Please allow me to introduce myself...

Mirafin

I've been lurking around for a couple weeks now, so I figured it was about time I introduced myself and said hi to everyone. 

My FI and I have been together for about 4 1/2 years now and we were engaged in September.  I came over to this board because, even though we are engaged, we haven't told many people.  The proposal was kind of an accident, he asked me and I said yes, but he wasn't planning on doing it just then.  He wants to do the big suprise proposal so we figured we would wait to tell people until after that.  We've been living together for 4 years and have the little, lovable, trouble-causing ball of fur and love you can see in my profile pic. 

I guess thats about all for now, but I just wanted to say HI!

bethsmiles

I don't get it...are you engaged or not?

heyimbren

I think they're secretly engaged, but he wants to do a do-over proposal and then they can tell everyone they're engaged.

I like your cat.

bethsmiles

Ooooh. Ok

AudgiePodge

An accidental proposal? Is that like an accidental pregnancy?

Elle1036

Kitty!

Hi Mirafin.  Do you like Harry Potter?

SenoritaCupcake

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[QUOTE]An accidental proposal? Is that like an accidental pregnancy?
Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]

Like instead of poking holes in contraceptives you could poke holes in his pocket so the ring falls out ??

Mirafin

We are engaged.  We've just decided not to tell many people until after he gives me the ring. 

We say that we are "unoffically engaged" because there is no ring we haven't told our parents yet (who will all be excited by the news).  FI$ and I figured it would be more fun to tell everyone when we can tell them the whole proposal story.  The real proposal was in circumstances that we would feel *ahem* odd describing to our parents.

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Please allow me to introduce myself... : Like instead of poking holes in contraceptives you could poke holes in his pocket so the ring falls out ??
Posted by SenoritaCupcake[/QUOTE]

Does this mean an engagement ring = sperm?

Mirafin

Thanks for the cat complements, she will be delighted to have more friends. 

heyimbren hit it right on the head.

I adore Harry Potter, I even made myself a Gryffindor scarf.

Mirafin

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Please allow me to introduce myself... : Does this mean an engagement ring = sperm?
Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]

Personally, I sincerely hope not.  We have a hard enough time with the cat.

AudgiePodge

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[QUOTE]We are engaged.  We've just decided not to tell many people until after he gives me the ring.  We say that we are "unoffically engaged" because there is no ring we haven't told our parents yet (who will all be excited by the news).  FI$ and I figured it would be more fun to tell everyone when we can tell them the whole proposal story.  <strong>The real proposal was in circumstances that we would feel *ahem* odd describing to our parents.</strong>
Posted by Mirafin[/QUOTE]

My proposal was while FI was on top of me after a hot romp. And that is exactly what I say when people ask how he proposed. Family included. Totally not awkward.

Plus, you don't need a ring to be engaged.

Elle1036

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[QUOTE]We are engaged.  We've just decided not to tell many people until after he gives me the ring.  We say that we are "unoffically engaged" because there is no ring we haven't told our parents yet (who will all be excited by the news).  FI$ and I figured it would be more fun to tell everyone when we can tell them the whole proposal story.  <strong>The real proposal was in circumstances that we would feel *ahem* odd describing to our parents</strong>.
Posted by Mirafin[/QUOTE]

Scandalous.

Props on the Gryffindor scarf.  I have an invisibility cloak and radish earrings that I made.

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Please allow me to introduce myself... : Does this mean an engagement ring = sperm?
Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]

That is kind of how it sounds from the 'odd circumstances' she wouldnt want to explain to her parents...   "Oh baby, oh baby, will you marry me?"   "ohmiGoddd Yes!!"   "wait? what??" 

SenoritaCupcake

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[QUOTE]We are engaged.  We've just decided not to tell many people until after he gives me the ring.  We say that we are "unoffically engaged" because there is no ring we haven't told our parents yet (who will all be excited by the news).  FI$ and I figured it would be more fun to tell everyone when we can tell them the whole proposal story.  The real proposal was in circumstances that we would feel *ahem* odd describing to our parents.
Posted by Mirafin[/QUOTE]

Haha!! That's even better than poking holes!!
 I certainly can't judge, BF and I dropped the L bomb and became "official" all mid-sexy fun times. Of course, based on the amount of time we were spending having sexy fun times, the odds of that happening were pretty high...

heyimbren

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[QUOTE]We are engaged.  We've just decided not to tell many people until after he gives me the ring.  We say that we are "unoffically engaged" because there is no ring we haven't told our parents yet (who will all be excited by the news).  FI$ and I figured it would be more fun to tell everyone when we can tell them the whole proposal story.  <strong>The real proposal was in circumstances that we would feel *ahem* odd describing to our parents.
</strong>Posted by Mirafin[/QUOTE]

Honestly, don't worry about this. That WAS your proposal- I say, own it. Make it yours, make it unique. You don't need a fancy proposal, because in the end you're still marrying the man you live.

So please, don't call yourself "unoffically engaged" and save a kitten.

