Intro

ajwils04

Hello Everyone,

I'm Amanda.  I live in Iowa and am so closed to being engaged I can taste it!  I'm so glad to see there are other women who are struggling not to become wrapped up in the wedding bliss before the proposal.

I've been with my BF for 10 wonderful months.  Last week he called me at the end of my shift while I was at work and said "you know how we were talking about getting engaged?  Well, I don't know what kind of ring you want, but let's do it."  So... after I got home we talked about it and I ordered a ring from Etsy.  It's a vintage ring and I'm really excited about it.  I told him once the ring comes that he can "formally propose" to me when he's ready.

That being said, I'm incredibly anxious and want to tell everyone I know, but I'm not sure whether or not that will make things less special.  Part of me wants to completely drop the subject for fear of nagging.  I dunno.

Thanks for reading.  I appreciate having a place to get my thoughts down.

ajwils04

Hello Everyone,

I'm Amanda.  I live in Iowa and am so closed to being engaged I can taste it!  I'm so glad to see there are other women who are struggling not to become wrapped up in the wedding bliss before the proposal.

I've been with my BF for 10 wonderful months.  Last week he called me at the end of my shift while I was at work and said "you know how we were talking about getting engaged?  Well, I don't know what kind of ring you want, but let's do it."  So... after I got home we talked about it and I ordered a ring from Etsy.  It's a vintage ring and I'm really excited about it.  I told him once the ring comes that he can "formally propose" to me when he's ready.

That being said, I'm incredibly anxious and want to tell everyone I know, but I'm not sure whether or not that will make things less special.  Part of me wants to completely drop the subject for fear of nagging.  I dunno.

Thanks for reading.  I appreciate having a place to get my thoughts down.

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]Hello Everyone, I'm Amanda.  I live in Iowa and am so closed to being engaged I can taste it!  I'm so glad to see there are other women who are struggling not to become wrapped up in the wedding bliss before the proposal. I've been with my BF for 10 wonderful months.  Last week he called me at the end of my shift while I was at work and said "you know how we were talking about getting engaged?  Well, I don't know what kind of ring you want, but let's do it."  So... after I got home we talked about it and I ordered a ring from Etsy.  It's a vintage ring and I'm really excited about it.  I told him once the ring comes that he can "formally propose" to me when he's ready. That being said, I'm incredibly anxious and want to tell everyone I know, but I'm not sure whether or not that will make things less special.  <strong>Part of me wants to completely drop the subject for fear of nagging.  I dunno.</strong> Thanks for reading.  I appreciate having a place to get my thoughts down.
Posted by ajwils04[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I would drop it and let him do his thing.  He'll propose when he is ready (and has said ring) so just let it be until then.  I'm not saying you'll "ruin" anything, but this is really a special time...embrace it, enjoy it and stay calm.
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GreenPepperBurger

I agree wif Paige, yo.

PaigeMcC

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[QUOTE]I agree wif Paige, yo.
Posted by GreenPepperBurger[/QUOTE]
It's cause you've got such a cool new sig pic, dawg;)

AudgiePodge

Calm down and stop rushing. I'll happen eventually, I'm sure.

GreenPepperBurger

Thanks!

bakes218

I was going to say the same thing...love the new siggy picture!

GreenPepperBurger

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[QUOTE]I was going to say the same thing...love the new siggy picture!
Posted by bakes218[/QUOTE]

Thank you!!

Blue & White

Sounds like it'll happen prettty soon.  And if it doesn't, you still have a pretty awesome guy, right?

We're good at helping you to chill on this board though (at least, others have been helpful for me and I'd hope I was helpful to at least SOMEBODY!)

I can't imagine picking out my ring though...but I don't think I'll get the option, knowing my boyfriend.  So I guess that's okay.  haha

Welcome to the board!

Elle1036

I'm in a very similar situation, so I know exactly how you're feeling.  And even though the crazy anticipation gets to me sometimes, I'm trying really hard to just enjoy this stage, anticipation and all.  Once he proposes for real and the ring is on your finger, you can't go back.

ajwils04

Thanks everyone for the support!

I know that if I were on the outside looking in I would tell myself the exact same thing - actually, I'm pretty sure I've tried multiple times.  I guess it just helps to have someone tell you that you need  to cool it.

I am extremely blessed to have someone who accepts my obsessive tendencies as part of the entire package, but I try not to subject him to them all the time.  That's where you guys come in!

I'm excited to become a part of this community and look forward to speaking with you all!

jemmini6

You know it's coming, so I would just completely drop the subject and let him do it.  I can imagine it's hard not to tell everyone, but it will be worth the wait

loves2shop4shoes

Relax and be patient.  Although I can completely relate.  My FI bought my engagement ring right in front of me.  We were on vacation in Mexico and shopping in Diamonds International.  We were looking at settings and loose stones and next thing I know, we're buying a ring.  Evidently I'm so picky that he wanted me to hand pick everything so he could be sure I would like it.

He proposed 2 months later.

ETA:  I was in such shock that he bought the ring right in front of me that the saleslady brought over a bottle of tequila to calm me down.  Yes, I did tequila shots in the jewelry store as FI was paying.  Only in Mexico...

GreenPepperBurger

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[QUOTE]Relax and be patient.  Although I can completely relate.  My FI bought my engagement ring right in front of me.  We were on vacation in Mexico and shopping in Diamonds International.  We were looking at settings and loose stones and next thing I know, we're buying a ring.  Evidently I'm so picky that he wanted me to hand pick everything so he could be sure I would like it. He proposed 2 months later. ETA:  I was in such shock that he bought the ring right in front of me that the saleslady brought over a bottle of tequila to calm me down.  Yes, I did tequila shots in the jewelry store as FI was paying.  Only in Mexico...
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

Haha, that's a story to tell the grandkids!

tiffk10

Congrats!

I totally understand being excited and wanting to tell people. My BF and I picked out a ring over a year ago and he has still yet to give it to me, something about wanting the proposal to be perfect has been said I would step back and give him some space to make it special for both of you. And wait to tell people until you have the ring. Otherwise you will get funny looks and people will hurt your feelings because they wont understand because you don't have the ring on your finger. Trust me. Been with my BF 7 years and everyone tells me they will be excited for me once the ring is on my finger. Congrats again!

whereyat

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[QUOTE]Congrats! I totally understand being excited and wanting to tell people. My BF and I picked out a ring over a year ago and he has still yet to give it to me, something about wanting the proposal to be perfect has been said ;) I would step back and give him some space to make it special for both of you. And wait to tell people until you have the ring. Otherwise you will get funny looks and people will hurt your feelings because they wont understand because you don't have the ring on your finger. Trust me. Been with my BF 7 years and everyone tells me they will be excited for me once the ring is on my finger. Congrats again!
Posted by tiffk10[/QUOTE]

This advice was helpful to me too (sorry not to hijack your post, OP) - just knowing that they WILL be excited, once I do actually have the ring. (Mine is being made). So just wait and (try to) chill, b/c there's no going back once u do have it!  (I'm talking to myself just as much as you).  Hang in there! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />