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Hello, I'm Courtney and I am almost 25. I live in Indiana and am not engaged, but am planning. My soon to be fiance is waiting on the right moment, I guess haha. We both know that we want to be married and spend the rest of our lives together!!!  I hope there are others that I can relate to and come herwe for support!!
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  • AudgiePodgeAudgiePodge member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hi-im-new-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6ebe2031-8275-456e-a097-47ecc569fab4Post:3a79478b-ca26-4a0b-b64b-5ecf153a1f49">Hi, Im NEW</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hello, I'm Courtney and I am almost 25. I live in Indiana and <strong>am not engaged, but am planning</strong>. My soon to be fiance is waiting on the right moment, I guess haha. We both know that we want to be married and spend the rest of our lives together!!!  I hope there are others that I can relate to and come herwe for support!!
    Posted by courtie7[/QUOTE]

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  • AudgiePodgeAudgiePodge member
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    Read this: http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_welcome-not-engaged-yet
    I'm not good at feelings.

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  • marleylikeairmarleylikeair member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hi-im-new-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6ebe2031-8275-456e-a097-47ecc569fab4Post:3a79478b-ca26-4a0b-b64b-5ecf153a1f49">Hi, Im NEW</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hello, I'm Courtney and I am almost 25. I live in Indiana and am not engaged, but am planning. My soon to be fiance is waiting on the right moment, I guess haha. We both know that we want to be married and spend the rest of our lives together!!!  I hope there are others that I can relate to and come herwe for support!!
    Posted by courtie7[/QUOTE]

    <div>Hiya, Courtney. Have you read this yet? <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_welcome-not-engaged-yet">Welcome to Not Engaged (Yet!) - Please Read before posting!</a> You really should. Most of the ladies on this board will tell you that if you aren't engaged yet, step away from the planning!</div><div>
    </div><div>That said, all you need is a mutual agreement that you are engaged and planning a wedding.</div><div>
    </div><div>This is definitely a good place to be for support. Sometimes it'll come in the form of tough love, too, so be prepared!</div><div>
    </div><div>In any case, tell us more about you and your BF. Also, how do you like your potatoes? Mac and cheese? Do you like Harry Potter?</div>
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  • marleylikeairmarleylikeair member
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    Haha, Audgie, we had the same idea at the same time. Didn't mean to step on your toes at all--came back after posting and saw yours.
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  • AudgiePodgeAudgiePodge member
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    Better posted twice than not at all. :)
    I'm not good at feelings.

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  • DanieKADanieKA member
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    edited December 2011
    Welcome! Don't post and run without a warning. I need to know your stance on 'taters NOW!
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  • marleylikeairmarleylikeair member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hi-im-new-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6ebe2031-8275-456e-a097-47ecc569fab4Post:93a17407-24ce-4107-80fa-85727ca16491">Re: Hi, Im NEW</a>:
    [QUOTE]Better posted twice than not at all. :)
    Posted by AudgiePodge[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Indeed!</div><div>
    </div><div>ETA:</div><div>
    </div><div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;color:#1f1f1f;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;text-align:left;line-height:normal;">In Response to <a style="text-decoration:none;font-weight:normal;color:#1f1f1f;" href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hi-im-new-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6ebe2031-8275-456e-a097-47ecc569fab4Post:8656cc95-d104-45e8-a5f2-d45f6c4858c7">Re: Hi, Im NEW</a>:
    [QUOTE]Welcome! Don't post and run without a warning. I need to know your stance on 'taters NOW!
    Posted by DanieKA[/QUOTE]
    </div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;color:#1f1f1f;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;text-align:left;line-height:normal;">
    </div><div style="font-family:Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10px;background-color:initial;background-image:none;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;color:#1f1f1f;font:normal normal normal 11px/14px Arial, sans-serif;text-align:left;line-height:normal;">Danie, you are funny and I like you. :)</div>
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  • desertsundesertsun member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hi-im-new-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6ebe2031-8275-456e-a097-47ecc569fab4Post:3a79478b-ca26-4a0b-b64b-5ecf153a1f49">Hi, Im NEW</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hello, I'm Courtney and I am almost 25. I live in Indiana and am not engaged, but am planning. My soon to be fiance is waiting on the right moment, I guess haha. We both know that we want to be married and spend the rest of our lives together!!!  I hope there are others that I can relate to and come herwe for support!!
    Posted by courtie7[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>It's an exciting time, isn't it? Knowing you've met that person you want to spend your life with, and that he feels the same is just SO wonderful. Congratulations! :)</div><div>
    </div><div>Where in Indiana are you? Is that where you grew up? Tell us more about yourself.</div><div>
    </div><div>And, of course, I have to reiterate what Marley and Audgie have said. I know how excited you are to get married, but know that there is so much more to marriage than the wedding day, and that there are a variety of reasons most of us would encourage you to hold off on planning until you are actually engaged. Please read the thread linked above, and come back and share your thoughts!</div><div>
    </div><div>Hi and welcome!</div><div>

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  • DanieKADanieKA member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hi-im-new-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6ebe2031-8275-456e-a097-47ecc569fab4Post:d9cbb3c5-b671-4a9b-9181-deeb7df3970e">Re: Hi, Im NEW</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hi, Im NEW : Indeed! ETA: In Response to  Re: Hi, Im NEW : Danie, you are funny and I like you. :)
    Posted by marleylikeair[/QUOTE]

