Ugly?

Lisa8888

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ugly?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:98ce9e0b-fab5-497a-ac02-74e9435dddecPost:9d72bcb0-fb19-4a16-b11d-bd3cf9a828e7">Re: Ugly?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ugly? : Lisa8888 Ummm look, no one was saying that it is a "valid reason" to be overweight.  We have all encouraged the OP to choose healthy options and tried to support her by sharing our own struggles with getting older and losing our former metabolisms.  It is harder to get in shape and stay in shape when you are moving from a youthful, active period of your life to (most likely) a sedentary desk job and less free time to work out and eat well.   Also the OP asked if anyone could relate, not if we could pat her on the back for her current weightloss, so that is what most of the regs addressed.  Some did add a congrats and that's also appropriate.  But you didn't congratulate her, you just told us what to do.  Maybe you should quit telling us what to do and follow your own advice:  Congratulate the OP and encourage her to stick with it! It's difficult, and we're here to support you, shoeshopper/grasshopper! We all may have not congratulated you, but I hope you understand that we are proud of you.  And I hope that you do stick with it, maybe some of the suggestions we made will help. GL.
Posted by sunbird627[/QUOTE]

What I read was people excusing weight gain and claiming that as long as you eat healthy its OK if you are still overweight. And the claim that their man just loves their belly fat.

If you are going to encourage the OP to pursue healthy options that must include weight loss. No one is healthy when they are overweight. Telling the OP that all these people also gained weight and making light of it isn't helping the OP. That is leading her to believe that the weight gain in normal and acceptable.

I've said all I intend to say about this. I hope the OP continues on and meets her next weight loss goal.

jeanacorina

You still didn't congratulate her like you said everyone else should.

Shoes: CONGRATULATIONS ON THE 10lbs! It makes a difference, even if it doesn't feel like it right now.

I'm also struggling with motivation to lose weight. It's especially tough because my husband "loves me just the way I am" and apparently he doesn't mind being overweight as well. It's hard to get moving when you feel like the only one. Sparkpeople is a great place to start (if only I'd take my own advice!).

And, as usual, we're always here to give you support and the occasional swift kick in the rear end.

edit: I wanted to say I'm 5'3" and 163lb. We're in a similar boat. It's rough and I would LOVE to get 10lbs off like you did. That's awesome. Any tips?

Narwhal

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_ugly?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:98ce9e0b-fab5-497a-ac02-74e9435dddecPost:6d89ec98-caec-42d6-9cef-e1bf474578b2">Re: Ugly?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ugly? : What I read was people excusing weight gain and claiming that as long as you eat healthy its OK if you are still overweight. And the claim that their man just loves their belly fat. If you are going to encourage the OP to pursue healthy options that must include weight loss. No one is healthy when they are overweight. Telling the OP that all these people also gained weight and making light of it isn't helping the OP. That is leading her to believe that the weight gain in normal and acceptable. I've said all I intend to say about this. I hope the OP continues on and meets her next weight loss goal.
Posted by Lisa8888[/QUOTE]

You know what? I think that it is okay if someone is still "overweight."  Because those ratings are a bunch of bullshit. They don't take enough things into account. I'm 5'4 and about 136 or so.  I'm classified as overweight. I've been "the right size" before. I looked sick.  I am muscular. I have huge bones (I've never broken even a toe.  I've been measured by a doctor).  The time I weighed the most was when I was in damn good shape.

We weren't saying weight gain is acceptable (although if the right things are taken into account, it is), but we were saying your body will change as you get older.  We were encouraging a healthy mindset about food and body image, which is so much more important than reaching some sort of rating.

Some people would have no body fat if they tried to meet the one size fits all (no pun intended) goals.  I wouldn't. My body isn't made that way.  You know what happens to bodies when they don't have body fat?  They start to shut down. It becomes difficult to reproduce, the body is less inclined to be able to fight off diseases.  Would that be better than being classified as overweight?

OP, Congratulations on the weight loss.
Lisa, get yourself educated.