she'd prefer to walk by herself). I had a long aisle with not-always-even stones and steps and was also worried about my MOH. She did a trial run in her shoes beforehand and everything worked out fine and she walked by herself.