What do you like/what drives you crazy?

elannis · January 2012

I know there's a question about this in the intro posts, but I'm curious and bored, so here goes ...

What are the top 3 reasons (or just 3 reasons) why you are head over heels in love with your SO?

What are the top 3 things that drive you absolutely bonkers about your SO?

Mine:
I love:
1. He always knows how to make me feel beautiful, even when I have a horrible body image day and feel like a beached whale. But he always finds a way to make me smile and actually believe that he sees no flaws.
2. He is incredibly smart and is always amazing me with all of the info that he manages to retain...this comes in handy in so many ways when I need help with something.
3. He is always so supportive of me. He never says something that I think or want to try is stupid or pointless even when it is. He always encourages me to try the things I'm wanting to try but am too afraid/unsure to do. This makes me always want to keep learning and growing as a person and I love that.

I dislike:
1. He has a horrible habit of leaving water running and the lights on when he's not using them.
2. He takes a really long time to do most things. He chews slowly, gets ready slowly, etc. On the plus side, I have learned to be very patient while I wait on him, lol.
3. His mom drives me crazy sometimes. In case that one doesn't count, then I'll say that he is a clutter bug. He saves most things and has a hard time throwing out old things. I had to work so hard to get him to clean out his closet of shirts that had holes/stains. He is learning how freeing it is to get rid of clutter though, lol.

loves2shop4shoes · January 2012

I like:

-FI can always make me laugh. No matter what is going on.

-I can be completely myself with him. He loves me the same if I'm in an evening gown and all dolled up vs. being nakedfaced in sweats with my hair in a sloppy bun. I can be a total crying mess, or perfectly reasonable and logical...and he never thinks less of me for it.

-FI snuggles me. Every day. ALL THE TIME. And he's a very, very good snuggler.

I dislike:

-FI's disgusting bathroom etiquette.

-FI can be a little bit bossy when it comes to chores.

-He's a Virgo...so he's inherently moody sometimes, for no reason at all.

swhite2012 · January 2012

Love:

-FI has made me a better version of myself. I have never had to fake anything, and he has just added to who I am.

-He can make me laugh anytime, no matter what.

-He balances me. Even though we have so many things in common, we are the opposite emotion-wise. he brings me down when I need it.

Dislike:

-His inability to admit he is wrong, or just because he has always done something one way doesn't mean it is the right way

-He doesn't shower as much as I would like. It's weird, but even if he has time in the morning to take a shower, he won't necessarily do it. I love showers, so it bothers me. And I don't think he realizes how bad his hair looks when it's dirty.

-Video Games. That's all I'll say. lol

elannis · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_likewhat-drives-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:66cea1c5-c458-4049-8de4-74aff9c7410cPost:a3bdef74-95c6-42ee-981a-67c853a79d0f">Re: What do you like/what drives you crazy?</a>:
[QUOTE]Loves: -He's absolutely hilarious, he makes me laugh constantly. -I look at him & get butterflies because of the way he looks back at me. -He's good in bed. Dislikes: -He's got some serious road rage. -He'll help clean the apartment but then he leaves all the cleaning stuff out. Example: he'll vacuum & then I'll come home & the vacuum is still plugged in & sitting in the middle of the living room. -He's not an Eagles fan (he doesn't hate them per se, but since we signed Vick he won't cheer for them unless Vick isn't playing).
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

Lol, I'm not a sports fan, so this made me giggle.

elannis · January 2012

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[QUOTE]Love: -FI has made me a better version of myself. I have never had to fake anything, and he has just added to who I am. -He can make me laugh anytime, no matter what. -He balances me. Even though we have so many things in common, we are the opposite emotion-wise. he brings me down when I need it. Dislike: -His inability to admit he is wrong, or just because he has always done something one way doesn't mean it is the right way -He doesn't shower as much as I would like. It's weird, but even if he has time in the morning to take a shower, he won't necessarily do it. I love showers, so it bothers me. And I don't think he realizes how bad his hair looks when it's dirty. -Video Games. That's all I'll say. lol
Posted by swhite2012[/QUOTE]

Lol, I got lucky. FI isn't into video games, but now he's into ham radio, so he still spends way too much money on electronics and sits there talking to old fogies that he doesn't know. It is cute when he gets all excited because he made contact with Spain though, lol.

