Open Letter Wednesday!!

polkadot111

Dear FI,
I miss you. You only live ten minutes away and I haven't seen you since Saturday. I wish I didn't have to have work training in the evenings... I  hate not being able to see you... I wish I could have one of your hugs!!!
Love,
Hope

Dear weather,
Thanks for cooling down today! Stay this way.
Hope

Dear parents at the camp open house tonight,
Please be nice to me and don't ask me too many questions. I don't know much about camp since this is my first week there, so I really won't be of much help. Sorry if you get me to give you a tour....
Hope

GOOOOO!

ravenray

Dear salad,
You sound really yummy right now.  I want you now.  However, I am trying to restrain myself as I have not very much to eat for lunch and I am going to be hungry either way.
Love,
My mouth

Dear Parents,
When will you learn to let me be my own person?  When will you decide that you don't need to parent me anymore?  I really hate that I can't live up to your expectations no matter what.  I really hate that you make ridiculous rules and then change them on me.  I hate that I can't win at your games.  Noah doesn't want me to play your game and I am thinking about throwing in the towel.  I can not wait to be out of your house in a year.  Maybe you will finally realize that I am a good kid and I try really hard for you, but no matter how hard I try it isn't good enough.  This is evident by the fact that I messed up two weeks in a row and you are charging me more.  Ya that was the week before finals and finals week.  I was a mess, give me a break.  It frustrates me and hurts me that I can't be good enough for you.  Maybe someday...but I doubt it.
Your upset daughter who just wants to please you.

Dear BF,
Sorry I have been down.  The parent thing is upsetting me more then I realize.  It is also really hard not pressuring you when I am involved with so much wedding stuff.  All of this makes me grumpy.  I do love you and I am not upset with you.  Sorry I am being a pain right now.
Love,
Rachael

Dear Bride,
Your wedding is going to be beautiful.  Take a deep breathe.  4 days to go!  I am so excited for you!
Your Bridesmaid.

IrishDreamer

Dear A-hole tenants,
It is NOT my fault your AC is constantly running - did you stop to think that your problem stems from the last time you changed your air filter was back in November?!?! OOOOR that you have the temp set at 68?? Newsflash - it's 95 FREAKIN DEGREES!!! Of course your AC will be running all day. Clean your air filter and deal with it!!

~not your bitching pole

Dear SO,

Please get through this patch where you are being an a-hole for no reason. I understand there's a lot of stressful things we are dealing with right now, in all aspects of our lives, but please stop taking it out on me, k? Thanks. Also, I contribute just as much as you. Also, STOP CHANGING YOUR MIND ABOUT OUR FUTURE!! I don't care that you took over the finances, it gives me a break, but for the love of God....are we saving for a house? paying off your debt?? Signing a new 6 month lease? Signing a year lease? going month to month?? Why does it have to change everyday???

P.s. Stop asking me if i'm going to talk to my boss about a raise - i know it is a sore subject for you, but it is even bigger for me. Deal with it.

~your stressed out beyond belief lonely gf

MLekathLEEN

Dear FI,
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!

Love,
Me

Dear fingers,
Why is it that you've all of a sudden quit knowing how to type correctly?! You were on a roll with the data about 15 minutes ago, WTF happened?! Maybe it's a brain cramp on your behalf but retyping every other word is getting really annoying and making you double your work.

Sincerely,
THE BOSS (brain)

