I cannot even believe this is happening. I am so upset right now. Sorry, this is going to be long (CN at the end). I may DD this later, so please do not quote me.
A few weeks ago, my friend, L (one of my BMs), wanted to get together because she had friends from out of town visiting. She made tentative plans with me and C (another BM) and never ended up calling. C was upset because she had spent all day waiting around her house and L didn't call until late in the afternoon. C's husband called me and said, "I'm really mad that L didn't show up. I'm going to tell her that you made all this food so she'll feel really bad." I said, "No, don't do that. I just spoke with L and she and I are fine."
A few nights ago, L was at my house (the first time she and I have hung out alone since that happened) and the situation came up. She told me the whole story of what happened and I told her what C's husband said. She said, "Well, he did tell me that. He said you made your ribs and all this other food and that you were really mad at me. That's why I haven't really called you in a few weeks. I wasn't sure if you even wanted to still be friends from what he said."
I was FUMING. I called him and asked him if he said this. He said that he did. I asked him why he would have said that to L when I specifically told him not to. He basically called me a liar, said that I told him I would go along with it, and called L a crybaby for coming over to my house and telling me that. We ended up yelling at each other and I ended the conversation with "Stay the F*** out of my relationships and stop causing drama between me and my friends" and hung up on him.
I get a call from C today. She says that she's been keeping an eye on me and her husband when we're around each other and that she noticed I'm really hard on him (like I call him out when he's acting like an a$$hole) and that it's taken a toll on our relationship. She said she no longer wants to continue a friendship with me. She made up her mind and isn't going to be in the wedding either.
I am so heartbroken. I can understand that he's her husband and she needs to take his side (if he's asking her to do that), but he is such a douche and she deserves so much better than him. She even told me in our conversation that she KNOWS he's hard to be friends with because he's extremely selfish and rude, etc etc.
It never even crossed my mind that when I asked these girls to be a part of my wedding day that one of them wouldn't be around any longer. I guess these things happen, but I am shocked.
I don't really know what I'm looking for here. To vent, I guess, and some hugs if you want to dole some out. Or tell me I was completely out of line and I deserve what I got?
CN: One of my best friends and BM called me and told me she no longer wants to continue a friendship with me after I had an argument with her husband because he was causing drama between me and my other BM.
"Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make life so, right in the middle of it we die, lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce." - Natalie Goldberg