Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)

Edmqueen

I got on here yesterday, tried leaving some posts & women came & razzed me about all kinds of things. I tried to say sorry but now I'm blacklisted & not welcome anywhere. Oh and if anyone notices, this post is under NOT ENGAGED. So, that clears up any misunderstanding about my status. I thought this would be fun and I'd get ideas.

I'm prepared to meet any questions you may have about me. Private message me as I don't wear my heart on my sleeve. hahah.

swhite2012

OK, I'm going to try and explain here why people have been "mean" to you. First of all, you storm into random boards, each with their own personality and way of doing thing, and completely disregard this. Secondly, yes, you are on the Not Engaged Yet board. But if you read and lurked before posting like its suggested, you would realize that the general consensus around here is that planning a wedding before you are engaged is frowned upon. That's all. The regulars are just trying to help you realize that. But you have an attitude about it, and that makes people just not want to talk to you.

We don't encourage pre-planning. We don't talk about pre-planning. We talk about your relationship if you want, but lots of other things. Everyone here is nice and has good things to say if you will let them. But I have a feeling you wont.

Also, I know you're probably a troll and just trying to stir up drama, or else you would realize that asking that question about dresses here after everything is just stupid. I just thought if you really do care, I would give you a thoughtful response.

Stina51286

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friendly-ladies-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7dcd180d-484a-47f6-a439-d9c82c81041bPost:f4fbf8aa-8cd5-4e93-971c-a31f768ae5b9">Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)</a>:
[QUOTE]I got on here yesterday, tried leaving some posts & women came & razzed me about all kinds of things. I tried to say sorry but now I'm blacklisted & not welcome anywhere. Oh and if anyone notices, this post is under NOT ENGAGED. So, that clears up any misunderstanding about my status. I thought this would be fun and I'd get ideas. I'm prepared to meet any questions you may have about me. Private message me as I don't wear my heart on my sleeve. hahah. Oh I've looked at dresses & found plenty that would be great. Any ideas would be great.
Posted by Edmqueen[/QUOTE]

Just because its NOT ENGAGED YET, does not mean there is a variety of people on here. I agree with what swhite said 100%. Oh and what Yaga said. STOP PRE-PLANNING!!!!!

Edmqueen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friendly-ladies-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7dcd180d-484a-47f6-a439-d9c82c81041bPost:73735c0e-688b-4b84-a205-5fe755bc59c7">Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)</a>:
[QUOTE]OK, I'm going to try and explain here why people have been "mean" to you. First of all, you storm into random boards, each with their own personality and way of doing thing, and completely disregard this. Secondly, yes, you are on the Not Engaged Yet board. But if you read and lurked before posting like its suggested, you would realize that the general consensus around here is that planning a wedding before you are engaged is frowned upon. That's all. The regulars are just trying to help you realize that. But you have an attitude about it, and that makes people just not want to talk to you. We don't encourage pre-planning. We don't talk about pre-planning. We talk about your relationship if you want, but lots of other things. Everyone here is nice and has good things to say if you will let them. But I have a feeling you wont. Also, I know you're probably a troll and just trying to stir up drama, or else you would realize that asking that question about dresses here after everything is just stupid. I just thought if you really do care, I would give you a thoughtful response.
Posted by swhite2012[/QUOTE]

Ok, can I remedy the situation? I'm a really good person and didn't want to piss people off. Thanks for being honest <3

peekaboo2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friendly-ladies-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7dcd180d-484a-47f6-a439-d9c82c81041bPost:4b849507-dc0b-42b6-a246-50a2e8142c79">Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting) : Ok, can I remedy the situation? I'm a really good person and didn't want to piss people off. Thanks for being honest <3
Posted by Edmqueen[/QUOTE]

<div>You told a reg to go elsewhere.  Bridge burned.</div>

Edmqueen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friendly-ladies-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7dcd180d-484a-47f6-a439-d9c82c81041bPost:be48aee4-87a3-493b-bedf-98af88d64a55">Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Eloping Thoughts : I don't think this was rude... And I was pretty helpful.
Posted by hellotarra[/QUOTE]
 
Thanks =) I just want to learn and make some friends here. just tell me what to do. If if i can do anything.....

