Yesterday, FI was a saint. Today, I want to smack him.
For instance, totally normal: I was trying to decide what shoes to wear today. I ask "Should I wear the gray ones or the brown ones?" knowing full well he probably wouldn't care enough to give me an honest answer. He says "the gray ones."
I put the brown ones on. "Are you sure?" He says "Those look fine."
I considered putting the gray ones on and asking again to see what he would say.... because I know he'd then say "Those look fine, just wear them."
That's just an example. It's always "the easiest way to do things." Here's what's driving me crazy:
I am trying to address our wedding invitation envelopes. I asked him who his sister is bringing. He says "Just put 'and guest.'" I said "No, I don't want to put and guest. I want to put their name. It's more polite."
He texted his sister after much complaining and found out the guy's name. Then he proceeds to argue with me about how we should just send the guy his own invitation. I said no, he's your sister's guest. And FI says "Yeah, but if you're not going to put "and guest" you should just send him his own because his name will be on it anyway."
I tried to explain etiquette to him.... and he said his mom and I have two differing versions of etiquette. I say, like what?
His mom says that on the front envelope you should put "Mr. & Mrs Firstname Lastname" and on the inside envelope you put "Firstname Firstname and Family"
I said "So, what do I say?"
I say put "Mr. & Mrs. Firstname Lastname" on the outer envelope, and on the next line you put the names of their children.
Right. so...... the discrepency?
We don't have inside envelopes. So, his mom and I are BOTH right. Amazing.
Now he complains that the etiquette police are not going to kill us if we put "and guest" or "and family." I say, I want to do things the right way because I would like to show some thought and concern about addressing my guests properly. He says, nobody will care.
*I* cared when we were invited to a formal wedding for a former roommate of OURS who addressed us "Joshua Lastname and Guest."
WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER ALMOST 6 YEARS AND I LIVED THERE!
So, yeah, as unimportant as it may seem, it does look careless and kind of even a little rude in our case. We were already engaged when they invited us.
FI says he hated addressing his graduation envelopes and doesn't see why I should stress so much over wedding envelopes.
I say, I wouldn't have to stress so much if he would just answer my questions about his family and friends and stop making things so much more difficult just because he wants to address things "Billy Bob, My Best Buddy Ever and Guest" and I'd like to put "Mr. William Robert Jones & Ms. Jane Smith."
Can anybody out there relate to this?
