Homesick

[Deleted User]

I don't know why, of all days, that I am feeling so homesick today.  I mean I feel more depressed than I ever have in my life.  I'm sure it has something to do with the fact that I'm having a rough day at work, which is making me miss my old job back home..  And also, I talked to my brother this weekend and it absolutely killed me when I heard my nephews and niece in the background... Before I moved, I didn't go a week without seeing them and now it's been since the end of April.  I'm just hardcore missing my friends and family today and the way things are going I probably won't be visiting until we go up for Christmas.

So...to those of you who have relocated away from your family and friends, how do you get through days like this??

nottheonlydreamer44

Sorry to hear about the homesickness, Jeter. I am not away from my family at all (never have been) but that is why I don't think I could do it. You are a strong woman and just think how much more grateful you'll be everytime you see them! Plus you have an excuse to get out of town any time you want

Sorry about your bad day at work, honey :::hugs::::

[Deleted User]

Thanks dream - Moving away is something I had always wanted to do,but when it came down to it I never thought I'd actually do it.  It has it's pros and cons.  I know I've grown ALOT as a person since I've moved away, but I certainly miss the comforts of knowing my friends and family were just around the block...

Starlight Kel

Hi Jeter, how long have you been away from home?  I ask that because when I moved to FL from OH for the first 6-9 months all I wanted to do was go home. Once I started making a life where I am now and it got SO much better.  When I go back to visit it doesn't feel like home anymore.  I still get depressed from time to time, but it goes away eventually.  I have nieces and nephews too and whenever I leave after seeing them it's like my heart is being ripped out.
I think it would help you to keep yourself busy and find stuff/ people in your area. 

heyimbren

When I first moved away, I don't think I was totally ready for all of it. I was super homesick for about 2 weeks. After that, I just kind of threw myself into my new life. I kept myself constantly busy, and made little goals for myself so I was always work towards something (even if it was just "write 4 pages of your essay and then watch that movie with your friends!"). It really did help.

However, as soon as my "new life" started to fall apart basically, all I ever wanted to do was go home again. I'm no help with this part because I did end up going home.

But I would e-mail my sister a lot when I missed her. It was better than phoning for me, because phoning would make me feel way too homesick at times but I still had regular contact with her.

[Deleted User]

Kel - I moved at the end of April and haven't been back to visit yet.  I actually had been doing just fine and not really homesick at all until recently..  I'm sure it doesn't help that the only person (other than co-workers) that I know here is my FI.  We haven't made any new friends or anything so it's been a bit rough.  I love him to pieces, but it would be nice to have friends to hang out with and do things with.

bren - I couldn't even imagine what I would do if things fell apart here - I am pretty certain I'd do just what you did and move back...

Hazel_B

My family is 7 hours away from me and I've been moved away for over 5 years.

I'll be honest, for me, the homesickness has never gone away. I mainly try to distract myself and do something I enjoy where I live Otherwise, doing something "homeish" will just upset me more. That being said, something it is good to cry about it. I am the only one not within 2 hours and I get left out of a lot of things.

heyimbren

Jeter, I really hope things don't fall apart for you! Honestly, I think my situtaion there with things turning sour was just because it was first year university in residence. Nothing more than that. That's the only time I ever moved away and now I'm back at home. I may move again in a couple years, but we'll see.

Was it a permanent move for you then? Some people just don't like to move away, and others love it. BF's family is constantly all over the country, but mine has pretty much grown roots back home lol.

[Deleted User]

Hazel - I have a feeling parts of the homesickness will never go away for me either.  And yes, I think a good cry may just be in order LOL

bren - I moved down here for FI.  I don't know if I'd say it's "permanent" because there is a possibility that we'd move back towards home (his family is actually from the same area) and we've talked about the future and we've already agreed that when we have children and they are school-years age we do not want to send them to any school around here - so at that time we may be looking to moving back there. 

citygirllovescountryboy

Oh Jeter, I am so sorry, I feel partially responsible with my gushing about my family coming to visit! I know exactly how you feel. Mostly when I start feeling homesick, boyfriend notices and distracts me immediately, but when he isn't around I have a good cry and then I just do something that would remind me of my family, but not so much that I stay depressed. Like put in a movie that I know me and my sister would love watching together. Plus we text like crazy. I like texting better because when I hear the change in their tones as I am getting off the phone it breaks my heart. I hope you get through this and sounds like your FI is definitely helping! Things will get better, it never goes away, but it does get better. Talk to me anytime!

[Deleted User]

Yes, FI does help alot - in fact he just texted me and said he went and bought my me favorite cheese and a bottle of Jack Daniels.  LOL  What a good man I have.

bethsmiles

I usually call my best friend and chat with her for a long time, get caught up on all the small town gossip. Sometimes I call my mom or dad, but I'm not super close to them.

babybchbum

JETER.... ::HUGS::

it can be tough sometimes but man does it make it a million times better when you go home to visit. Just remember There will be some annoyances that happen when you home for a visit that remind you why you moved away!

PS. you have a PM

aperitisa

Skype helps me TONS when I was homesick while I lived abroad.  Being able to see my family while I talked to them made things SO much better.  And writing letters!  Like actual paper and pencil letters.  I started this with a friend in Greece and it was so much fun to look forward to!  

PaigeMcC

*HUGS*  You can do eeeeeet!!

I lived away from home for 4 years.  I got back to visit but I was always homesick a little.  It comes and goes and sometimes it's worse than others.  You and FI should go out and make some friends! Take a class together - cooking, wine tasting, etc.  Meet some new people...it really helps to have some more friends around;)

[Deleted User]

beth - I need to do that...I tend to get so busy in life that I forget to call my best friend. 

BBB - You're so right!  I'm sure when I go back to visit I'll be like "Boy it's nice to live so far away and not have to deal with this family drama everyday..."  Hah.  Checking my PMs now..!

aper - Skype!  How did that slip my mind?!  I shall do that soon...

Paige - Yes...we desperately need to get out and make friends.  Although, one of his co-workers invited us over for dinner this Saturday night with him and his wife, so we'll see how it goes...

citygirllovescountryboy

Cheese and Jack Daniels?? Hopefully you didnt combine those two...not gonna lie the two together doesn't sound very appetizing. But that is exactly what I am talking about. I was PMSing the other day and boyfriend just randomly bought me chocolate covered pretzels. Totally something my mom would do for me. So having him here makes it just like home.

[Deleted User]

Honey, in my book, ANYTHING goes with Jack.

heyimbren

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_homesick?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:3bc67d27-d298-45b3-ab2f-15b7c5b21bc7Post:d0ff5298-a065-48a9-b4b7-f247338c0b48">Re: Homesick</a>:
[QUOTE]Honey, in my book, ANYTHING goes with Jack.
Posted by Soon2BMrsJeter[/QUOTE]

I was just going to say that anything goes with cheese.

MLekathLEEN

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_homesick?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:3bc67d27-d298-45b3-ab2f-15b7c5b21bc7Post:1c2054fa-7e03-41e6-b5f1-f75f3ea307f5">Re: Homesick</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Homesick : I was just going to say that anything goes with cheese.
Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]

THIS.