GoldenPenguin · January 2012

I love:
- How he can always make me laugh. Whenever I'm sad/down or we have a disagreement, I can never stay upset or mad at him because he always manages to make me laugh, even if it's just saying something stupid like "I just farted."
- His hugs & kisses. I'm a tall/bigger girl, and he makes me feel safe and comforted in his arms. He's very affectionate and giving with his affection, and he always makes me feel loved when we're together. He doesn't think twice about holding my hand or giving me kisses, no matter where we are or who is around.
- Our history. How it doesn't surprise me in the least bit that I had to go back to my hometown to find the one I was supposed to be with. How everything just clicked the second we got together. How he reminds me all the time that I was his first love, and that I'm going to be his last love. I had been telling friends for years that I just needed to meet a good ol' boy with a pickup truck, and when he pulled into the driveway in his F350 Superduty Diesel (which I didn't know he drove)... I had butterflies like I've never felt before.

I dislike:
- How he can come off as arrogant and cocky, especially when he talks about his job. Because he is so good at what he does, and it's an important position, he sometimes sounds (and believes) he is better than others.
- How he sometimes chooses things I don't see as important (like hunting/fishing/drinking with the boys) over other things, especially coming to visit me.
- His concern with me not being able to handle our long distance relationship, or me being "alone." He has this notion that I'm always sitting around doing nothing, because he's not here, or that if I were to move with him somewhere (other than Maine) I would have a hard time going somewhere I didn't know anyone. I know this comes from having insecure ex-GFs, but I feel like I have to remind him more often than I should that I am independant and secure.

elannis · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_likewhat-drives-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:66cea1c5-c458-4049-8de4-74aff9c7410cPost:0a44053c-0ab8-40ad-bd5b-326db78e8d3d">Re: What do you like/what drives you crazy?</a>:
[QUOTE]I love: - His sweet, silly disposition and his ability to never take himself too seriously. I fell in love with him when he told me he had a stuffed bunny named Hop Hop. - His relentless support for my health issues, my body issues, etc., and in general making me feel cared for, important, and loved. He often goes well out of his way to do small things to demonstrate that he is considering my needs: getting up early to shovel out my car in a winter snowstorm; driving to three different liquor stores to find my favorite wine; pouring over Weight Watchers recipes to find things he can cook me for dinner; etc. - His honesty, integrity, and worldview. I have no need to feel jealous/suspicious ever in our relationship because I firmly believe he would never lie to me or cheat on me. He lives by a strong moral code that he follows both at home and at work, and his unwavering commitment to his students and to his family inspires me. I dislike: - That he's been thus far unwilling to nail down a timeframe in which I can expect we'll move our relationship forward. - That he's very set in some of his ways, and it takes many months of slow, gentle compromise to make him come around. I understand this is the product of being an only child and from living alone for 10 years, but sometimes it tests my patience when he's being particularly stubborn. - That he is not more physically demonstrative of his love and affection for me.
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

That is so sweet! Also, the Hop Hop thing is so cute too, lol.

aeroprincess87 · January 2012

I love:

1. BF is super patient with me, which was really needed at the beginning of our relationship when I was having crazy trust issues.
2. He loves Daft Punk as much as I do and we have planned to go see them in concert whenever they go on another world tour. It's on our bucket list of things to do before we die.
3. He respects and spoils me. I've never had that in a relationship before, at least not both things at the same time, so it's a big bonus.

I dislike:

1. His obsession with his car. I'm the type to be happy that my car looks decent, but he will spend 4 hours detailing his car which I think is insane.

2. The fact that he can be a bit too much of a people pleaser at times.

3. His job which sucks. Long hours and being on call 24/7 is not ideal.

csousa1 · January 2012

What are the top 3 reasons (or just 3 reasons) why you are head over heels in love with your SO?

1) His sense of humor and crazy aptitude as my best friend. We can goof around and truly be ourselves, we make each other laugh, and I can tell him anything. He has a way of calming me down when I have my moments that no other person in my life has quite mastered.

2) He's a truly good person. He wants to help those in need, take care of his family, work hard, and be honorable. He values family above all else, and would lay his life down for those he loves. His loyalty is incredible.

3) He ALWAYS comes after me. Coming from a past where I was abandoned by a father and my only other serious relationship frequently let me walk away upset, that is huge to me. Even in arguments and moments of anger, he always comes back around and wants to make things right as soon as possible. He doesn't leave me feeling yucky indefinitely, and even when he is mad enough to say something stupid or hurtful, he realizes his error very quickly and apologizes.

