Thanksgiving Vents

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First, a belated Happy Thanksgiving to all!!

So, I'm sure we've all got em... Let's here the vents from yesterday's festivities...

I'll go first... Is it absolutely necessary that while my mother makes a HUGE spread of food, she has to tell us all how fat we are and how we need to lose weight?? lol She only does this to me and my uncle, mind you... the 2 people she knows gets the most heated when she does it lol and God forbid I don't JUMP clear out of my seat to wash the one dish that was in the sink because I felt like a double stuffed turkey! lol

All in all it was a good day though... Quiet (for the most part)...

Who's next??

CvilleClaire

The only thing that annoys me is how the TV MUST be tuned to the stupid Disney Channel all day for the little children.  They watch too much TV.  Would it be too much to put on some music or something that's only on once per year (the parade?  the dog show? a Thanksgiving special?). 

Future SIL just announced that her child paused whatever they were watching when there was a phone call so she wouldn't miss anything.

Great.  Your child is so considerate.  He's a TV watching zombie, but he's considerate.

SeaTea02

My mother wants my sisters and I do jump out immediately after dinner and do dishes. Like we can't sit down and talk at the table for a few minutes an digest a bit. It drives me bananas. If we don't jump up she will start to clear it with this look on her face, even after we ask her to stop and sit down. She is by no means a neat person, she is actually very messy... so I don't get it.

Also today I have to go to BF's hometown with his brother, his girlfriend, and mother. I should be writing a paper. Instead, I get to drive 1.5 hours each way to paint a tile and eat lunch.

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[QUOTE]The only thing that annoys me is how the TV MUST be tuned to the stupid Disney Channel all day for the little children.  They watch too much TV.  Would it be too much to put on some music or something that's only on once per year (the parade?  the dog show? a Thanksgiving special?).  Future SIL just announced that her child paused whatever they were watching when there was a phone call so she wouldn't miss anything. Great.  Your child is so considerate.  He's a TV watching zombie, but he's considerate.
Posted by CvilleClaire[/QUOTE]

Whatever happened to children playing with each other and not using the TV as a babysitter?? When my cousins and I were young we played all day together and weren't allowed near the table while the adults were talking and they didn't rely on the TV to keep us busy...  I don't get it!

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[QUOTE]<strong>My mother wants my sisters and I do jump out immediately after dinner and do dishes. Like we can't sit down and talk at the table for a few minutes an digest a bit.</strong> It drives me bananas. If we don't jump up she will start to clear it with this look on her face, even after we ask her to stop and sit down. She is by no means a neat person, she is actually very messy... so I don't get it. Also today I have to go to BF's hometown with his brother, his girlfriend, and mother. I should be writing a paper. Instead, I get to drive 1.5 hours each way to paint a tile and eat lunch.
Posted by SeaTea02[/QUOTE]

exactly! the dishes arent going anywhere!

The other part of it that really annoys me is that after she asked me I turned BF and I said "hunnyyyy... can you wash the dish?"  I was teasing him but he moved to get up right away and my mother started screaming... "NO! You're not going to make him wash the dishes! It's not his job!!"  Really, Mom? and why isn't it his job?? because I'm the woman and that automatically makes me his slave!?  That's just not how it works in our relationship...

CvilleClaire

We are now watching Nick Jr.  I would rather be standing in line at a Best Buy right now.

GreenPepperBurger

BF's mom "stresses" out about the tiniest things. It's really annoying. We ate at my house (since my family eats more like a lunch) then went later to their house, where they hadn't eaten yet. I already knew I wasn't going to eat another meal, but I figured BF would. As soon as we walk in the door, she goes, "you guys aren't eating another meal here, right, I'm really stressing out about it."

Wrkn925

I'm being a tad selfish.

My Dad's extended family decided not to exchange gifts this year.  We usually draw names and stick by a $15 limit.
My Uncle has three foster kids, and didn't want to pay to put their names in the pot, so they decided to just tell everybody they could buy for the kids if they want.
The kids include: the three fosters, and (i think) six great-grandkids.
Ugh.
Me buying for nine kids is NOT possible.  And I can't buy for one and not the other.

