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AW. How BF might propose, and why I have to try to keep my own surprises...

So, BF usually tells me details on things.. so when he doesn't, it's usually a clue.  BF is horrible at keeping secrets-- if he gets me something while out of town, he's too impatient to keep it a secret and ends up showing it to me on video chat the next chance he gets. 

So, it's not like I TRY to guess things (like being right about what he did for my birthday).. in fact, when I start to put clues together, I usually try to stop myself to preserve the surprise, or at least refuse to guess.  But then it's just there subconsciously, and then he'll unwittingly say something else, and I figure it out. So, this time, I've basically figured out how he's going to propose.  Though I'm trying to keep myself from guessing when/where/etc. 

He got to go to an exclusive pool-side Train concert b/c of a work function a couple months ago.. I would have gone too, but couldn't b/c of schedule with my son.  After he got back from the trip, he was telling me how he so wished I'd been there with him, especially at the concert.  How train played this song, and he loved it, and it just made him think of me, and felt like "our song" to him, and he had wished we could have both heard it for the first time together.  But since we couldn't he turned the song on, and then came and sat behind me and just held me while we listened to it.    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zV36C3FgA78 cue the "awww". 

Anyway, he has a really nice voice-- I love hearing him sing, especially singing along with that song/lyrics.

Then a few weeks ago, he turns it to this song in the car and squeezes my hand while listening.  Half way through, he says "I bet this song would be play-able.. it's acoustic."   Last week he comes home after picking his daughter up from school, and says, "so I bought a guitar today. I decided i'm going to start taking lessons." 

So, today he had his first lesson.   I think he's trying not to give stuff away, but in saying anything, it's given a lot away.  Like, he comes back and says "So the guy I'm learning from is amazing.  I mean, he's teaching me the basics, but said he could teach me specific songs if I wanted, also.  So I play him the song I want to learn, and after listening, he picked up his guitar, and was already figuring it out and playing it." And later, starts saying to his daughter, explaining how the song he's learning, it's not just learning chords:  Once finding a chord, that it's not just strumming but actually picking specific strings in rhythm. 


Think I'm on to something? Well, I'm fairly certain that he's learning the song to play/sing when proposing..  But I keep telling myself not to be so sure because I don't want to ruin it for myself.  But I guess it's not ruined if I don't know all the details, like where/when.  I'm kind of excited though.   When he sings it to me, even just a line here and there, it makes me get teary sometimes.  I think it's cute how many clues he doesn't realize he's dropping.  lol  I love how romantic BF likes to be. 


EDITED: Cause MAN I ramble when I'm tired..  Yeah.  It actually used to be longer than this.

Re: AW. How BF might propose, and why I have to try to keep my own surprises...

  • edited December 2011
    That song's about creeping on some chick in a coffee shop.
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  • edited December 2011
    LOL!!!!  Yeah, we both noticed that line too..  :P   I still love it.  Train is possibly my favorite group.   They have clever/witty lyrics.. like in another song.. "My feet on the ground, flat-- like an idol singer"  haha.  I laugh at that one every time.
  • edited December 2011
    I would stop overthinking. I know it is hard not to notice his actions, but maybe he is just learning the guitar.

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  • edited December 2011
    You're overthinking this.

    Stop...or I'ma slap a hoe.  Kidding...(mostly)
  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]You're overthinking this. Stop...or I'ma slap a hoe.  Kidding...(mostly)
    Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]

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  • lmwilberlmwilber member
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    edited December 2011
    Narwhal, Shoes- <3

    ImJacks- Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. Maybe he just wants to play guitar, maybe he wants to get out of the house for a few hours each week, and have some time to himself, or maybe he wants to play the song for you for your anniversary.  And, why does HIS new hobby have to be all about you? Maybe he's not even learning 'your' song?
    As others here might say, slow your roll. If he is happy learning to play the guitar, and you guys are happy together, then why does it matter why he's learning? 

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  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with others...  try really hard to stop overthinking this and just let it happen when it happens.  It will be really romantic and special no matter what.

    That said, as soon as you mentioned Train I knew that this song was going to be involved.  It's so beautiful.  I get chills.
  • edited December 2011
    Hahah!  Fair enough.  I totally didn't even think of it this way.  Though, I do realize now, that it might sound like over-thinking to an object 3rd-party observer.

