You need to give it up...that boy is mine.

tuarceatha

I'm listening to a 90s pop station again (surprise surprise). And Brandy and Monica have brought up a question I'd like to ask you all.

Have you ever fought with another girl over a guy? I remember a BUNCH of us are in relationships with fellas that were coming right out of another relationship. Tell stories. Please.

leia1979

I haven't, but I do have that song on CD somewhere. I may have had a cassette single!

jemmini6

I love the 90's station on Sirius!

But no, I've never really fought over a guy, nor had any guys fight over me.

Blue & White

No, but my boyfriend is my best friend's ex, so it was kinda more of a "is this okay?" and she said "yes".

She kinda loves us now, it's cute

tuarceatha

haha Love it.

Yea. I once stole someone's prom date, but as I saw it--he was mine first.

eirwyn

I had a hardcore crush on my friend, P. My friend (A) knew about it and didn't do anything to pursue him. He pursued her, though. She kept denying there was anything going on, but then they were dating.

We'd been peas in a pod before that. We spent every waking moment together. After they started dating, I never heard from them again. I figured it was just "new relationship syndrome" and we'd all hang out again. Nope. I was a third wheel before, and now I wasn't even a wheel. I decided to just let it go. I moved away a few months later and didn't really hear from them again. That was in 2008.

Last summer, A asked if I'd officiate their wedding. At first, I was honored, but then she said, "You were instrumental in getting us together, and I have so many happy memories of that summer." Well, I didn't have any happy memories, since she ended up with my crush and then they tossed me away, so like hell I was going to officiate their wedding. I was happy for them, honestly, but I just didn't feel like doing it after A drudged that up.

Peaseblossom55

I loved that song.  I never fought over a guy though.

tuarceatha

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[QUOTE]I had a hardcore crush on my friend, P. My friend (A) knew about it and didn't do anything to pursue him. He pursued her, though. She kept denying there was anything going on, but then they were dating. We'd been peas in a pod before that. We spent every waking moment together. After they started dating, I never heard from them again. I figured it was just "new relationship syndrome" and we'd all hang out again. Nope. I was a third wheel before, and now I wasn't even a wheel. I decided to just let it go. I moved away a few months later and didn't really hear from them again. That was in 2008. Last summer, A asked if I'd officiate their wedding. At first, I was honored, but then she said, "You were instrumental in getting us together, and I have so many happy memories of that summer." Well, I didn't have any happy memories, since she ended up with my crush and then they tossed me away, so like hell I was going to officiate their wedding. I was happy for them, honestly, but I just didn't feel like doing it after A drudged that up.
Posted by eirwyn[/QUOTE]

AW!!! In college I dated a guy, broke up with him, then he dated my best friend and she and I were at odds for over a year. When they broke up, we started being able to be friendly again. Now she is my MOH. Every time I recall the moment I found out they were an item, my stomach hurts. I told you guys--I HATE sharing.

tuarceatha

Yay for the 90s pop appreciation. 90s music totally rocks more than 80s.

motoLyn

You're bringing back memories of rocking out to Monica, like her song "Just one of them days that a girl goes through"  I dated a guy that my bestfriend knew, she liked him but he and I hit it off and well she was really upset with me. But since then never fought over a guy and never had a guy fight over me.

bethsmiles

I don't remember ever fighting with a girl over a guy.

One time there was this guy I really liked and he ended up hitting it off with one of my friends but they were so cute together and she was the sweetest person ever so I just couldn't be mad at her. He ended up being a huge jerk anyway.

There were quite a few girls I told my guy friends they were stupid for liking though.

loves2shop4shoes

http://www.mtv.com/videos/misc/404443/celebrity-deathmatch-hilary-clinton-vs-monica-lewinsky.jhtml

abwatts

Ummm my "best friend from college" who never had a boyfriend the entire time I knew her started dating my ex whome I lived with for 2 years about a week after I left the country.

I gave them my blessing, told him he was a coward for not telling me and told him for the love of HER to man up and take initiative every once in a while.. But its was still SHADY and I am trying to phase her out of my life wihtout being malicious. Its wierd when she talks to me about his family and stuff because I KNOW... but they are living togehter 3 years later.. so as long as they are happy.. But they are still the talk of the town and EVERYONE thought it was shady.. So there was no FIGHT.. but wierd right?

tuarceatha

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[QUOTE]<a href="http://www.mtv.com/videos/misc/404443/celebrity-deathmatch-hilary-clinton-vs-monica-lewinsky.jhtml" rel="nofollow">http://www.mtv.com/videos/misc/404443/celebrity-deathmatch-hilary-clinton-vs-monica-lewinsky.jhtml</a>
Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

ha. I always wonder how Hilary got over this gal.