Selfish part: It was pretty nice to shop for the name I drew in past years, and then receiving a nice sweatshirt or perfume  that I wear for the rest of the year.

I'll get over it, but I'm ticked at the moment.

Wrkn925

GPB, I had three Thanksgiving meals yesterday.

And pizza in the mall at 3am.

My family knows I'll graze as I pass through.  Does BF's mom do a formal sit down meal?  Either way, she shouldn't have been worried about it.  It's not like you could eat much...

deburnin

The Disney channel is a staple at my parent's house since my family members are all Disney fiends, so I'd be cool with that. Better than football. :X

One thing that really irked me was my sister's BF claiming the TV as his after dinner. My siblings and I wanted to watch old family videos and he gave us a hard time about it because football was on. Sorry, if you don't like it then go to your parents' house. Jeez.

Other than that things went smoothly! Which is a surprise. I usually get into one big fight with my mom or sister. So yay!

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[QUOTE]GPB, I had three Thanksgiving meals yesterday. And pizza in the mall at 3am. My family knows I'll graze as I pass through.  Does BF's mom do a formal sit down meal?  Either way, she shouldn't have been worried about it.  It's not like you could eat much...
Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]

She was really stressing out more about having enough room, but I was so full that I just sat in the living room with the kids. When someone got up, I just sat down at the table. It wasn't a big deal.

Wrkn925

Oh, I want to add a Thanksgiving thanks.  Like, the opposite of a vent.

We got the Docs to discharge my Uncle from the hospital for the weekend.  He got to come to Thanksgiving, in his pajamas, and enjoy time with the family.
He starts Chemo Monday, so it was important for him to have that day.
He seemed in great spirits, had a better appetite then the entire time he was in the hospital, and was talking without coughing or getting out of breath.

The greatest sound I heard all day was him almost yelling from the kitchen table trying to find a partner to play cards with.  He'd barely been able to talk or walk without getting out of breath, so hearing him raise his voice felt pretty great.

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@GPB - My mom stresses out about the little stuff, too... She was actually pretty good yesterday, though... besides the previously mentioned issues...

@wrkn - My friends and I used to do a Secret Santa type thing, too... and somehow I always managed to get screwed out of a gift... the first year, the person who had me bailed out... so I bought a really nice gift for my secret santa and I didn't get anything....

Also, that's great news about your Uncle!

@deburnin - The rule in my house is "majority rules" when it comes to the TV... if you don't like it... there's another TV in the house... go sit in there and watch TV by yourself! lol

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]Oh, I want to add a Thanksgiving thanks.  Like, the opposite of a vent. We got the Docs to discharge my Uncle from the hospital for the weekend.  He got to come to Thanksgiving, in his pajamas, and enjoy time with the family. He starts Chemo Monday, so it was important for him to have that day. He seemed in great spirits, had a better appetite then the entire time he was in the hospital, and was talking without coughing or getting out of breath. The greatest sound I heard all day was him almost yelling from the kitchen table trying to find a partner to play cards with.  He'd barely been able to talk or walk without getting out of breath, so hearing him raise his voice felt pretty great.
Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]

<div>I totally awwww'd out loud at this.  I'm glad your family got to spend some time with your uncle!  What a wonderful Thanksgiving treat!  Keep us posted on how he's doin', hunny:)</div>

bethsmiles

I did Thanksgiving at BF's house this year instead of going home. It was alright for the most part. His family members made a few comments that made me uncomfortable after dinner but other than that the day was fine. I kind of wish I had gone home though.

MissOwl

i've brought bf with me to thanksgiving for 4 years now. we've been together for 10 years. my younger sister has been dating her bf for 6 months and my grandma asked her how her fiance was. no one asked us if/when we were getting married. no one has ever assumed that mr.owl was my fiance or husband. it just irked me. 

ravenray

Every year my mother is stressed out and horrible.  This year was no exception, which is fine, I am use to it.  However, I have some...relative issues.... I really don't like one male relative and the whole reason why I finally told my parents about last year.  I do not like being around him, in the same room with him or even the same house, it makes me uncomfortable.  So my mom, knowing this arranges the table so my BF is sitting Right next to him and I am on the other side of my bf...  I went and looked at the table and was like WTF?  So I change it, problem solved.  But when I point out how inconsiderate her actions where she gets all defensive and tells me that my Bf was there so it would be a problem.  Oh ya like my BF can block out painful memories... thanks mom.  Anyways, Thanksgiving was horrible as long as he was there.  Once he left everything got better.  But I am still pretty annoyed with my mom because of her lack of caring about my feelings and her want to put up a good facade... ugh!

JMM4208

I had to go to Thanksgiving without the BF this year because the team he works for has a huge game this weekend. I feel really bad that he didnt get a "real" thanksgiving so I froze a sampler plate of everything so he can have it when i gets back.

The vent portion: My 3 years younger cousin (who just got out of a divorce at 19) announced she is engaged again to a new guy after 4 months. This of course sparks every woman in the family cornering me for some alone time to hound me because I am NEY. Gotta love family gatherings that make you feel inadequate.

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[QUOTE]I had to go to Thanksgiving without the BF this year because the team he works for has a huge game this weekend. I feel really bad that he didnt get a "real" thanksgiving so I froze a sampler plate of everything so he can have it when i gets back. <strong>The vent portion: My 3 years younger cousin (who just got out of a divorce at 19) announced she is engaged again to a new guy after 4 months. This of course sparks every woman in the family cornering me for some alone time to hound me because I am NEY. Gotta love family gatherings that make you feel inadequate.
</strong>Posted by JMM4208[/QUOTE]

I think there's more of an issue with the fact that your 19 year old divorced cousin is engaged again... and not that you're NEY... In comparison, you're not inadequate...  you're smarter!

JMM4208

Thanks Lyz! I really needed that boost. I am normally not bothered by it but Thanksgiving was a trainwreck. And yes the fact she married/divorced/engaged all in a year is a BIG issue.

lmwilber

I went with BF and his fam to see his moms family out of state. It was a good trip, execpt for the fact that at Thanksgiving Dinner there was NO STUFFING/ DRESSSING OR MASHED POTATOS!!!! WTF??

EPIC FAIL

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[QUOTE]Thanks Lyz! I really needed that boost. I am normally not bothered by it but Thanksgiving was a trainwreck. And yes the fact she married/divorced/engaged all in a year is a BIG issue.
Posted by JMM4208[/QUOTE]

Yea, that's definitely a little much! I know how you feel, tho... It seems like everywhere we go lately someone is asking when we're getting married... I went to a wake the other night in place of BF because he was out of town... I took his mom with me and when I was introduced to his friends sister she turned to BF's mom and said "So, this is your future daughter in law??"  Really!?!  This lady's mother just passed away... why is my 'marital status', or lack thereof, a topic of conversation!? lol  ((sigh))

Imwilber - No stuffing or mashed is definitely wack! LOL LOL

calindi

I can't say I have any complaints - as I cooked the meal myself, I had exactly what I wanted.  The green bean casserole didn't turn out as well as I had hoped, but really, is that a big deal?  The mashed potatoes also weren't perfect (I think I overcooked them so they were a little sticky), which made me a little sad, but there was plenty of other goodies to eat.  And the homemade apple pies from scratch were a HUGE hit... man oh man, I might go eat another slice right now!

The company was great, too.  BF's father and my grandparents got along just fine.  BF's Dad didn't get drunk (BF had told him that my grandpa is a recovered alcoholic, so I think he cut down on his own drinking out of respect) and everyone was very content and grateful. We had 3 other law students here, who are all good friends. Two of them are Marines, so BF and his Dad and the two Marines had a lot of fun talking military stuff.  My grandpa and the other guest talked about car stuff, and my grandma and I had a blast in the kitchen.  The guests helped pick up and threw out all the trash, BF did all the dishes and I put them away - it was a fantastic day!  Heck, even the Patriots won, so my day was darn near perfect!