ETA: 4) (because I won't conform to your rules) He is amazing - AMAZING - with children.

What are the top 3 things that drive you absolutely bonkers about your SO?

1) He is too willing to use his bad temprament as an excuse. He is a very quick-tempered person, and very sensitive, and he was not given the right tools by his parents at a young age to deal with all of that emotion well. He developed a tough outer shell to deal with his sensitivity in a family that valued strength and sharp tongues, and sometimes adopts that shell as his true personality. When he's upset or moody and I call him out on not handling something well, he will say' "Well, I'm just an asshole, you knew that already." I have to remind him that that's a cop out and not who he really is, and that it doesn't excuse him from handling the situation better.

2) He is not adventurous/spontaneous enough. He is content to sit on the couch, and that is not stimulating enough for me. This is something we need to work on.

3) His feet STINK.

kellyt89 · January 2012

I was just thinking about asking this last night!

What are the top 3 reasons (or just 3 reasons) why you are head over heels in love with your SO?
1. He is, hands down, the kindest, least selfish person I know. He will bend over backwards to be there for his family and friends.
2. He is very physically affectionate, caring, respectful and willing to communicate with me. He's someone that I can see always being a "team" with.
3. He is an incredibly talented musician and watching him sing and/or play the piano makes me melt

What are the top 3 things that drive you absolutely bonkers about your SO?
1. He's extremely intelligent and gets really excited about things. Sometimes this leads to him talking down to me a little (being patronizing) and it drives me crazy. I know he never means to make me feel like that and he's gotten so much better about it.
2. He has a tendancy to fixate on things - he's great at beating a dead horse! He'll almost always stop when I remind him about it, like, "honey we already talked about this and figured it out."
3. I sometimes worry about his eating habits and health - the man *loves* white bread and red meat lol.

elannis · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_likewhat-drives-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:66cea1c5-c458-4049-8de4-74aff9c7410cPost:37d39839-6c2d-4754-8f52-208ea7af55f8">Re: What do you like/what drives you crazy?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm heading off the the gym and Mo isn't home yet, but I think we should all ask our SO's to do the same thing for us...and we should tell them our top three in each category. Wouldn't that be great for communication? I'm going to do it when I get home!! I'll come back and share if Mo is willing to play along.
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

I might have to do this too. Although, it might be slightly changed from his initial response if he knows I'm going to read it, since I did mine without thinking he was going to read mine. Still interesting though! Let me know what he says and I'll share mine with you! : )

elannis · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_likewhat-drives-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:66cea1c5-c458-4049-8de4-74aff9c7410cPost:b14402a0-f463-4404-8668-3d36baa67387">Re: What do you like/what drives you crazy?</a>:
[QUOTE]What are the top 3 reasons (or just 3 reasons) why you are head over heels in love with your SO? 1) His sense of humor and crazy aptitude as my best friend. We can goof around and truly be ourselves, we make each other laugh, and I can tell him anything. He has a way of calming me down when I have my moments that no other person in my life has quite mastered. 2) He's a truly good person. He wants to help those in need, take care of his family, work hard, and be honorable. He values family above all else, and would lay his life down for those he loves. His loyalty is incredible. 3) He ALWAYS comes after me. Coming from a past where I was abandoned by a father and my only other serious relationship frequently let me walk away upset, that is huge to me. Even in arguments and moments of anger, he always comes back around and wants to make things right as soon as possible. He doesn't leave me feeling yucky indefinitely, and even when he is mad enough to say something stupid or hurtful, he realizes his error very quickly and apologizes. ETA: 4) (because I won't conform to your rules) He is amazing - AMAZING - with children. What are the top 3 things that drive you absolutely bonkers about your SO? 1) He is too willing to use his bad temprament as an excuse. He is a very quick-tempered person, and very sensitive, and he was not given the right tools by his parents at a young age to deal with all of that emotion well. He developed a tough outer shell to deal with his sensitivity in a family that valued strength and sharp tongues, and sometimes adopts that shell as his true personality. When he's upset or moody and I call him out on not handling something well, he will say' "Well, I'm just an asshole, you knew that already." I have to remind him that that's a cop out and not who he really is, and that it doesn't excuse him from handling the situation better. 2) He is not adventurous/spontaneous enough. He is content to sit on the couch, and that is not stimulating enough for me. This is something we need to work on. 3) His feet STINK.
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]

Lol, always a rebel in the bunch! My FI doesn't let things go on long either. He knows that I like to think things over (sometimes sleep on it) before talking about it, but he is more the type to figure things out right away. I'm working on not taking so long to think about things or to bring up things that bother me and he's working on giving me time, but being supportive while he waits. The only time we ever really argue, though, is when his mother is involved, so we don't have to deal with it often.

