Hi Everyone! So as you all know, I got engaged about 3 weeks ago. YAY. I also started law school 2 weeks ago...Sigh.
FI and I have discussed a general timeline for the wedding, but we haven't been able to nail down anything more specific yet, and I'd like to.
Originally, we thought Summer 2012 would be perfect because it would be the summer after my 2nd year of law school. This gives us 2 years to plan, which is enough time that I won't have to plan and study at the same time. However, I'm unsure if this is the best time.
The thing is, in law school, summer internships can make or break you. Summer after 1L, your internship usually is not too serious. However, summer after 2L, you usually try to get an internship that will give you a job upon graduation. So, I'm afraid of getting married & taking a honeymoon during a summer where performing well at work is SO important. Also, I'm afraid that it will be even harder to find a good summer internship when I say "I'm getting married in the beginning/end of the summer AND taking a honeymoon. Kthanx." Summer after I graduate is 1) too far away and 2) impractical since I have to pass the bar and start a job in the same summer.
So, I don't know what to do. I've thought about maybe getting married this coming summer, but the thought of planning a wedding during the first year of law school is absolutely cringeworthy.
I've also considered getting married during a December break, but I would prefer to get married around here (Boston) and with my luck, there would be a blizzard on my wedding day.
I've also considered getting married during Spring Break of 2L and taking a honeymoon over the summer.
FI and I would prefer a wedding in the spring/summertime in Boston. I think we would also prefer some time to plan without losing our minds. What do you all think?
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I'd either get married this coming summer or after you graduate. Honestly, wedding planning is only as stressful as you make it. You can always simplify things. However, I would personally wait until graduation. I know two people who got married after graduating law school. One of whom took the bar exam a week before the wedding. And everything worked out fine.
The timing and stress will never be convenient. THerefore, do it when you want.
I would also give more thought to the winter wedding. A lot more will be available, you'll get more price breaks and it may be easier for you. Depending on when we got engaged (we wanted a very short engagement) I definitely would have entertained the idea of a winter wedding. (Yes, even in Boston... where those price breaks may really come in handy).
GL!
Do it at the end of your 2L summer - don't tell your employer when they're interviewing but let them know once you get hired what your end-date will be, they usually give you a week to two weeks at the end of the summer anyway before classes start. And with budgets being cut short everywhere, most 2L internships that I'm seeing are only 10-12 weeks, giving students about a month off.
Doing it right after finals your 2L year will also kill you. You want at least 6 weeks on either side of a final because those are intense - people I know barely take the time to shower during this time. Seriously.
So I'd say do it in early August 2012. Gives you plenty of time to get your internship in, no one is going to begrude you leaving a week earlier if need be for your wedding.
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Spring break would be an option, if you really need to, but do it your 2L year.
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I know you are in love with the idea of a spring/summer wedding in Boston but that's also 1. the busiest time of year and 2. the most expensive (especially in a big city). Plus your time frame/law school just does not work for next summer at all. 2L isn't going to work either - you need to definitely be focused on getting a good internship; NOT stressing over a wedding and what will happen when you get back from your honeymoon. It won't be any fun.
I don't know how long your winter break is (our is 7 weeks) and that is when I got married the first time around. If you do an early winter wedding you probably won't get slammed with a blizzard and trust me a winter wedding is beautiful! Even if it's 3-4 weeks honestly you will be happy to have that as your come down from finals. As Asper said: you can do everything quickly because not a lot of vendors are booked.
I wanted nothing more than to switch to summer this time around (though I'm not a summer fan) I just wanted some separation from the 1st one. However, it's dead in the middle of summer A term (which I needed to take) there is literally no good time to do it I'm doing every quarter including all 3 summer terms.
In my lovely time off I managed to get all of the wedding planned for the most part. You can knock it out in a month of planning and it doesn't have to be stressful. I'm going to get all my work finished ahead of time (I hope) but it's a 5 week quarter and I'm going to miss 2 weeks of it. lol.
PM if you need to talk and I hope Law School is going well so far!
I'm also one of those girls that's basically doing an all-inclusive. My ceremony is at a different location than my reception, but the reception is including everything but the cake. We're not using a limo, instead we're a friend or family member to drive us between the ceremony & reception and someone will take our car to the hotel for us so we don't have to rely on someone to pick us up the next day. We've had several people offer to do this for us already. I've also had a ton of friends offer to help in whatever way they can. So, if you let them help you, I'm sure the planning won't be nearly as stressful as you think. And your wedding will be perfect no matter when you choose to have it.