RWS2011

Shoes, that video was hilarious!

I never actually fought with anyone over a guy, but recently there was a BSC exchange over Facebook regarding my FI and his ex.  My fiance was in the process of getting a divorce when this gal aggressively pursued him and they started dating for a while.  He was not all that happy in the relationship.  They bickered often.

At the time she was in her mid-thirties and was marriage crazed.  He wasn't even divorced yet and she was laying it on thick in their first few months of dating about how she was so sick of the dating game and just wanted to be married.  He had told her at the time that he didn't know if he would ever get married again.  He was pretty bitter from what he had just been through.

Fast forward a few months, he broke it off with her.  Now I knew both of them casually at this point, and the gal and I would hang out from time to time.  We weren't close, but becoming friends.  When he and I started dating there was a little initial awkwardness but then it resolved.  She has been in a relationship with another guy for the last few years.

So, when we announced our engagement to the internet via Facebook, she eventually responded with, "Congratulations."  Seconds later, she was pulling FI into a chat.  Her first comment to him was,  "I thought you never wanted to get married/have another wedding, Huh?!"  She went on to say she is always honest with people, tries to live a good life, but that others might not feel the same.  She went on to acknowledge that maybe it wasn't right for them but it is for us, followed by this emoticon:  

She really brought home the nutty when she remarked, "I thought I should finally congratulate you, sorry I didn't do it when I first saw your post 23 comments ago."  Oh man, this had been eating away at her for a while.  Needless to say, I was in the room while he attempted to diplomatically respond to her.  I thought the whole thing was wildly inappropriate!

eirwyn

Wow, RWS. What a head case.

Elle1036

I have caused at least 4 breakups in my day. I'm a total homewrecker.

audrewuh

I was "the other woman" on more than one occasion.

I dated FI's BFF for 11 days and realized my feelings for FI were too strong to be fair to FI's BFF, so I broke it off. I came clean to FI about my feelings one night a little less than a week later, and then he acted on it. He and his BFF didn't talk for 6 months. 2 and a half years later, they're finally back to being BFFs like they were before I got in the way. FI asked him how he would feel if FI proposed back when we started talking about all of that. I think that's when FI's BFF finally let go of the last bit of resentment. 

I felt terrible, but it's not the worst thing I've done. *shame face*

tuarceatha

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[QUOTE]I have caused at least 4 breakups in my day. I'm a total homewrecker.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

haha. I'm extra glad you are getting married then.

tuarceatha

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[QUOTE]I was "the other woman" on more than one occasion. I dated FI's BFF for 11 days and realized my feelings for FI were too strong to be fair to FI's BFF, so I broke it off. I came clean to FI about my feelings one night a little less than a week later, and then he acted on it. He and his BFF didn't talk for 6 months. 2 and a half years later, they're finally back to being BFFs like they were before I got in the way. FI asked him how he would feel if FI proposed back when we started talking about all of that. I think that's when FI's BFF finally let go of the last bit of resentment.  I felt terrible, but it's not the worst thing I've done. *shame face*
Posted by audrewuh[/QUOTE]


ohhh snap! jk 11 days is nothing, and clearly you two were meant to be!

oh gosh, the worst thing we've ever done. Now that's a thread idea.

audrewuh

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: You need to give it up...that boy is mine. : ohhh snap! jk 11 days is nothing, and clearly you two were meant to be! oh gosh, the worst thing we've ever done. Now that's a thread idea.
Posted by jenjenniferf[/QUOTE]

<div>That's a HORRIBLE idea for a thread! Lets promise to never start one of those, k?</div>

tuarceatha

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: You need to give it up...that boy is mine. : That's a HORRIBLE idea for a thread! Lets promise to never start one of those, k?
Posted by audrewuh[/QUOTE]

ALright... :(

melizabethp

Effing loooooooved that song back in the day.

A dear guy friend & I were fwbbies on & off for about six years. We'd been "off" for a while when he got engaged to a perfectly awful younger girl. Six months later, I graduated from college, moved back home & started hanging out with them. She was super friendly to me, telling me she just knew he was so happy I'd moved back home because our friendship meant a lot to him, while never missing an opportunity to let me know that SHE had won. She eventually dumped him. Afterward, he told me that she hated all women, most of all me, & that he had to make her promise to be nice to me. LOL.

Also, a college boyfriend dumped me for one of my sorority sisters, but I'm not sure I felt the sentiment of this song so much as I felt like this: