Okay, so as you all know, there are a lot of weddings being planned in my family right now, and unless my FI and I push back our wedding even more than we'd originally planned, we'll have 3 weddings in 3 1/2 months (yikes, I know). Luckily out of town guests are minimal, and they are mostly from our husband-to-bes' sides of the families, so the conflict between the three weddings won't be as severe. I of course will be the last of the three to get married (a fact that I am actually thankful for).
However, I am so frustrated with my sister right now. I foresee her being a Bridezilla, and from her current actions, I think she's well on her way. Don't worry, I am not about to vent that she is planning her wedding and taking away my attention. No, that isn't how I think it at all. However, she did ask me to "take a back seat" and let her have her time in the spotlight. Since she got engaged first she wants to do everything first, and has asked me to agree to wait on planning until she has planned hers.
Now I don't mean wait until 3 months to plan my wedding, no I mean like wait for her to chose her venue, her colors, her themes, her first dance song, her decorations, her flowers, her cake, her dress, her hair style, her photographer, etc. She flat out told me she doesn't want me to limit her options. I am so frustrated with her right now. She has also been pressing me to tell her what our wedding budget is, and I told her I didn't see how that was relevant to her wedding. Have a wedding you can afford and don't mind anyone else. Right?
I am also becoming hesitant to tell her any of my ideas, because I am thinking she might want to use them and then expect me not to. It is so bad that she told me that she really likes Mermaid/Trumpet dresses and said I should get a completely different style dress so there is no comparison. I feel like she is trying to tell me what I can and cannot do for my wedding, and I hate how resentful I am getting. If I wasn't so sentimental about having my dad walk me down the aisle, having a first dance, having friends and family to witness our special moment, and all the other reasons for having a wedding other than marrying the man you love, I would just elope at this point.
Perhaps I am just over-reacting, but I just needed to vent. I guess all my frustration started when my sister told me that she thought my ring looked cheap because it didn't have diamonds on the band. Rather she asked if I thought it looked cheap. And no guys, this isn't MUD. How I wish it were. This is probably a bigger deal in my eyes than it really is. Am I over-reacting? I just figured we would both plan the weddings we wanted, and with all the possibilities for colors and themes, and personal touches, it seemed like along shot that we would have the SAME weddings.
I will say that I am NOT waiting on my sister. I will plan at my own pace. FI and I knew that there would be some issues, but since we're all adults and none of us want to wait an extra year to wed, this is just something we're going to have to work around. I know I am being a big baby, but I just needed to vent to someone other than FI. I am one of those people who benefit from a good vent, and now that I've gotten this off my chest, I actually feel a lot better.
Reading through my post, gosh, I sound like a whinny brat. Sorry for this. I need to just put on my big girl panties.
CN: My sister is wanting me to back off of wedding planning (which I haven't even started) until she plans that certain aspect of her wedding. I'm just being a big baby.