ravenray

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_open-letter-wednesday-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:519c99d8-b6be-41ec-a799-6d0b3850013dPost:b722ccdb-0939-43c7-a4c6-6fb5f9fe5e66">Re: Open Letter Wednesday!!</a>:
[QUOTE] Dear SO, Please get through this patch where you are being an a-hole for no reason. I understand there's a lot of stressful things we are dealing with right now, in all aspects of our lives, but please stop taking it out on me, k? Thanks. Also, I contribute just as much as you. Also, STOP CHANGING YOUR MIND ABOUT OUR FUTURE!! I don't care that you took over the finances, it gives me a break, but for the love of God....are we saving for a house? paying off your debt?? Signing a new 6 month lease? Signing a year lease? going month to month?? Why does it have to change everyday??? P.s. Stop asking me if i'm going to talk to my boss about a raise - i know it is a sore subject for you, but it is even bigger for me. Deal with it. ~your stressed out beyond belief lonely gf
Posted by IrishDreamer[/QUOTE]
<p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;" class="MsoNormal"><span style="line-height:115%;font-family:'Arial','sans-serif';color:#1f1f1f;font-size:8.5pt;">Aw Irish!  *hug*  I am sorry he is being wishy-washy.  I meant to ask you the other day what was going on but I forgot.  You can hang out with us.  We will keep you company. </span></p>

Elle1036

Dear Mom,

I was really looking forward to going to Chicago with you.  I know the situation is out of your control and all that, but I also feel like you let your plans get pulled off track a little too easily, and it hurts my feelings.  Thanks for paying to transfer your ticket to FI, I guess.

Sincerely,

Daughter who would really like a better relationship with her mother.

Dear Body,

I realize the past week hasn't been the kindest to you.  Between Aunt Flo, the three pieces of cake I ate at that graduation party, and my crazy work schedule keeping me from working out, it's been hard for you to keep shrinking or even just keep from getting bigger.  I get that.  But two pounds?  Don't we think that's a little excessive?

Sincerely,

Praying it's just water weight and will go away by Friday.

Dear Schiano,

SUNDAY!!!!!  AHHHHH!

Love,

Knot-twin.

Wrkn925

Dear Mouth,

I'm grateful that you were numb during today's dental procedures.  However, the girls in the office are buying me lunch. Sushi.  I'd really like to taste it and be able to chew with my mouth closed.  Could you please come back to life?

Thanks.

Wrkn

Elle1036

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_open-letter-wednesday-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:519c99d8-b6be-41ec-a799-6d0b3850013dPost:1be4c365-f0ee-46b6-a502-9cc6765ea17b">Re: Open Letter Wednesday!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Dear salad, You sound really yummy right now.  I want you now.  However, I am trying to restrain myself as I have not very much to eat for lunch and I am going to be hungry either way. Love, My mouth <strong>Dear Parents, When will you learn to let me be my own person?  When will you decide that you don't need to parent me anymore?  I really hate that I can't live up to your expectations no matter what.  I really hate that you make ridiculous rules and then change them on me.  I hate that I can't win at your games.  Noah doesn't want me to play your game and I am thinking about throwing in the towel.  I can not wait to be out of your house in a year.  Maybe you will finally realize that I am a good kid and I try really hard for you, but no matter how hard I try it isn't good enough.  This is evident by the fact that I messed up two weeks in a row and you are charging me more.  Ya that was the week before finals and finals week.  I was a mess, give me a break.  It frustrates me and hurts me that I can't be good enough for you.  Maybe someday...but I doubt it. Your upset daughter who just wants to please you. </strong>Dear BF, Sorry I have been down.  The parent thing is upsetting me more then I realize.  It is also really hard not pressuring you when I am involved with so much wedding stuff.  All of this makes me grumpy.  I do love you and I am not upset with you.  Sorry I am being a pain right now. Love, Rachael Dear Bride, Your wedding is going to be beautiful.  Take a deep breathe.  4 days to go!  I am so excited for you! Your Bridesmaid.
Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Ray, there are no words for how much I empathize with this, and I hate that you're dealing with it.  PM me any time you need to vent.

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Hazel_B

Dear FILs

I realize that life is uncertain these days and it is hard to make decisions sometimes regarding money. However, when some people are being non-commital and using gardening as an excuse to not come visit, it is really hurtful. I know FI doesn't say anything and goes along with whatever you'll decide, but it does upset him.

Sincerely,
FI who just doesn't get it

Dear Self,

You need to get a grip on exercising and your meal plan, you have a bridesmaid dress to fit in in 2 months.

Love
Feeling like I'm losing the weight control battle


Dear Motivation,
Please come back, I have landscaping to do and a bathroom to rennovate immediately. As well as a wedding to plan that I sort of forget about now and then.
Love
Things are getting lost in the shuffle

loves2shop4shoes

Dear Box of Samoa Cookies,

Please come down from the top of the cabinets where FI put you.  I can't reach you there.  I iz want to NOM you.

Love,

Rumbly tummy

Dear Ovaries,

FFS, get your shiit together!  I had to go get my IUD out today because of you hoars.  My $400 IUD.  Now, because of you hoars, FI and I have to use condoms until my gyno and I can come up with a better plan.  Do you KNOW how much I hate condoms?!

Your pissed off body

Dear FI,

Please come home from work early today.  I want a snuggle.

Love,

Snuffalupagus

Dear Motivation to do anything,

Law school ended 3 weeks ago...I get it, it was draining, but FFS, get your shiit together.  You can't just blob around the house for the rest of the summer.

Love,

Me

marleylikeair

Dear Raven,

Along with Elle, I totally understand the parent thing. It sucks. I think you should definitely see if you can find some counseling to help you get through. At some point, as emerging adults, offspring like us have to have a new kind of relationship with our parents, as fellow adults. If the parents refuse to adapt to this, unfortunately, the adult child has to be the one to re-define the relationship. Be strong.

Stand up for yourself. Guess what--they're probably just full of hot air and aren't going to kick you out or stop supporting you financially just because you stand up to them a couple times. In fact, after some rough stuff, your relationship might get better. Just remember to be an adult about it and be civil and fair, remembering it *is* their house. It's so, so hard to feel and act like an adult while living in your parents' house. It makes you feel like a kid again (or still).

If I were you, I'd consider taking out extra student loans in order to live on your own, if at all possible.

We're here for you. Good luck and hugs.

Love,
Marley

Dear BF,

Mini cigars count as smoking and they're gross, even though you never smoke them around me. Pony up the $65 and re-up your E-cig supplies, please. Me no likey ashtray kisses, let alone your irritability when you're craving the nicotine.

Love,
Your tobacco-abhoring GF

Dear Marley,

Please be nice to yourself and find a healthy way to decrease your stress level. Your blood tests are showing elevated levels of Chocolate Chip Cookie.

Love, Marley

Dear NEY,

I still heart you to pieces.

Love, Marley

cu97tiger

Dear Man who bought BFs car,

Thanks a lot for calling RIGHT as sexytime was starting. <sarcasm>

Sincerely,

Woman who really wanted to get some last weekend

Dear Aunt Flo,

Please get the he!! out of dodge by Friday. I want sexytime in Vegas.

Love,

Woman who only sees her aunt Flo once every 10 wks

Dear Vegas,

Get here already.

Love, 

High Roller

csousa1

Dear Lindsey,

I'm sorry you are going through all of this with your sister. I am praying for you all every day. I'm sorry that it happened at all, but especially when you are on vacation and it is not easy to get to her. I completely understand you not being ready to see her yet, and I don't think it is fair for her to be mad at you about that. I'm sorry that Hillary is frustrated with all of your family drama, and I hope she will stop taking it out on you since it isn't your fault that your family is BSC. I love you, and I am here for you and Hillary and Brianna always and forever, whatever you may need.

Love,
A very concerned bestie


Dear BF,

I miss you. I know that if I said this to you, you would say, "I'm right here baby." But I mean I miss you emotionally, not physically. Things have been getting better, and you are making such wonderful efforts, but I still miss the crap out of you and the way things used to be when everything was easier. I'm sorry I have been a poor sport about your best friend's wedding next weekend. I love him and his bride and it will be a lot of fun, I'm sure. There are a bunch of little reasons why it has irked me to go, but the real underlying reason is that it just makes me sad to see another couple that lost Aaron, who aren't putting their future on hold because of his death. But everyone is different and processes things differently, and I love you, and I will keep waiting for you to be ready because I can't imagine a future with anyone else. We will have a blast next Friday, I just know it

Love,
Your wildly in love GF


Dear Body,

Please tan. PLEASE. You blatantly refused to shrink to the desired size by June 17th, the least you could do is turn a few shades darker. I would rather not have to resort to painting you orange again just to have some color. It cost $30, and you know just as well as I do that that is NOT a normal color for the soles of one's feet. I promise I will not burn you, I am doing this gently and slowly just like you like. Just turn brown, dammit.

ETA: Oh, and you BETTER not have Aunt Flo over for a visit next weekend, you conniving b!tch.

Love,
Courtney

IrishDreamer

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_open-letter-wednesday-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:519c99d8-b6be-41ec-a799-6d0b3850013dPost:88ab1f00-d917-430b-8760-42e8e83e3b2e">Re: Open Letter Wednesday!!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Open Letter Wednesday!! : Aw Irish!  *hug*  I am sorry he is being wishy-washy.  I meant to ask you the other day what was going on but I forgot.  You can hang out with us.  We will keep you company.
Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]

Ray,

:) Thanks, lov. The irritating thing is when he works during the day without his Ipod...all he does is think all day - (he mows lawns all day --- with headphones so he only has his own brain to hear) and so when I finally think we made a decision on what's going on...he comes home and changes it. I'm all for change...but for once I've got some stability (not a real big thing in my life)...and I kinda like it.

I am very lonely. I'm more "mature" than most people my age - in that I don't want to go out and party all the time, or drink and get drunk during a work week, etc - so people don't like hanging out with me as much anymore, I guess, or have better things to do.

Personally, I prefer dinner and cards/games and snacks with friends than spending money to go out to a crappy restaurant and/or bar when I cook better than most! *shrugs* but hey, that's just me lol

So all of this combined with him being all MEH lately - = one lonely Me :/
SOOOOOO....if any NEY'ers would like to come visit Kalamazoo, MI for a day and hang with me.... I'd probably find a way to make my arthritic knee to backflips hahaha

^.^ Ray, I have to say you really made my afternoon a little better. Thanks :) *hugs* I <3 my NEYers :)

IrishDreamer

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_open-letter-wednesday-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:519c99d8-b6be-41ec-a799-6d0b3850013dPost:1be4c365-f0ee-46b6-a502-9cc6765ea17b">Re: Open Letter Wednesday!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Dear salad, You sound really yummy right now.  I want you now.  However, I am trying to restrain myself as I have not very much to eat for lunch and I am going to be hungry either way. Love, My mouth <strong>Dear Parents, When will you learn to let me be my own person?  When will you decide that you don't need to parent me anymore?  I really hate that I can't live up to your expectations no matter what.  I really hate that you make ridiculous rules and then change them on me.  I hate that I can't win at your games.  Noah doesn't want me to play your game and I am thinking about throwing in the towel.  I can not wait to be out of your house in a year.  Maybe you will finally realize that I am a good kid and I try really hard for you, but no matter how hard I try it isn't good enough.  This is evident by the fact that I messed up two weeks in a row and you are charging me more.  Ya that was the week before finals and finals week.  I was a mess, give me a break.  It frustrates me and hurts me that I can't be good enough for you.  Maybe someday...but I doubt it. Your upset daughter who just wants to please you.</strong> Dear BF, Sorry I have been down.  The parent thing is upsetting me more then I realize.  It is also really hard not pressuring you when I am involved with so much wedding stuff.  All of this makes me grumpy.  I do love you and I am not upset with you.  Sorry I am being a pain right now. Love, Rachael Dear Bride, Your wedding is going to be beautiful.  Take a deep breathe.  4 days to go!  I am so excited for you! Your Bridesmaid.
Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]

*supersquishyhugs*
Parents suck. Especially ones that set ridiculously high standards. I know...My mother is the same way - sooo demented in thinking I should strive to be exactly like her. Hello, no....that would be a train wreck...as she is nucking futs....and fu*king nuts....

I'm sorry you are dealing with this. Finals are bad enough without having to deal with BSC parental units.

I am always around if you need someone to talk to. You can also find me on FB :) I'm usually there more than here - only because my phone likes FB mobile..and i can't get TK to work on my phone

<3 <3 <3 *hugs* <3 <3 <3

peekaboo2011

Dear Bridesmaid Dresses,

You SUCK.  I've been working for three days and I HATE you.  Seriously, who in their right mind can keep tissue taffeta, taffeta, iridescent taffeta and satin faced taffeta straight?

Love,

Peek.

PS- Jim Hjelm, I want a divorce from you.

Dear Crazy Reps,

It was completely unnecessary to bite my head off this morning when I asked who you were when you called.  A simple "Hello, this is so and so from bridal company" would have sufficed.  I'm brand new and not psychic.

Kthxbai.

Dear Bridesmaids,

I think you're actually worse than the brides.

Love,

Brandi

csousa1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_open-letter-wednesday-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:519c99d8-b6be-41ec-a799-6d0b3850013dPost:85414e8e-47c7-421c-90bb-347c19717d9d">Re: Open Letter Wednesday!!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Open Letter Wednesday!! : Ray, :) Thanks, lov. The irritating thing is when he works during the day without his Ipod...all he does is think all day - (he mows lawns all day --- with headphones so he only has his own brain to hear) and so when I finally think we made a decision on what's going on...he comes home and changes it. I'm all for change...but for once I've got some stability (not a real big thing in my life)...and I kinda like it. I<strong> am very lonely. I'm more "mature" than most people my age - in that I don't want to go out and party all the time, or drink and get drunk during a work week, etc - so people don't like hanging out with me as much anymore, I guess, or have better things to do</strong>. Personally, I prefer dinner and cards/games and snacks with friends than spending money to go out to a crappy restaurant and/or bar when I cook better than most! *shrugs* but hey, that's just me lol So all of this combined with him being all MEH lately - = one lonely Me :/ SOOOOOO....if any NEY'ers would like to come visit Kalamazoo, MI for a day and hang with me.... I'd probably find a way to make my arthritic knee to backflips hahaha ^.^ Ray, I have to say you really made my afternoon a little better. Thanks :) *hugs* I <3 my NEYers :)
Posted by IrishDreamer[/QUOTE]

I can completely relate. Although many of my closest friends are actually past this stage mostly as well, that also means that they are just as busy in their big grown up lives as I am, and we don't have as much time for each other. I always seem to be wishing I had more friends, and got to see the ones I have more. But, I suppose almost everyone feels this way sometimes? Muchos hugs to you Irish, and if I could I would totally be out there in a minute to visit you! I would have to insist that you not do any backflips, however, for the sake of your knee :)

IrishDreamer

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_open-letter-wednesday-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:519c99d8-b6be-41ec-a799-6d0b3850013dPost:504a2d78-44a4-4873-ac2b-9a06bc8277f1">Re: Open Letter Wednesday!!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Open Letter Wednesday!! : I can completely relate. Although many of my closest friends are actually past this stage mostly as well, that also means that they are just as busy in their big grown up lives as I am, and we don't have as much time for each other. I always seem to be wishing I had more friends, and got to see the ones I have more. But, I suppose almost everyone feels this way sometimes? Muchos hugs to you Irish, and if I could I would totally be out there in a minute to visit you! I would have to insist that you not do any backflips, however, for the sake of your knee :)
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]

^.^ *hugs back* LOL okay - so maybe backflips aren't in order...buuuuut sushi and wine?? *nods* O0o0o And Uno....Nothing says "yay" better than Uno :)

Swazzle

Dear Loser Who Stole My Phone On Saturday:

Perhaps instead of taking something that belongs to someone else, something that they saved up to buy for themself, you should get a JOB and learn to be a functioning member of society you big stupid jerk. Just thinking about the fact that hundreds of pictures of my pets, vacations, sporting events, & concerts are now gone makes me want to cry but I refuse to give you the satisfaction of stealing my phone AND my dignity. 

Angrily,

Rachel

IrishDreamer

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_open-letter-wednesday-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:519c99d8-b6be-41ec-a799-6d0b3850013dPost:788dc741-38e4-4b0a-8ee7-f2f9a973ca64">Re: Open Letter Wednesday!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Dear Loser Who Stole My Phone On Saturday: Perhaps instead of taking something that belongs to someone else, something that they saved up to buy for themself, you should get a JOB and learn to be a functioning member of society you big stupid jerk. Just thinking about the fact that hundreds of pictures of my pets, vacations, sporting events, & concerts are now gone makes me want to cry but I refuse to give you the satisfaction of stealing my phone AND my dignity.  Angrily, Rachel
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

This...suck...big....hairy...balls...

:(

ravenray

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_open-letter-wednesday-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:519c99d8-b6be-41ec-a799-6d0b3850013dPost:85414e8e-47c7-421c-90bb-347c19717d9d">Re: Open Letter Wednesday!!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Open Letter Wednesday!! : Ray, :) Thanks, lov. The irritating thing is when he works during the day without his Ipod...all he does is think all day - (he mows lawns all day --- with headphones so he only has his own brain to hear) and so when I finally think we made a decision on what's going on...he comes home and changes it. I'm all for change...but for once I've got some stability (not a real big thing in my life)...and I kinda like it. I am very lonely. I'm more "mature" than most people my age - <strong>in that I don't want to go out and party all the time, or drink and get drunk during a work week, etc - so people don't like hanging out with me as much anymore, I guess, or have better things to do.</strong> Personally, I prefer dinner and cards/games and snacks with friends than spending money to go out to a crappy restaurant and/or bar when I cook better than most! *shrugs* but hey, that's just me lol So all of this combined with him being all MEH lately - = one lonely Me :/ SOOOOOO....if any NEY'ers would like to come visit Kalamazoo, MI for a day and hang with me.... I'd probably find a way to make my arthritic knee to backflips hahaha ^.^ Ray, I have to say you really made my afternoon a little better. Thanks :) *hugs* I <3 my NEYers :)
Posted by IrishDreamer[/QUOTE]
<p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:'Arial','sans-serif';color:#1f1f1f;"><font size="3">I totally understand this!  I am the same way!  Too bad you live like 5 states away. :(  Can you find any new hobbies? 
Also have you told the BF that it bothers you when he just leaves his ipod in the whole day?  If you do this in a non-confrontational way I think this would help.  He may have no idea it annoys you.   And have you told him you would like to make some semi stable plans?  What did he say if you did?<span>  </span>And we love you too!<span>  </span>Glad I could make your day better :)</font></span></p>

IrishDreamer

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_open-letter-wednesday-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:519c99d8-b6be-41ec-a799-6d0b3850013dPost:a81a7674-3d90-407b-8a21-372ed78de5df">Re: Open Letter Wednesday!!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Open Letter Wednesday!! : I totally understand this!  I am the same way!  Too bad you live like 5 states away. :(  Can you find any new hobbies?  Also have you told the BF that it bothers you when he just leaves his ipod in the whole day?  If you do this in a non-confrontational way I think this would help.  He may have no idea it annoys you.   And have you told him you would like to make some semi stable plans?  What did he say if you did?   And we love you too!   Glad I could make your day better :)
Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]

:( Lame-O right :/
I'm working on getting back into yoga ...I just need to get over spending $150 for a month (it's unlimited classes - but still) (i'm cheap lol)
yes, he knows it drives me insane...and i flat out told him last night that he was driving me bonkers because we were having a discussion and just going round and round and round....

He understands my frustrations - I really think he does - the problem is is he REALLY wants us to be able to buy a house - and there's so many things stacked against us right now - and so his brain is going 10,0000 miles a minute trying to find a way to do that - because, i think he thinks that it will make me happy - and that is what he really loves to do (cheesy, I know...) plus, he hates renting...says it's the worst investment, blah blah blah

I haven't said anything to him about the stable thing....he normally sees me as a not caring about stability person - and for the most part i don't....except ...*sigh* I don't know... I <3 my life...if it were just possible to transport it to a different state, perhaps warmer, and closer to my brothers or my grandparents...lol. So it's kind of a complicated spot for me.

ravenray

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_open-letter-wednesday-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:519c99d8-b6be-41ec-a799-6d0b3850013dPost:32f0f600-9be1-4df0-b5a1-50537a817017">Re: Open Letter Wednesday!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Dear Raven, Along with Elle, I totally understand the parent thing. It sucks. I think you should definitely see if you can find some counseling to help you get through. At some point, as emerging adults, offspring like us have to have a new kind of relationship with our parents, as fellow adults. If the parents refuse to adapt to this, unfortunately, the adult child has to be the one to re-define the relationship. Be strong. Stand up for yourself. Guess what--they're probably just full of hot air and aren't going to kick you out or stop supporting you financially just because you stand up to them a couple times. In fact, after some rough stuff, your relationship might get better. Just remember to be an adult about it and be civil and fair, remembering it *is* their house. It's so, so hard to feel and act like an adult while living in your parents' house. It makes you feel like a kid again (or still). If I were you, I'd consider taking out extra student loans in order to live on your own, if at all possible. We're here for you. Good luck and hugs. Love, Marley Posted by marleylikeair[/QUOTE]
<p style="margin:0in 0in 10pt;" class="MsoNormal"><span style="line-height:115%;font-family:'Arial','sans-serif';color:#1f1f1f;font-size:8.5pt;">Aw thanks guys (all of you for being so nice).  I should look into going.  I know my parents will pay for it.  I just am totally afraid of counselors.  I know it is silly but I can't help it.  I went to a couple when I was younger and they weren’t good experiences.  I just cried or wouldn't talk at all.    It is just so frustrating for me because everything is fine one minute and then the next they are angry at me about something.  I feel like I am constantly on egg shells, not know what will set them off next.  The other thing is, they are terrible at following through on anything.  Promises and punishments.  We even had a written contract that was suppose to be unchangeable and they changed it, broke their own rules.  I just can't win :( 
And I can't move out because, a I don't make enough money and b I would take a loan but I am going to a junior college till next year.  It isn't smart for me to take out a loan just to move out.  :(</span></p>

leia1979

Dear ladies of NEY,

Thank you so much for all the virtual hugs and support yesterday. I really appreciate it. I'm sorry if I made anyone sad. You gals are the greatest.

Love,
Leia

_______________________

Dear coworkers,

I can't believe how many of you have been so supportive today. Thank you for the hugs and kind words. Thank you even more for not belittling my grief. It's greatly appreciated.

Leia

csousa1

Leia, I'm so sorry I didn't see the post about this before, that is so sad. I'm sorry for your loss

marleylikeair

Oh, Leia! I'm so sorry about your cat. I must have missed this.

Big, big hugs to you.

Wrkn925

Shoes,

Sorry about your IUD issues.  I've had a few small problems with mine.  I hope you all figure out something.

Wrkn

Dear Mouth,

I'm grateful that the numbess went away for lunch.  But lunch is over now.  I'm not entirely happy with the pain that has set in in its place.  Can I go back to the half numb face that feels twice its size, please?

Wrkn

jorja86

Dear Work,
Stop calling me multiple times a day to come in and work that night. I'm at the class that you're requiring me to take, and that you scheduled me for. No, I would not like to come in and work for 12 hours after being in class for 10 hours today. For some reason the idea of staying awake for 24 hours does not sound very safe for my patients.
Love,
Your annoyed soon-to-be-ex employee

Dear Next 6 days,
Please go by quickly...I'm ready for some time off.
Love,
Honestly exhausted from being forced to be awake at 6 am for the past two days, and working nights for the next 6

Dear BF,
I love you, and am so excited to move in full-time in a couple weeks. I'm sorry that work sucks so much right now, but I hope it gets better once your transfer is complete.
Love,
You know who

Dear Appetite,
Please chill the eff out. It's definitely not necessary for me to eat as much as you make me think it is.
Love,
Hungry all the time

Peaseblossom55

Dear team, 

so glad i ahve my mba and am a CFP yet my letter to a ciient still needed to be edited by one of the senior guys. ughhhhh.  Trust my letter writing ability please.

