*slams head against the wall*

nottheonlydreamer44

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: *slams head against the wall* : Yes, I would feel bad for people whose medical history I've decided it's ok to openly distribute. I would feel AWFUL that I'm leaving them. Also, you know you've broken the law, yet it's ok because you've fessed up to it, whoop-de-do. I am genuinely sympathetic to someone getting harassed at work, but I am not for someone who decides that that wrong is greater than their own, and thus should sue for it.
Posted by hetshup[/QUOTE]

I didn't disclose ANYTHING that the person I gave information to, didn't already know. All I said to his PROBATION OFFICER was that he threatened to kill me and that he had relapsed. I didn't go running around with this persons chart screaming about his past and everything else. I do feel awful that I'm leaving because you know what - I did care and I don't need to justify that to you or anyone else.

I didn't need to fess up to anything I wrote the REPORT on it and turned it in. I did not think or know it was going to lead to me getting fired (due to the fact that I had acted in good faith and protected myself which the <strong><em>LAW</em></strong> says I am well within my own rights to do). All I am saying is that I believe my work went to the extreme <em>because </em>of the harassment claims I made about my boss.

Like I said before I don't need you or anyone else's sympathy - never asked for it or implied I wanted it. I just said what I was going to do because I do feel my work retailated against me for the allegations I made. I've said my piece and now it goes whereever it goes.

oceana919

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: *slams head against the wall* : Hetchup: Not sure why the comment about going to my therapist was necessary (which btw I already saw my psychiatrist this week per the suggestion of my former employer). There's no reason for anyone to be snarky towards this post and I'm more than capable of helping myself but appreciate the offbeat advice. [/QUOTE]

I didn't find her suggestion snarky at all. It seemed like a pretty reasonable suggestion. You are undergoing a period of high stress and (likely) high emotion, and she suggested you talk with your therapist. That seemed like a pretty decent suggestion to me.

[QUOTE] I'm done posting on this subject and I would appreciate it if everyone else would as well. Thank you all for everything.
Posted by nottheonlydreamer44[/QUOTE]

You should know, with the amount of time you hang out here on the board, that it's kinda hard to put the worms back in the can once you open it. Trying to cut off the conversation because you don't like the direction it's going doesn't always go very well around here.

oceana919

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[QUOTE]Oceana -  so<strong> I didn't see the point in continuing on with it.</strong> That's all.
Posted by nottheonlydreamer44[/QUOTE]

This is the <em>third</em> time you've said that. And yet you keep coming back. Third time's a charm, maybe?

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Acrosthec

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: *slams head against the wall* : I didn't disclose ANYTHING that the person I gave information to, didn't already know. All I said to his PROBATION OFFICER was that he threatened to kill me <strong>and that he had relapsed.</strong>
Posted by nottheonlydreamer44[/QUOTE]

Honestly, while under most HIPAA stuff you are 100% justified to tell law enforcement that he threatened your life or the life of another (if you honestly believe said person would act on that threat), you were probably NOT justified to tell law enforcement about his relapse.  That's medical information that the probation officer didn't need to know.  All he needed to know was that a threat had been made.

If you really told him about the relapse, I would make sure you mention that to your attorney, as that may be where the violation is coming from.  Knowing ahead of time will help your attorney know the best way to try and counter the argument.

nottheonlydreamer44

Thank you Acro,

I know you're a lawyer so that helps out a bit. The only reason I said anything about his relapse is because that was the only thing she could bring him in on. That was a violation of his probation (he was going in that day alone) and he would not have to take a urine test. I couldn't get him picked up by the police because everytime I called 911, he took off only to return later. The police are so busy sometimes a 911 call can take 30 or 40 mins.

I was scared for myself and I knew our protocol at another facility I worked in (within this company) required us to notify probation officers when there had been a problem. His own casemanager told me to call after I told him what was going on. Does this matter at all? He was in violation of his probation and I definitely was sure he was serious about hurting me.... just wondering. But I will definitely tell my lawyer that on tuesday.

Thanks again for the non-legal advice.

Acrosthec

As bad as it is, you probably should've stuck with trying the 911 calls.  As far as I know it is a violation of HIPAA to tell the probation officer about his relapse, even if it was so that the probation officer would be able to lock him up.  I'm actually surprised the probation officer would not take it upon him/herself to give him a drug test just upon hearing about the threat he made, but maybe that's just me.  His PO should've been able to hold him on that basis alone, with or without a drug test, and turn him over to the proper authorities.  While it may seem logical to you, it was most likely a violation to tell about the relapse as it was not necessary to have him picked up.  It may matter that you were called and asked by his casemanager, but that's something you'll have to discuss with your attorney.  I know at our office we always say we can't say anything until a HIPAA waiver is signed, and we don't open our mouths other than to utter than sentence, to anyone.