Are your lips sealed?

[Deleted User]

So, Shoes' comment in an earlier post today got me thinking. How comfortable is everyone with sharing intimate details about their relationship? Do you talk about your sex life with your girlfriends? Family? Strangers? Online? Do you have topics that are just between you and your SO? Where do you draw the line/what is OK to share? Would you be upset if you found out your SO was discussing with his friends?

AbigailMS

SO and I have talked about this, it was probably a few years ago. We both know what we will share and what we wont. We don't do details, not with anyone. Idk if thats normal, but its the way we both wanted it. 

kayely88

BF and I talked about this too. Almost all of our intimate details we keep between us. We feel that that is no ones business but ours. We know that our family isn't stupid, especially our parents, so as long as they don't see it or hear it then it's not a big deal, lol. 

I do divulge some information with my best friend but I trust her and I'm sure BF tells his friends some things. 

All in all we mostly keep it to ourselves. Our relationship is our business and we don't go into details with anyone. 

calindi

I will make vague comments with close friends, but no specifics ever.  I know it makes some people severely uncomfortable, so I don't speak about it much at all with people who I don't know 100% that they're okay with that type of conversation.  Especially with someone you love, it's an intimate thing that I think under normal circumstances should be private.

I find really graphic conversations rather crude, to be honest.  The only time I've ever gotten into specifics (basically, anything involving anatomy) is when a close friend wants advice or tips.  This was especially true in college, but I think by now most of my friends have figured out what they need to know on their own.

I'm very open about sex in general, but I just don't think everyone needs to know specifics of my life.  But I 've been known to host a sex toy party for my nearest girl friends, and we all had an absolute blast!  It's kinda like a tupperware party, but obviously the things being sold are a bit different and the attitude is more goofy and fun.  Highly recommended!

Blue & White

I would say my lips are pretty sealed.  I really don't talk about the specifics of our sex lives with anyone, but I'm okay with talking about general things...
For instance, I have a friend in a marriage where they almost never have sex and as that's not a real healthy sex life, I suggested he talk to his wife about it but not in a "I need sex now" kinda way, but more of a "hey, what's up with you?" kinda way. 
It kills me how some church denominations can kill the real meaning of sex though.  Sex is awesome.  Sex when you're 12 is probably not as awesome.  I get that.  But in a committed relationship?  I'm okay with sex.

NurseyK

We agreed that our sex life and details of the relationship are between us, but it's ok to share vague details with a best friend... like how good it is. Since respect is something we both wanted when dating, we agreed that when talking about the other person in any context besides sex, we would only use edifying comments, and if there was something that was a complaint, it would be kept between us. We've talked about how important it is to keep important conversations only only between us, but in private and not in front of other people. My mom has noted that we are a pretty private couple.. but she tends to be overt in words and actions... I think we're pretty normal!

[Deleted User]

Personally, I am not shy about the subject. I don't give details or discuss BF specifically...but if someone has a direct question or is just curious, I don't turn all shades of red.

Most of my girlfriends are waiting for marriage (or did) so I completely understand the opposite end of the spectrum here. For me, I think I am more open when the person I am talking to is not uncomfortable. I don't share too much online or with people I don't know very well.

heyimbren

Intimate details are between us, and us only. But to be fair, we want to abstain. Only my very, very closest girl friends know what has happened, but no specifics. The same goes for BF. He's a very private person so I don't worry about it, but if he was going around telling lots of people I'd be annoyed. We're on the same page with this though. We know who it's okay to tell and what we can share with them if it comes to that.

I wouldn't go into more details to share things myself, but if someone asked me (and by someone, I mean a very good friend) I would share enough to answer their question.

Wrkn925

I don't really share a lot, I just don't think people want to hear it.


Thanks for getting the song stuck in my head.

LizzyTish88

My close friends and I talk about sex and "activities" all the time. We don't get into extreme specifics, like "Yeah BF has a mole next to his wang" (This is not true, just making an example FYI) But we talk about things that have happened. BF knows this and is completely okay with it. We've been together long enough for our friends to know that we obviously have sex. This is all just with close friends though.

Family? We keep everything to ourselves when it comes to our sex life. Our families know that it happens, but they don't want to know about it and we don't want to tell them about it.

loves2shop4shoes

I don't mind sharing intimate details on here.  You all don't know FI or me IRL, so FI doesn't care what I say to you girls.

To our friends IRL, I'm a little more discreet.  Very few friends IRL know about FI and my sexual issues because of his hydrocele.  It's a sensitive subject for him and very very few people know about his upcoming surgery.  I do possess more of a filter IRL.

[Deleted User]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_lips-sealed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:97c564c1-2ff1-499f-b8e7-c9103eda59a4Post:afb3a0b9-6f13-421a-a67c-7f392da4918d">Re: Are your lips sealed?</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't really share a lot, I just don't think people want to hear it. <strong>Thanks for getting the song stuck in my head.
</strong>Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]

lol. I didn't even think about the song until I read your post! Now it will be stuck in my head all day too...

aah009

Since I was in high school I made a commitment to myself that I would save myself til marriage. My boyfriend respects my decision and fully accepts it. We don't have actual intercourse but other things take place. So I guess it depends on what you think sex would be.. Anywho I'm pretty open with anything and everything! Although I don't typically share details with my dad ha..