Stina51286

Kind of late though by telling one of our ladies to leave.

CASK85

I think what Swhite said to you was very nice and great advice. I don't think you're a troll trying to stir up drama, but you are not making many friends just storming in and telling people what to do and making a ton of posts. If you want to stay you'll have to figure out how things work on a message board in general and this one in particular. Otherwise you won't be here long. . . listen to the advice, because so far you're not, and it isn't working out for anyone.

csousa1

in·san·i·ty/inˈsanitē/

Noun:

Repeating the same action over and over, expecting different results.

Edmqueen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friendly-ladies-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7dcd180d-484a-47f6-a439-d9c82c81041bPost:63528f9a-5a2d-4ecf-b8d1-6c1f10249620">Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)</a>:
[QUOTE]I think what Swhite said to you was very nice and great advice. I don't think you're a troll trying to stir up drama, but you are not making many friends just storming in and telling people what to do and making a ton of posts. If you want to stay you'll have to figure out how things work on a message board in general and this one in particular. Otherwise you won't be here long. . . listen to the advice, because so far you're not, and it isn't working out for anyone.
Posted by cschiano[/QUOTE]

Ok, thanks, I know people want to know about me. Is there anything you would want to know?

Swazzle

No. 

Just no. 

CASK85

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friendly-ladies-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7dcd180d-484a-47f6-a439-d9c82c81041bPost:ab38c203-ea1f-4dd3-8c0d-e283002f2596">Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting) : Ok, thanks, I know people want to know about me. Is there anything you would want to know?
Posted by Edmqueen[/QUOTE]
Here is my best piece of advice. Stop trying so hard. Don't make anymore threads that you start yourself. Participate in the general conversation by commenting on other threads that are current. You wouldn't run into a room of strangers screaming. . . what you've done is essentially that in the virtual world. . . and it has put a lot of the girls off. So take it down about 100 notches and just chill.

Edmqueen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friendly-ladies-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7dcd180d-484a-47f6-a439-d9c82c81041bPost:3d114c28-6873-431a-86e2-e79446cd368b">Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting) : Here is my best piece of advice. Stop trying so hard. Don't make anymore threads that you start yourself. Participate in the general conversation by commenting on other threads that are current. You wouldn't run into a room of strangers screaming. . . what you've done is essentially that in the virtual world. . . and it has put a lot of the girls off. So take it down about 100 notches and just chill.
Posted by cschiano[/QUOTE]

Thanks, I'll try. sorry if i aid anything that hurt you.

beanbot2002

Stina51286

Love it Bean!!!

beanbot2002

My brain...it hurts...

Edmqueen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friendly-ladies-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7dcd180d-484a-47f6-a439-d9c82c81041bPost:35439336-5b89-49d6-8dba-fe06e662cfe9">Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)</a>:
[QUOTE]My brain...it hurts...
Posted by beanbot2002[/QUOTE]

haha I'm worried about what people think of me now. kind of blundered in and made some mistakes.

polkadot111

Okay. Seriously. Stop posting new threads! This will help. Also, don't tell regs to leave. And do not go complain to other boards about us. K?

GoldenPenguin

Just go away. I'm not even going to pretend that you can redeem yourself by giving you advice on how to redeem yourself.

I agree with Liv that I don't like your attitude. I don't agree that I hope you'll come back when it's adjusted. Because I don't think it ever will be.

So, again. Just go away.

csousa1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friendly-ladies-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:7dcd180d-484a-47f6-a439-d9c82c81041bPost:b304f8b7-e423-458d-98f2-14227418486e">Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting) : haha I'm worried about what people think of me now. kind of blundered in and made some mistakes.
Posted by Edmqueen[/QUOTE]

This is my interpretation of what you did here....

Imagine a Starbucks, where everyone in the neighborhood hangs out. You're driving by, and decide to walk in. You blast through the door yelling, "Farfetnuugen!!!!! Hey, you in the shark socks, get out. I LIKE SKITTLES!!!" And proceed to take a dump in the trash can next to the counter.

