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It Just Keeps Getting Worse

Well. BF was laid off this week. We've lost almost everything now. We were 20 days away from moving into our new apartment, and we were going in to sign the lease next week. Our bedroom furniture, which we've already ordered and set to deliver, now must be cancelled and our down payment refunded. All of the free furniture our friends and family have given us, I have no idea what to do with. We cannot even afford a storage unit right now.

His benefits are gone. What he will be getting in unemployment is not nearly enough to support us. My mom stopped supporting me a year ago, and BF voluntarily took over this responsibility - paying my cellphone bill, my car insurance, my credit card. But without his income, it leaves us both desolate.

As of July 30th, I will have no permanent home. My mom is selling our house. Her new apartment will not have a bedroom for me. I will have to sleep on her couch and/or rely on the charity of BF's parents and other friends.

Basically, I need some sort of miracle to happen within the next two weeks, preferrably in the form of a good-paying job (for BF or myself), or we have to put off our move for at least a month or two.

Ugh. *headdesk* I feel drained. I feel like a dishtowel that's been wrung out one too many times. My stress level is through the roof. It's been like taking one step forward and two steps back, every step of the way. I don't know how much more of this I can take.

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  • edited December 2011
    Honey, I honestly don't know what to say, other than I keeping you and your BF in my thoughts and prayers.

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  • desertsundesertsun member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm sorry, bside. :( At least you still have internet access to help in your job hunt! I would seriously start applying like mad. Including coffee shops and retail. Any income will help! Sending good vibes your way. 
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  • hetshuphetshup member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh Bside. I'm sending you good thoughts, I wish I could offer you some help, but just keep pounding the pavement. If you feel you can't get through the day, just take it in five minute increments. Just five more minutes. 
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  • loopy82loopy82 member
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    edited December 2011
    Good luck. I hope that one or both of you can find a job.

    What keeps sticking out to me is that it went from your mom to your bf paying your bills. I've never had this luxury. I've always had to pay my cell phone/ insurance/ credit card. If I wanted it, I had to pay it.
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  • edited December 2011
    So sorry to hear that you're in this situation - but ditto what desert said any job with an income would be good right now. Good luck!
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-keeps-getting-worse-rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:628cef31-e1db-453f-8802-802b9cb093ffPost:68f87bce-4852-4818-a53d-f77b16c3242c">Re: It Just Keeps Getting Worse</a>:
    [QUOTE]Good luck. I hope that one or both of you can find a job. What keeps sticking out to me is that it went from your mom to your bf paying your bills. I've never had this luxury. I've always had to pay my cell phone/ insurance/ credit card. If I wanted it, I had to pay it.
    Posted by loopy82[/QUOTE]

    Welll, that's a little complicated/personal, but the best way I can explain it is, while I was in school, my mother payed my car insurance. She only took over cell payments about 8 months ago. Once BF and I were moved in, he was prepared to take over those payments. As for the credit card, BF suggested I sign up for one when I started an unpaid internship, because my mom refused to give me any money (for commuting costs, etc). We set it up so that he would recieve the bill, and take care of the payments, and he told me that he would continue to do so until I had steady work.

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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    edited December 2011
    My mom stopped supporting me a year ago, and BF voluntarily took over this responsibility - paying my cellphone bill, my car insurance, my credit card. But without his income, it leaves us both desolate.

    That makes it kind of hard for me to feel bad for you without knowing your background situation. I'm guess you are unable to work for what ever reason?
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  • edited December 2011
    I'm sorry that you and your BF are going through this, and hopefully you can get some kind of job that will mitigate things a bit.
  • jgcohnjgcohn member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm sorry! 

    Just as an FYI...Starbucks offers benefits to its employees.  If all else fails, Starbucks is a great place to work!  I've had a bunch of friends that worked there for years and loved it.
  • edited December 2011
    Jgcohn is right.  Starbucks is a great place to work if you're looking for benefits.  They pay well over minimum and you get tips too.
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  • edited December 2011
    Sorry to hear you're having such a tough time.  Keep your chin up though, sometimes the greatest things in life happen when we're at our lowest.  

    I agree with PPs, Starbucks is a good option.
  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    edited December 2011
    Sorry about this hunny.  You'll both be in my thoughts.  Good luck !

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  • BCRockiesBCRockies member
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    edited December 2011
    *Hugs* I've been where you've been and just wanted to offer some support. When I was laid off, I spent 2 months searching for just something. I worked a couple of odd jobs (minimum wage) before I got hired on in the housekeeping dept. at the local hospital and it was a great job!

    Great pay (double minimum wage), benefits after probation (had to pay into them though) and as a 'casual' my schedule was flexible and I picked when I wanted to work and when I didn't.

    You're in my thoughts.
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_just-keeps-getting-worse-rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:628cef31-e1db-453f-8802-802b9cb093ffPost:d9bef2d4-ce9e-458a-8853-d766c9ccc5cc">Re: It Just Keeps Getting Worse</a>:
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    That makes it kind of hard for me to feel bad for you without knowing your background situation. I'm guess you are unable to work for what ever reason?
    Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

    It's complicated, and I really don't care to go into detail. Basically: I haven't had a paying job since December, I did an unpaid internship for 6 months, and then I just so happened to graduate college during one of the worst job markets in American history.

    Thanks, guys for all the well wishes and advice. Both BF and I have been job hunting like crazy, and it's funny a few of you mentioned Starbuck's. It's always been in the back of my mind, and I'm fully aware of how well they treat their employees. I've applied to a couple of them actually. Still waiting to hear from them, just like the other dozens upon dozens of jobs I've applied to.

    Hopefully I will have a job interview sometime next week. Blinds-To-Go has called me twice in the past for interviews after seeing my resume on Monster, but I had to decline them at the time. So, I submitted my resume on Wednesday to their corporate site to see if they'd call me again, and I got a call the very next day. The guy I spoke to gave me a prelim interview and then said he would push my resume through to HR. So, hopefully something good will come of this. Cross fingers, please!

    image 170 Invited (holy crap!)

    image 98 are coming to party!

    image 29 have other plans

    image 43 need to respond!

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    "Bside - You're just too sexy for your own good" ~ leia1979

    "True love = I still love you even though we hang out all the time and most other people would be tired of each other already" ~ flygirlmeg
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