It just hit me!!!

LaTashijunapink

I was having my first dress fitting on Saturday,alone,(my MOH and mommy had to work. My dad was sick and my brother had to stay home with soon to be daughter.). Any way get there and there's 3 others brides with their Fam and friends.(kind of teared up,) So finally it was my turn and I put on my dress and shoes then BAM it hit me..IM GETTING MARRIED NEX MONTH!!!! It finally sank in and now I feel on edge. Now I have rsvps coming in and I'm like wow this is happening. Today i found myself crying out the blue. As I sat and thought about how exciting this all is and how much will be different. Sharing a bed with someone, Having sex,(sorry but havent and im a little nervous )no more parents in the next room. A step daughter( but she practical lives with me) it all hit me, but I'm excited for what awaits me just a little nervous. Is that bad?

blgrout

It's not bad, it's a lot to take in!  I think it's totally normal.

I'm in a very different place than you, since my FI and I have lived together for 3 years, and I even get hit with the wow factor once and a while, like when I mailed off invitations, and when I put on my wedding dress at my last fitting, and when we were working on our wedding ceremony this last weekend. 

Living with someone, and having sex for the first time are huge, huge things, and so is getting married.  I think it would be kind of weird to not be a little nervous once and while.  It's ok to be emotional, you're processing!


PS.  There are actually conversations going on today on the chit chat board about this, there's some pretty good advice there about this, and links to other good advice. 
http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_nervous-virgin

rlavach

I totally, 100% understand you. I'm with you on all accounts, minus having a step-daughter. All of those life changes at once is very overwhelming. Be glad that it hit you now. Some of us on here have been pulling our hair out for a while over it. You'll make it. 

I also suggest checking out the thread that blgrout linked to. There is good advice and in there I linked to a similar convo on the Christian board. Since this won't be my FI's first time, I'm less nervous about it than I probably should be. I've got bigger worries right now!

mmy101

I get those feelings too! Most of the time its business as usual, but every once and awhile (like a final fitting or writing vows) it gets pretty overwhelming! It helps to have very open communication with your partner and family.
          We have been living together for four years now, so I don't have much advice on that, but you trust your soon to be husband and thats a big part of it. The best things is to relax as much as possible and try to enjoy the process/day of as much as possible

LaTashijunapink

@blgrout Thank you so much made me feel better

LaTashijunapink

Thank you all for being so helpful and positive. You all gave me great advice I feel better knowing I'm not alone when it comes to some of these things. @rlavach. Hope your bigger problems get resolved.

JAPetela

I'm in the same boat as you and rlavach minus the step daughter...we are also buying a house, so that's a new change too. I've gotten 20 rsvps and it feels like everyone is coming and no one is responding no...even people we thought would say no....it's an exciting but nerve racking time..it feels nice to know that i'm not alone in this boat...good luck to everyone!

rlavach

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2012-weddings_it-just-hit-me?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:05427f07-4ba2-44d6-9271-99a7af1ee5c0Discussion:d5e3e8f7-2dbd-41dd-ad29-8af417fddca3Post:1420148d-5ced-4941-a6cf-b0a2cb326b93">Re: It just hit me!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Thank you all for being so helpful and positive. You all gave me great advice I feel better knowing I'm not alone when it comes to some of these things. @rlavach. Hope your bigger problems get resolved.
Posted by LaTashijunapink[/QUOTE]
Thanks!