After twenty minutes of making mouth-farts when people ask who you are and how they can help you, you run out the door. Ten minutes later you return and loudly announce, "Dude I just walked into a Starbucks and there were some BITCHES up in there!!!!!!!!!!!!! WANNA BE MY FRANNNDDZ YOU GUYZZZ??????"

I suppose in some universe, the traumatized cafe-goers in that scenario could decide to attempt for a fifth time to get through to you and be friendly, but who could blame them for being a little gun-shy?

Now, tell us something about yourself. Do you like wine? Do you like Harry Potter? What is your favorite flavor of paste/glue?

beanbot2002

peekaboo2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friendly-ladies-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7dcd180d-484a-47f6-a439-d9c82c81041bPost:faa4f314-3f3c-47dd-913c-50b3e81b8d8b">Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting) : This is my interpretation of what you did here.... Imagine a Starbucks, where everyone in the neighborhood hangs out. You're driving by, and decide to walk in. You blast through the door yelling, "Farfetnuugen!!!!<strong>! Hey, you in the shark socks, get ou</strong>t. I LIKE SKITTLES!!!" And proceed to take a dump in the trash can next to the counter. After twenty minutes of making mouth-farts when people ask who you are and how they can help you, you run out the door. Ten minutes later you return and loudly announce, "Dude I just walked into a Starbucks and there were some BITCHES up in there!!!!!!!!!!!!! WANNA BE MY FRANNNDDZ YOU GUYZZZ??????" I suppose in some universe, the traumatized cafe-goers in that scenario could decide to attempt for a fifth time to get through to you and be friendly, but who could blame them for being a little gun-shy? Now, tell us something about yourself. Do you like wine? Do you like Harry Potter? What is your favorite flavor of paste?
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>
</div><div>DED.</div><div>
</div><div>Is that all I am to you people?  Just some kid in shark socks?  Sheezus.  I need to work on that.

</div>

TheMutleys

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friendly-ladies-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7dcd180d-484a-47f6-a439-d9c82c81041bPost:ab38c203-ea1f-4dd3-8c0d-e283002f2596">Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting) : Ok, thanks, I know people want to know about me. Is there anything you would want to know?
Posted by Edmqueen[/QUOTE]

No one wants to know about you.  You aren't that special. 

HULU

Hello, Edmqueen.

I'm going to echo what Liv said. If you're not comfortable sharing something about yourself on a public space, that's fine, but we're not going to try and delve out every little facet of your personality. We'll see what you want us to see. Just be yourself (though, maybe a toned-down, chill version of yourself). Browse through all the topics here and read them.You can learn a lot about a person just by paying attention to their signatures, the way they post in serious and non-serious discussions, and you'll learn their likes and dislikes.

And contrary to what you might think, you can learn a lot about someone without having them tell you directly. Elle loves Harry Potter, peekaboo and Oceana both share a mutual love for sharks, and everyone is obsessed with Liv's hedgehog. We didn't PM them for this information, it's just part of who they are and that comes out in their posts and threads. You just have to be patient and willing to learn that there are many, many people here who have been here for a long time, so show them the respect they deserve, and you'll get it in return.

Edmqueen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friendly-ladies-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7dcd180d-484a-47f6-a439-d9c82c81041bPost:faa4f314-3f3c-47dd-913c-50b3e81b8d8b">Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting) : This is my interpretation of what you did here.... Imagine a Starbucks, where everyone in the neighborhood hangs out. You're driving by, and decide to walk in. You blast through the door yelling, "Farfetnuugen!!!!! Hey, you in the shark socks, get out. I LIKE SKITTLES!!!" And proceed to take a dump in the trash can next to the counter. After twenty minutes of making mouth-farts when people ask who you are and how they can help you, you run out the door. Ten minutes later you return and loudly announce, "Dude I just walked into a Starbucks and there were some BITCHES up in there!!!!!!!!!!!!! WANNA BE MY FRANNNDDZ YOU GUYZZZ??????" I suppose in some universe, the traumatized cafe-goers in that scenario could decide to attempt for a fifth time to get through to you and be friendly, but who could blame them for being a little gun-shy? Now, tell us something about yourself. Do you like wine? Do you like Harry Potter? What is your favorite flavor of paste?
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]

I like harry potter and twilight. Will and Grace & House I have on DVD. I also like Bones. I don't really have a favorite flaover of paste per se. I was born with FAS So I don't drink but I love Tim s Coffee. I work for a materials engineering company in Edmonton, AB

Stina51286

Standing applause to csousa! Mutley makes a very good point also!

Edmqueen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friendly-ladies-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7dcd180d-484a-47f6-a439-d9c82c81041bPost:03657b05-86e5-4410-93a5-4226e0d62e4a">Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)</a>:
[QUOTE]Hello, Edmqueen. :) I'm going to echo what Liv said. If you're not comfortable sharing something about yourself on a public space, that's fine, but we're not going to try and delve out every little facet of your personality. We'll see what you want us to see. Just be yourself (though, maybe a toned-down, chill version of yourself). Browse through all the topics here and read them .You can learn a lot about a person just by paying attention to their signatures, the way they post in serious and non-serious discussions, and you'll learn their likes and dislikes. And contrary to what you might think, you can learn a lot about someone without having them tell you directly. Elle loves Harry Potter, peekaboo and Oceana both share a mutual love for sharks, and everyone is obsessed with Liv's hedgehog. We didn't PM them for this information, it's just part of who they are and that comes out in their posts and threads. You just have to be patient and willing to learn that there are many, many people here who have been here for a long time, so show them the respect they deserve, and you'll get it in return.
Posted by HULU[/QUOTE]
 Thanks, I'll try. I like your pic under the post. Do you like disney movies?

Swazzle

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friendly-ladies-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7dcd180d-484a-47f6-a439-d9c82c81041bPost:6b2b4d23-9151-4d6c-a572-b5b0beba4c9a">Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting) : DED. <strong>Is that all I am to you people?  Just some kid in shark socks?</strong>  Sheezus.  I need to work on that.
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

<div>I take full responsibility for giving everyone this impression of you :)</div>

Edmqueen

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friendly-ladies-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7dcd180d-484a-47f6-a439-d9c82c81041bPost:c3aa39f7-2f5b-467a-a90b-b48e6269c5fc">Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)</a>:
[QUOTE]Okay. Seriously. Stop posting new threads! This will help. Also, don't tell regs to leave. And do not go complain to other boards about us. K?
Posted by polkadot111[/QUOTE]

I won't, and I'll try to be more open. do you like Starbucks?

peekaboo2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friendly-ladies-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7dcd180d-484a-47f6-a439-d9c82c81041bPost:3e0467bc-ebff-4990-a56d-d96c9013e6fc">Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting) : Are you for real right now?
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

<div>Be careful with this question.  She'll tell you to GTFO too.</div>

Swazzle

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_friendly-ladies-venting?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:7dcd180d-484a-47f6-a439-d9c82c81041bPost:faa4f314-3f3c-47dd-913c-50b3e81b8d8b">Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting)</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where are the friendly Ladies? (venting) : This is my interpretation of what you did here.... Imagine a Starbucks, where everyone in the neighborhood hangs out. You're driving by, and decide to walk in. You blast through the door yelling, "Farfetnuugen!!!!! Hey, you in the shark socks, get out. I LIKE SKITTLES!!!" And proceed to take a dump in the trash can next to the counter. After twenty minutes of making mouth-farts when people ask who you are and how they can help you, you run out the door. Ten minutes later you return and loudly announce, "Dude I just walked into a Starbucks and there were some BITCHES up in there!!!!!!!!!!!!! WANNA BE MY FRANNNDDZ YOU GUYZZZ??????" I suppose in some universe, the traumatized cafe-goers in that scenario could decide to attempt for a fifth time to get through to you and be friendly, but who could blame them for being a little gun-shy? Now, tell us something about yourself. Do you like wine? Do you like Harry Potter? What is your favorite flavor of paste/glue?
Posted by csousa1[/QUOTE]

<div>You're amazing.</div>