Fiance's daughters standing up with him

susanh43

Is it alright that my fiance's daughters stand up with him rather than him having a best man?

MairePoppy

Yes, of course.

theelusive1

I think it is a great idea. I am glad that they are close.

Peavy

I think that if they are young children -- like under 14 -- that it would be a little odd.  If they are older, great. 

Peavy

Just personal preference - I'm not a fan of children in weddings in general, and I think a young child substituing for the best man is odd because the child cannot be a witness and sign the papers as the best man usually does.  I'm obviously in the minority here, but I thought OP might like to hear a different opinion.

KellyBrian2013

Some states/counties don't even require witnesses, outside of the officiant. Our MOH and BM didn't have to sign a thing.

[Deleted User]

I think it's nice. Because to me it shows that she's standing up there supporting her dad's decision to take you as his wife & as her step mom.

s-aries8990

If is something both he and she decide on, I think it's a wonderful idea. I do find "family" commitments odd when the children are middle-school age+, but standing there in support, if she agrees, is beautiful

Ankur

My Fi's sons are standing up there with him and they are 19 and16.  I think it is a great idea

icefog34

My daughter is standing up for my FI    It's an amazing way that SHE chose to show her support for him and us as a couple!  She's going to be 13

Lisa50

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[QUOTE]Is it alright that my fiance's daughters stand up with him rather than him having a best man?
Posted by susanh43[/QUOTE]

If your fiance wants his daughters to stand up with him, then it is just fine.  Why wouldn't it be?  <strong>Let go of gender stereotypes</strong>.  My adult son was my best man and my only attendant.

Jen4948

Yes, definitely.  I think it sounds very sweet.

kelsileach

My Fiance's son is 10 and is standing next to him as his best man! The key part of the wedding party are having those that mean the most to you standing by your side supporting you. If it is what your Fiance wants then I say that is a wonderful memory that you all will never forget!