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Elle1036

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Please allow me to introduce myself... : Haha!! That's even better than poking holes!!  I certainly can't judge, BF and I dropped the L bomb and became "official" all mid-sexy fun times. Of course, based on the amount of time we were spending having sexy fun times, the odds of that happening were pretty high...
Posted by SenoritaCupcake[/QUOTE]

FI and I were drunk we first kissed, drunk when we decided to be exclusive, drunk we said "I love you," and mildly buzzed when we got engaged.  I think sexy stories are better than alcoholic stories.

Mirafin

I was depressed and was at a really low point in self-esteem (I was feeling unworthy, depression is really not fun).  We were in the "after-glow" and I was *ahem* feeling better, bt still not quite up there when he said "Do I need to ask you to marry me to make you feel like you are worthy and I really do love?" 

I said the usual, "no, I know you love me."  

"Will you marry me?"

I couldn't talk for a while.  "Really?"

"Yes really."

At that point I think I actually did squeeze the stuffing out of him. 

heyimbren

So if people ask, just say it was a beautiful, intimate and personal proposal at home together. Lots of people have very private proposals like that, and it doesn't make them any less proposal-worthy.

That's what I would encourage you to do any way. Accept it, don't try to have a re-do just to impress others.

CASK85

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Please allow me to introduce myself... : FI and I were drunk we first kissed, drunk when we decided to be exclusive, drunk we said "I love you," and mildly buzzed when we got engaged.  I think sexy stories are better than alcoholic stories.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]
Ah, Elle! FI! Squee :) btw, we're twins again. . . . <div>
</div><div>FI and I were so drunk for our first kiss I hardly remember it. And he said the L word first during sex. I wasn't sure I heard him right the first time so I asked him to say it again, and then I said it back. </div>

AudgiePodge

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[QUOTE]At that point I think I actually did squeeze the stuffing out of him. 
Posted by Mirafin[/QUOTE]

<em>Sexual </em>stuffing?

Mirafin

My mom has enough trouble with the fact that we're living together as it is, and there is no way I can tell my grandma that I got engaged after sex.  Now we have a private story all to ourselves (and you ladies).  He wants the suprise proposal, that he's been thinking about it and planning it for a while.  Who am I to deny him the "big romantic monent" when I know it will make him happy?

Mirafin

[QUOTE]Sexual stuffing?
Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]

Suprisingly enough, no.  He was just as suprised as I was, but there were plenty of happy tears.

loves2shop4shoes

Audgie, you crack me up.

OP, you are engaged.  And it is official.  You're just being quiet about it.  Don't tell them you got engaged after sex.  Say "he proposed to me at home".  That's not a lie.  There's a big difference between a lie and the truth without all of the details...especially with family.  Remember that.

heyimbren

You can do what you want, in the end it's your relationship.

But re-do proposals seem to put the emphasis on the wrong part of the engagement, IMHO. You wouldn't need to tell them it was after sex. But that's just my two cents.

Elle1036

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Please allow me to introduce myself... : Ah, Elle! FI! Squee :) btw, <strong>we're twins again</strong>. . . .  FI and I were so drunk for our first kiss I hardly remember it. And he said the L word first during sex. I wasn't sure I heard him right the first time so I asked him to say it again, and then I said it back. 
Posted by cschiano[/QUOTE]

Eeep!  It was rough there while you were engaged and I wasn't, not gonna lie.

SenoritaCupcake

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Please allow me to introduce myself... : FI and I were drunk we first kissed, drunk when we decided to be exclusive, drunk we said "I love you," and mildly buzzed when we got engaged.  I think sexy stories are better than alcoholic stories.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

Hehe, but at least you can still tell other people  (not on the interwebz) the drunk stories.

p.s. I think I just fell in love with you.
p.p.s. I read the HP memorabilia posts and thought I should share that I have a real gold TimeTurner :)

Elle1036

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Please allow me to introduce myself... : Hehe, but at least you can still tell other people  (not on the interwebz) the drunk stories. p.s. I think I just fell in love with you. <strong>p.p.s. I read the HP memorabilia posts and thought I should share that I have a real gold TimeTurner</strong> :)
Posted by SenoritaCupcake[/QUOTE]

Does it work?  It's only impressive if it works.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />

I have a ridiculous amount of HP paraphernalia.  Lunch box, towel, about 10 t-shirts, solid gold lightning bolt necklace, deathly hallows symbol necklace, stuffed Hedwig, glasses, etc.  But the things I'm most proud of are the things I've made myself.

Ok, I'll take off my geek jacket now.

PaigeMcC

Hi.  Congrats on the engagement. 

Ember01

Some guys seem to think they have to do the big, romantic proposal in order for the engagement to be official. I'm not sure why they think that, but I think its pretty common.

If you don't mind me asking, how old are you and your FI?

SenoritaCupcake

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Please allow me to introduce myself... : <strong>Does it work?  It's only impressive if it works. </strong> I have a ridiculous amount of HP paraphernalia.  Lunch box, towel, about 10 t-shirts, solid gold lightning bolt necklace, deathly hallows symbol necklace, stuffed Hedwig, glasses, etc.  But the things I'm most proud of are the things I've made myself. Ok, I'll take off my geek jacket now.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

Well my mom bought it for me when I was taking way too many classes and when I put it on my neck and flipped it I stopped hyperventilating so much. So in that sense, yes, it was totally functional.

And I'm intrigued, what have you made youself??