Back to online dating...

elannis

Double dating, that is.

FI's friends are 2 hours away and mine are an hour away and most of them are single, so we've been hoping to find some friends where we live to hang out with and all that.

We're pretty clueless as to how to find friends our age in our town of old fogies, so I signed up for a website and met a really nice couple. It just reminds me of the days when I was doing online dating. I hope they're as cool in person as they are online. So far we seem to have similar interests. It's exciting, lol.

We're also going to get into going to church ... I found one I finally want to check out so hopefully we'll meet some people there too.

Anyone else ever tried online dating or online double dating? lol

elannis

Yeah, I've found quite a few sites for "swingers", lol, but this seems to be a legitimate site.

Ollie: I definitely know what you mean. Guys (and girls) are so different online than they are in real person. The good thing is, we can be more relaxed this time because we aren't looking for a life partner, just someone to hang out with once in a while! : )

All of my cousins and school friends are at least an hour away and FI's are farther away. All his family is about 20 years older than him too, since his mom was 38 when she had him. And we can't meet people at his work because they're all old women. There is one younger couple there, but we don't have anything in common and they're pretty flaky.

So I'm crossing my fingers! I wish you all lived closer so I could hang out with you ladies in person! : )

elannis

Yeah, plenty of fish was not a good site, in my opinion. Way too disorganized and hard to navigate. I didn't actually ever talk to anyone on that site. I used okcupid. Now I'm using kupple to find friends.

I did make a pretty good friend online. We were excellent online friends and then he wanted to try to meet and date. I wasn't really feeling the chemistry to go there online, but I told him I'd meet him just as friends. I was right. No chemistry in person and he actually kind of annoyed me in person, so we stuck to being online friends, lol. But he also had some other issues and was so pessimistic, so I gradually lost contact with him. There are all kinds of characters online.

We tried to get FMIL to try online dating. She actually did go out with one guy, but then he never wrote her back so she just gave up and now just makes fun of the guys on there that she sees, if anything.

Online dating was wonderful for me though. I am shy and it let me show who I really am without the awkward first getting to know you part getting in the way. I still had that when I met FI, but at least he knew what was hidden underneath, lol.

So I'm hoping to find some friends through it too. I'll let you know how it goes if we meet them, lol.

And yeah, TK needs to stop rearranging posts as it chooses.

Ollie08

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_back-online-dating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:93309e04-1590-40c1-8d2d-dcb3caf1a518Post:5f4c25ad-3205-44f4-aa9f-b84ce33b49d9">Re: Back to online dating...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Back to online dating... : Lol, it was ChristianFishDating.com, lol. I knew there was something about a fish in it somewhere.
Posted by HULU[/QUOTE]

lol ok that makes more sense. Seriously I tried POF and it was like all of the other dating sites' rejects. It was terrible.

Ollie08

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_back-online-dating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:93309e04-1590-40c1-8d2d-dcb3caf1a518Post:893abb8e-8745-463b-aa95-1cf0af5d67dd">Back to online dating...</a>:
[QUOTE]We're pretty clueless as to how to find friends our age in our town of old fogies, so I signed up for a website and met a really nice couple. It just reminds me of the days when I was doing online dating. <strong>I hope they're as cool in person as they are online.</strong>
Posted by elannis[/QUOTE]

That was the <em>worst</em> part of online dating for me. So many guys seemed amazing online and then were not nearly as awesome in person lol

<strong>Anyone else ever tried online dating or online double dating?
</strong>I've done the online dating thing before and it was ok. I actually ended up with 2 really great friends out of the deal from my days on eHarmony lol

I've never really thought about doing online double dating before. I didn't even know there was such a thing! We are terrible about meeting people as well. The only bonus we have right now is that we live not too far from where we went to school, and I have cousins that are my age that live in the area so it helps with meeting new people. We tend to rely on meeting people through work and then being introduced to other couples through them. I'm sorry I'm no help. I hope this works out for you guys!

polkadot111

I didn't even know this existed!  Interesting, but pretty cool if it works out and you can find some couple friends around your age!

HULU

I've tried online dating a couple of times (obviously), but it never started with me looking for someone (such as through a dating site), but more along the lines of interacting with people with similar interests and just going from there. But, my dad met my stepmom on a Christian dating site (I think it was plentyoffish or something like that).

Funny side note: My best friend and one of my best guy friends met each other online and it turns out they didn't get along well once they actually met in person. Then they both found out I'm friends with the other one and it was pretty funny. Now they get along fine, lol.

Ollie08

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_back-online-dating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:93309e04-1590-40c1-8d2d-dcb3caf1a518Post:29899eae-bba2-4051-984e-42ae83f71ca0">Re: Back to online dating...</a>:
[QUOTE]I've tried online dating a couple of times (obviously), but it never started with me looking for someone (such as through a dating site), but more along the lines of interacting with people with similar interests and just going from there. But, <strong>my dad met my stepmom on a Christian dating site (I think it was plentyoffish</strong> or something like that). Funny side note: My best friend and one of my best guy friends met each other online and it turns out they didn't get along well once they actually met in person. Then they both found out I'm friends with the other one and it was pretty funny. Now they get along fine, lol.
Posted by HULU[/QUOTE]

lol I doubt it was PlentyofFish, there was nothing Christian about that!

And wtf? TK is being wonky again?

HULU

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_back-online-dating?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:93309e04-1590-40c1-8d2d-dcb3caf1a518Post:a36ca59d-ae20-4c57-abdb-00276d311616">Re: Back to online dating...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Back to online dating... : lol I doubt it was PlentyofFish, there was nothing Christian about that! And wtf? TK is being wonky again?
Posted by Ollie08[/QUOTE]

<div>Lol, it was ChristianFishDating.com, lol. I knew there was something about a fish in it somewhere.</div>

jemmini6

Have you tried meetup.com?  There's tons of groups for just about every interest you could possibly have, including couples & stuff.  H and I haven't gone to anything other than the meetup group for our dive shop, but it could be a good resource if you were interested in that.

NurseyK

I met my FI on match.com.... and have met several roommates on roommates.com.

I like the online thing... it's so hard to make friends IRL. I wish you all lived closer!

lunarsongbird

Yeah- www.meetup.com is amazing. I've met some exceptional people on that website. Eventually I'll probably start using here in Colorado, as well.

If you don't see a neat couples group in your area- you could always create one!

elannis

I checked out Meetup.com and they don't really have anything for us, unless we are ex-Jehovah's Witness Survivors, scrapbookers, into politics, or want a play group for our kids.

I'll look into making our own group and see what happens, lol.

elannis

Ok, changed my mind. I'm not making one. You have to spend money to make a group. I'm not willing to do that. I'll just stick to the free one, lol.