He sounds like the perfect guy for you though! : )

csousa1 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_likewhat-drives-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:66cea1c5-c458-4049-8de4-74aff9c7410cPost:37d39839-6c2d-4754-8f52-208ea7af55f8">Re: What do you like/what drives you crazy?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm heading off the the gym and Mo isn't home yet, but I think we should all ask our SO's to do the same thing for us...and we should tell them our top three in each category. Wouldn't that be great for communication? I'm going to do it when I get home!! I'll come back and share if Mo is willing to play along.
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

I love this idea. Jon may not want to play, but I'm going to try!

Peaseblossom55 · January 2012

What are the top 3 reasons (or just 3 reasons) why you are head over heels in love with your SO?

1. How much he loves me

2. sense of humor

3. his caring and kind nature

What are the top 3 things that drive you absolutely bonkers about your SO?

1. procratination

2. he sometimes is bad at making decisions, small ones, like I'll ask him what he wants for dinner and he is like whatever you want. argghhh..

3. nothing else i can really think of

Swazzle · January 2012

I just asked Sean what makes him head over heels in love with me & here's what I got back: -Your farts. And so I yelled THIS IS FOR SERIOUS!! And he said: - I make him the happiest he's ever been - We understand each other - I'm beautiful I'll take that

IrishDreamer · January 2012

Okay, so I'm a little late to the game:

1) His love for his family and mine. He calls my sisters his sisters, and would drop everything and help them if he could.

2) He loves me and cares for me even when I think I'm unloveable, which to be honest is a lot. I'm a self proclaimed bitch, and don't make qualms about it. I realize I am difficult and I am working on it, but some days I just say eff it.

3) He is the most supportive person I know. He pushes me to do whatever makes me happy, whatever will make me a better person. He keeps me rational and level headed, even when I don't want to be. He just... complements me.

Dislike:

1) His cleaning habits. The biggest problem is that we are similar in this aspect, and it can seem like I'm the only one who cleans or does laundry. It infuriates the snot out of me. We've been working on it, but it needs more lol.

2) He thinks he is always right. Unfortunately, most of the time he is - but not all the time. He will argue till the death if he thinks he is right.

3) He pushes me to talk when I am not ready. Which is good and bad. A lot of the time it just pisses me off and makes me not want to talk even less. Then he gets pissy, and I get pissy because he's pissy. It's a cycle really.

jorja86 · January 2012

I love:
1. He is genuinely the most caring person I know. He would do anything for me, my family, my friends. He loves animals. He can't wait to be a Dad.

2. His sense of humor. Seriously, we have so many inside jokes, most of which are incredibly stupid, but we always make each other laugh.

3. His intelligence, and drive in his career.

I don't like:
1. Laziness around the house. Growing up, he didn't have to lift a finger, and still falls into the old habits far too often.

2. He can be really unmotivated in other areas of his life, and get discouraged when things don't just happen on their own.

3. He can be a little needy-there are times he just wants so, so much attention, and I just want some time to myself.

tdwpg1984 · January 2012

Likes:

1. He always comes up with super awesome gift ideas for like birthdays/Christmas etc. I always love what he gets me. And not because the stuff is good (that helps) but because he obviously knows my likes and dislikes enough to find good presents. THAT'S the part I like best about it.

2. He always has such a positive attitude.

3. He makes me want to be a better person, and helps me do that.

Things I dislike about him:

1. He can be nitpicky. He's found a few things he doesn't like about me and goes on and on and on about them.

2. Sometimes he's too goofy, or goofy at inappropriate moments. Like he'll do something goofy when I'm trying to be romantic and initiate sexy times, and it turns me off.

3. I think he drinks too much. Every Sunday he goes to his friend's place and they watch football and he gets really drunk. Like REALLY drunk. Drunk to the point where there was a few days he had to lie on their lawn for like 45 minutes to be undrunk.

tdwpg1984 · January 2012