please help!
I was raised greek orthodox but neither my fiance or myself are religious. We don't really want a religious ceremony but are going to do one for the family. Greek orthodox ceremonies are probably the most religious out there. I'm conflicted because I really want to say my own vows (its always what i had in mind for my wedding day) but they don't allow that in the greek church. There is a complication: my father passed away a few years ago and he was greek and his family were amoung some of the first patrons of the church- so there is a lot of family history there. my mother thinks we should get married there because "that's what your father would have wanted" but i'm uncomfortable with the amount of religion in the ceremony, the priest is extremely cheesy when doing the ceremony, and we really want to say our own vows.
we're trying to figure this out at the moment. any advice? i dont' want to go against what my father would have wanted, but i also want to do my own thing. is this a time where i should take family tradition over what i want? --like i said we are willing to compromise to a ceremony that is a little religious but it would not be at the greek church (they only allow the orthodox ceremony)
...please help!