Sincerely,

Me

Dear Bride,

Spending $140 on a gown and another $70 on alterations not fun.  Hoping the tailor does not screw this up, but I will keep quiet until I see the dress next week.

sincerely,

bridesmaid

MrsCatfish

Dear BF,

Thank you for working so hard this summer while I try to find a job.  Also, thank you for agreeing to be the grillmaster when my entire family is in town over July 4 weekend.  Noms.

Love,

Your girlfriend with the nutso family

_______________________________________

Dear Oklahoma Unemployment Rate,

You're only 4.5%.  Help me find a freaking job already.

Sincerely,

The unemployed one

_______________________________________

Dear BF's friend from high school who told him he was your "back up" plan if things didn't work out with your current baby daddy,

Go away, you're irritating.

Sincerely,

Me

P.S. I totally bought you that baby gift just to keep the peace.

marleylikeair

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Open Letter Wednesday!! : Aw thanks guys (all of you for being so nice).  I should look into going.  I know my parents will pay for it.  I just am totally afraid of counselors.  I know it is silly but I can't help it.  I went to a couple when I was younger and they weren’t good experiences.  I just cried or wouldn't talk at all.    It is just so frustrating for me because everything is fine one minute and then the next they are angry at me about something.  I feel like I am constantly on egg shells, not know what will set them off next.  The other thing is, they are terrible at following through on anything.  Promises and punishments.  We even had a written contract that was suppose to be unchangeable and they changed it, broke their own rules.  I just can't win :(  And I can't move out because, a I don't make enough money and b I would take a loan but I am going to a junior college till next year.  It isn't smart for me to take out a loan just to move out.  :(
Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Oh, honey. I'm so sorry.</div><div>
</div><div>First, I know it doesn't seem smart to take out a loan just to move out, but sometimes you have to do something that makes sense for your life and mental health, even if financially it seems stupid. (Hey, I'm sure if I wanted to, my parents would let me live at home, and that'd be a sweet deal; but I'm 27 and it makes more sense for me to have my own place!) Not saying you need to do move out for sure, though, yes, I personally would, but know that it's an option.</div><div>
</div><div>Maybe next year see if you can become an RA in the dorms. You can usually live in the dorms for free as an RA. That would free up some money and get you out of your parents' house.</div><div>
</div><div>Your parents sound very manipulative. I know my mom is like this, too. Zero follow-through, changes the "rules" all the time. It sucks, but you're going to have to be the adult. Be consistent with them, like you would a child. If they change things up on you, try to calmly call them out. Say, calmly but firmly, "huh, Dad, I'm a little confused. That doesn't line up with what we've discussed already." And if the response you get is irrational or not calm, calmly say "okay, we can discuss this when we are both ready. I'm going for a walk now." And do it.</div><div>
</div><div>As for counseling, see if you can find affordable or even free options that you can take care of on your own, rather than letting it be one more thing your parents can meddle in or even use to manipulate you (i.e. hold over your head because they're paying). Don't even bring it up with them necessarily until you find a counselor and situation you like. Otherwise, it's almost (especially for parents who still treat you like a child) like you're asking for their approval. You don't need their approval!</div><div>
</div><div>Make some calls. See what's available. Maybe start by asking at your college. As for not feeling comfortable, I TOTALLY get that; it's like dating. You have to find the right person and right fit for you, and sometimes that means cycling through a few wrong ones.

</div><div>So there's my semi-unsolicited advice. Good luck! Keep me posted. I know how hard it is dealing with parents in general, especially ones who act this way.</div>