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  • marleylikeairmarleylikeair member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hi-im-new-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6ebe2031-8275-456e-a097-47ecc569fab4Post:3aacfb71-bc02-4f45-a5c4-8e5b124aa707">Re: Hi, Im NEW</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hi, Im NEW : Aw, thanks! I like you too! Virtual Hug Party!!!
    Posted by DanieKA[/QUOTE]

    <div>Aww, yay! My Monday night needed some warm fuzzies!</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hi-im-new-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6ebe2031-8275-456e-a097-47ecc569fab4Post:1e0874fa-e052-4c23-b6e2-b124f21ba1e4">Re: Hi, Im NEW</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Hi, Im NEW : Hiya, Courtney. Have you read this yet?  Welcome to Not Engaged (Yet!) - Please Read before posting!  You really should. Most of the ladies on this board will tell you that if you aren't engaged yet, step away from the planning! <strong>That said, all you need is a mutual agreement that you are engaged and planning a wedding.</strong> This is definitely a good place to be for support. Sometimes it'll come in the form of tough love, too, so be prepared! In any case, tell us more about you and your BF. Also, how do you like your potatoes? Mac and cheese? Do you like Harry Potter?
    Posted by marleylikeair[/QUOTE]

    OP - Marley's right.  You don't need a RING to be engaged.  But you specifically said you aren't engaged, so I would advise to stop planning.  Enjoy this stage of your relationship and begin planning after you consider yourself engaged.

    To be clear, a mutual agreement that you are engaged is not the same thing as both knowing that you want to get married to each other one day. 
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  • loves2shop4shoesloves2shop4shoes member
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    edited December 2011
    Guys, stop being such hoars.  She said she was planning...and she obviously meant planning her weekly grocery menu!  God, why are you people such mean hoars?!

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  • dragonwagondragonwagon
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    I don't mean to be rude. I'm pretty new here so I may need to be pointed in the right direction. But what is the point of having a "Not Engaged Yet" message board on a Wedding Website if it's so frowned upon to plan for a wedding before being engaged? I always assumed if a couple were planning a wedding together, they were understood to be engaged whether it was "official" yet or not.
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  • aah009aah009
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hi-im-new-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6ebe2031-8275-456e-a097-47ecc569fab4Post:aadb3e8c-01e6-4533-a6fa-053d764fcb01">Re: Hi, Im NEW</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't mean to be rude. I'm pretty new here so I may need to be pointed in the right direction. But what is the point of having a "Not Engaged Yet" message board on a Wedding Website if it's so frowned upon to plan for a wedding before being engaged? I always assumed if a couple were planning a wedding together, they were understood to be engaged whether it was "official" yet or not.
    Posted by dragonwagon[/QUOTE]

    <div>Hey, having ideas and looking at websites, thats fine. But booking, calling, ect.. not okay. </div><div>
    </div><div>Welcome OP though! How do you feel about twilight?</div>
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  • sparkles88sparkles88 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hi-im-new-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6ebe2031-8275-456e-a097-47ecc569fab4Post:aadb3e8c-01e6-4533-a6fa-053d764fcb01">Re: Hi, Im NEW</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't mean to be rude. I'm pretty new here so I may need to be pointed in the right direction. <strong>But what is the point of having a "Not Engaged Yet" message board on a Wedding Website if it's so frowned upon to plan for a wedding before being engaged?</strong> I always assumed if a couple were planning a wedding together, they were understood to be engaged whether it was "official" yet or not.
    Posted by dragonwagon[/QUOTE]


    I signed up for TK, because it was required reading for a wedding planning class I was taking, and I figured it would be helpful for an engagement party I was hired to work on. NEY stuck out to me on the boards, because I figured it was a place other unengaged people (bridesmaids, other event planners, siblings, etc) were hanging out at, possibly discussing non-wedding related things. Most of the time that's exactly what this board seems to be.
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  • loves2shop4shoesloves2shop4shoes member
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    Ok.  If a couple has made an agreement to get married and is planning their wedding together, they are engaged...ring or no ring.

    If a couple has not made an agreement to get married and is just talking about their hypothetical wedding, they are not engaged and should not be planning.

    If your BF says to you, "I want to marry you someday," and you get overly excited, go BSC, and start planning your pretty princess day...THAT'S WHAT WE'RE HERE FOR...to put you in check.


    SOOO...any questions?

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  • dragonwagondragonwagon
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hi-im-new-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:6ebe2031-8275-456e-a097-47ecc569fab4Post:22bacfee-98b5-47b1-bf76-2873bb7ee48d">Re: Hi, Im NEW</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hi, Im NEW : Hey, having ideas and looking at websites, thats fine. <strong>But booking, calling, ect.. not okay</strong>.  Welcome OP though! How do you feel about twilight?
    Posted by aah009[/QUOTE]


    Ha! Yes, I can totally agree with this. I get it now, so thanks for clarifying.

    I wasn't on the same wave-length. Brain fart! I guess I asked that because I assumed OP meant planning as in just getting ideas together, but maybe not neccesarily booking venues and whatnot.

    No further questions, your honor! :P
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  • alanacatherinealanacatherine member
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  • SeaTea02SeaTea02
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    edited December 2011
    Honestly, I knew I was going to marry FI when I was like 17 or 18. Should I have started planning then? 

    Regardless of what that stupid tag line says, this board is here to talk you down and slap some reality into your pre-planning head. 

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