Psychology lesson of the day.

dwest2201

Oh and I missed the mac and cheese thing.... I LOVE mac and cheese!  Especially authentic homemade from scratch mac and cheese!  I'm craving mac and cheese now, thanks a lot! 

1337love

Don't worry jeter!!  "Always look on the bright side of life!"
It's just a little funk!

And cate!  I don't think I was sharp enought to pick it out before, but now it all makes sense.  And I salute you for taking care of one of the brave men who makes sure we stay safe!  And tell him I said thanks for choosing such a noble profession.  (BTW I live one block off a huge base and my dad is a DVP for a civil branch contractor so we love our armed forces here, just not so crazy about occupying another country right now.)

Great lesson and class discussion, Professor Narwhal. 

Narwhal

I'm making BF mac and cheese for lunch.

Mmmmm.

MidniteRae

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_psychology-lesson-of-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:432e1191-163d-4473-b3cb-1e8d835b3454Post:a1c169e2-647e-41fc-b22a-bf090503f2fe">Psychology lesson of the day.</a>:
[QUOTE]Your general happiness is predisposed.  You can have bursts of happiness and depression, but your overall level is usually around the same thing.  So if you go through life thinking "well i'll be happy as soon as..." then you're probably wrong.  It will make you happy for a little while, but eventually you'll go back to your general happiness level. And those levels are unrelated to your job, social status, weight, etc.  It’s more of   your outlook on life that will impact your overall level.   There are two types of thought about learning that impacts if you’re a happy person or not.   The fixed mindset says that you are only as smart as you are, you aren’t capable of getting smarter.   Mistakes are mistakes.   Those with the growth mindset believe that mistakes are learning tools, and if you try hard enough, you will be able to become smarter and you can accomplish anything as long as you really want it and you’re willing to work hard to get it.   I personally believe that most people go back and forth between the two of those mindsets.   But studies show that those with the growth mindset tend to have happier dispositions than those with the fixed mindset. So there you go, beebees .   If you are a happy person, you will be able to enjoy your relationship at the current stage and if you can’t do that, then marriage won’t fix it in the long run…. <strong>You’re just a general unpleasant person.
</strong>Posted by Narwhal[/QUOTE]
Unpleasant? People that are not normally happy could be seen as someone who is unpleasant, but what about people diagnosed with depression or personality disorders?

Gamette

Aww, SO's are pretty awesome.  Last night, BF did one of those small things that mean the world...  Right now, we live about a mile away from each other (I'm fixing to move in a couple weeks to an hour away from him), and I had gotten home late with the kids.  My son wasn't feeling well during the hour long drive and woke up about 10 miles away from our house crying that his stomach hurt.  Within 5 minutes, he had thrown up all over himself.  Not a pleasant ride after that.  As we were parking, BF sent me a message asking if I made it home yet, and I told him what happened with my son.  He went to WalMart and got some Pedialyte for my son and brought it over.  In my eyes, that was pretty dang awesome!

Buggalo

That was really fascinating, Narwhal. And now that I think about it, definitely true!

And yes, SOs rock. And it IS the little things that really count. I remember when we took a trip for our last anniversary, and it was the night before we had to leave to go home. I told him I would wake up early to straighten up the room and pack before we left and then I fell asleep. I woke up in a daze around midnight, and he was busying himself about with the luggage. He said "Oh, I didn't want you to have to get up early so I just took care of everything." I still think of that and go squee.

Now I'm a big mushball.

Narwhal

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[QUOTE]In Response to Psychology lesson of the day. : Unpleasant? People that are not normally happy could be seen as someone who is unpleasant, but what about people diagnosed with depression or personality disorders?
Posted by MidniteRae[/QUOTE]

I'm speaking generally, I'm not including personality disorders or depression.  Those are neurological functioning problems, I'm talking about conscience personalities.

MidniteRae

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Psychology lesson of the day. : I'm speaking generally, I'm not including personality disorders or depression.  Those are neurological functioning problems, I'm talking about conscience personalities.
Posted by Narwhal[/QUOTE]

Okay, then I agree with you.

dwest2201

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_psychology-lesson-of-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:432e1191-163d-4473-b3cb-1e8d835b3454Post:a0d48cf8-2b57-4b12-b1d4-f025e20cf6d1">Re: Psychology lesson of the day.</a>:
[QUOTE]Aww, SO's are pretty awesome.  Last night, BF did one of those small things that mean the world...  Right now, we live about a mile away from each other (I'm fixing to move in a couple weeks to an hour away from him), and I had gotten home late with the kids.  My son wasn't feeling well during the hour long drive and woke up about 10 miles away from our house crying that his stomach hurt.  Within 5 minutes, he had thrown up all over himself.  Not a pleasant ride after that.  As we were parking, BF sent me a message asking if I made it home yet, and I told him what happened with my son.  He went to WalMart and got some Pedialyte for my son and brought it over.  In my eyes, that was pretty dang awesome!
Posted by Gamette[/QUOTE]

Thats sooo sweet!  I have a little one and an awesome BF that has done things like this for him... shoot my BF even took vacation day when my son's old babysitter was sick at the last minute because I had to come to work that day.  I am the only person who does payroll and if I missed that day checks would have been late!