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CT324

Hey ladies I used to go on this site alot more but i have been very busy at work.  Anyway if you remeber my story at all I am not engaged but own a house with my BF.  I have been getting the hunch that the ring is coming very soon. He had me get sized for a ring at the mall the other night and has been talking about the different types of rings that I like alot lately. 

Also, I saw something that kind of gave it away a little bit.  My BF had a job interview last week.  He is a teacher so he is working this summer day camp this summer.  So his plan that he told me was to go on the interview and then he was going home to get changed and go to work.  However the other day we were in his car and I saw the meter parking ticket for the train station and it was marked the same date that he had his interivew.  I was not snooping it was just sitting in his cup holder.  So I have a feeling that he went to the city with my mom and cousin to buy my ring.  My cousin has this jewler that she uses in the city so I know that he wanted to use her jeweler. 

We are going away for a long weekend at the end of august so I think he may do it then.  I feel kind of happy because I know its coming but at the same time bummed because now I am expecting it to happen soon even if it does not turn out to be that weekend. 

Did anything like this ever happen to any of you ladies before you got engaged? 

Hazel_B

I'm not engaged yet, but I think you should just relax and try to put it out of your mind, you'll drive yourself crazy! Also, you'll enjoy the surprise that much more when it does happen!

Relax, it'll happen when it happens!

Acrosthec

It happened to me, a lot.  My FI had the ring for over a year, and in plain sight.  For a long time, every time there was a holiday or a trip planned, I would get excited thinking maybe that could be it.  I was disappointed a lot, and it ruined a couple of memories that otherwise could've been very wonderful and special all on their own. 

We say it a lot here:  don't expect it.  Just enjoy your trip and try to put it out of your mind so you aren't disappointed if it doesn't happen.  Most of us are giving advice from our own experiences, and we *know* that this is difficult to do.  But really, it's for the best if you can manage to do it.

GL!

notquiteblushing

Hmm it could be it but try not to dwell on it.

CT324

thanks for the advise ladies I am just trying to push it out of my mind I am going into our vaca just trying to relax and have a good time at the beach.  If it happens it happens if not I still know that he is the one and its going to happen when he is good and ready

GreenPepperBurger

Ditto PPs. You WILL be disappointed if you expect it too much and it doesn't happen. I thought my BF would propose very soon on our anniversary, but after a talk with my BF about other things (including finances - VERY important), he flat out said he is not proposing unil he graduates, which is a few YEARS away.

Just relax and take it easy. It'll happen! And even if you ARE expecting it and it DOES happen, it will still be very special.

dwest2201

I had a hunch that he was up to something and it might have been a proposal, I even posted it on here in a confessions thread.  BUT I convinced myself it was something else (a birhtday suprise in my case) because I didn't want to be dissapointed and ruin a fun holidya weekend.  He did propose and I was completely shocked even when he started shaking I thought something was wrong with him and said "babe are you okay, you're shaking" he said I know as he got down on his knee and then I was like "OH!"  It was great to be surprised!

Convince yourself it is something else!

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I too had a hunch he might propose on my birthday, but my parents and a few friends who knew his plan got really good at convincing me it would NOT happen on my birthday.  I'm so glad they were able to do that, because it was such a surprise when he did propose on my birthday.  He caught me completely off-guard and made it even more special.

Just try to relax and enjoy it. Even if you have a hunch it's coming, you'll still be somewhat surprised and will enjoy it just as much.

KD+BC

It's great to be excited about the possibility but really try to put it out of your mind (easier said than done I know). You never know, he could really surprise you. I knew FI was looking at rings but I didn't really think he'd propose on Christmas. It crossed my mind but I thought he'd do it on New Years for some reason. When he popped the question on Christmas it was a total surprise!

misskrysbaby

Yea, I was doing the same thing for 5 months. We had started looking at rings the beginning of March and FI didn't end up proposing until June 26th.   So, we speak from experience, try as best as you can to not think about it.

shihtzulover1

Definitely try not to get your hopes up.  I agree with all of the other ladies here - you might end up disappointed.  Also, I wouldn't want to ruin the surprise, so I would probably try to convince myself that it wasn't going to happen.

My SO and I openly discussed getting engaged, and we picked out our ring together.  We started looking in February/March, and he just bought the ring about a month ago.  He wants the actual proposal to be a surprise, so we aren't officially engaged yet.

candiceandbrant

I knew I was gettng engaged the night it was going to happen. We had picked the ring out in October and when it didnt happen on my birthday in November, I knew it was going to happend over the December holidays.
My fiance is not very good at keeping secrets and I am very intuative so unfortunately he is rarely able to suprise me. We were at a Christmas eve party and he wanted to go home early so we could exchange presents privately. After his family we happy to escort us out, I knew what was coming. Either way enjoy the moments with your BF if it does or doesnt happen. Dont dwell - you'll just get your hopes up I'm sure he loves you and wants to make you happy. it will happen when he is ready.