    But to update.. while video chatting for a bit this morning, he says "Well, now I need to practice.."  gets the guitar and starts playing the first few chords/picking .. and I'm about 99% positive it's that song.   And then he again made a noticeable effort to down-play that he was learning 1 song, and basics.. but trying to sound nonchalant about the "1 song"  which is "really hard" he says.  :P

    I'm not trying to overthink it.. I just know BF, and know that this is likely the case.  It's not about me thinking his hobbies are all about me.. if I'm wrong, I'm not going to be sad or upset.  I'll actually be glad that I didn't already figure out a surprise.  I'm just fairly certain I'm right.  *shrug* 

    Anyway, I just think it's cute.. but simultaneously, sometimes I wish I didn't notice as much as I do because I like being surprised.  :)  Either way, he's sweet to be doing it.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_aw-bf-might-propose-try-keep-own-surprises?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9a98fbdd-9e30-4f6c-9b07-5c78dab0fc54Post:6f2a5ebb-7c1b-4212-a8f9-acd1e20fc852">Re: AW. How BF might propose, and why I have to try to keep my own surprises...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hahah!  Fair enough.  I totally didn't even think of it this way.  Though, I do realize now, that it might sound like over-thinking to an object 3rd-party observer. But to update.. while video chatting for a bit this morning, he says "Well, now I need to practice.."  gets the guitar and starts playing the first few chords/picking .. and I'm about 99% positive it's that song.   And then he again made a noticeable effort to down-play that he was learning 1 song, and basics.. but trying to sound nonchalant about the "1 song"  which is "really hard" he says.  :P I'm not trying to overthink it.. I just know BF, and know that this is likely the case.  It's not about me thinking his hobbies are all about me.. if I'm wrong, I'm not going to be sad or upset.  I'll actually be glad that I didn't already figure out a surprise.  I'm just fairly certain I'm right.  *shrug*  Anyway, I just think it's cute.. but simultaneously, sometimes I wish I didn't notice as much as I do because I like being surprised.  :)  Either way, he's sweet to be doing it.
    Posted by imJacksPGbelly[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Opens up the can of whoop a$$... 
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  • bettyshawbettyshaw member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't know why people are getting so bothered by this. Obviously, you know your SO better than we do, so if you have a hunch that's what it's about, than you're probably right! But you are right not to focus on it, just enjoy that he seems to be planning something really sweet for the two of you :).
  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_aw-bf-might-propose-try-keep-own-surprises?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:9a98fbdd-9e30-4f6c-9b07-5c78dab0fc54Post:593adc09-ab83-42d0-8b61-6cefed22c3ee">Re: AW. How BF might propose, and why I have to try to keep my own surprises...</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>I don't know why people are getting so bothered by this.</strong> Obviously, you know your SO better than we do, so if you have a hunch that's what it's about, than you're probably right! But you are right not to focus on it, just enjoy that he seems to be planning something really sweet for the two of you :).
    Posted by bettyshaw[/QUOTE]

    Yeah, because everyone on here is all up in arms over this.

    Jacks knows her SO better than anyone on here obviously, but sometimes a little fresh perspective is nice too. A lot of times people can get so caught up in what they want to happen, that they do start reading too much into things.

    I have no idea what he's planning, Jacks. Yepp, I'm useless.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_aw-bf-might-propose-try-keep-own-surprises?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9a98fbdd-9e30-4f6c-9b07-5c78dab0fc54Post:593adc09-ab83-42d0-8b61-6cefed22c3ee">Re: AW. How BF might propose, and why I have to try to keep my own surprises...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't know why people are getting so bothered by this. Obviously, you know your SO better than we do, so if you have a hunch that's what it's about, than you're probably right! But you are right not to focus on it, just enjoy that he seems to be planning something really sweet for the two of you :).
    Posted by bettyshaw[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>GRAUAGGHHHH JACKS! I CANT BELIEVE YOU THINK HE'S GOING TO PROPOSE! HISSSSSS BOOOOOOO RAHHHHHHHH</div><div>
    </div><div>*stomps cities*</div>
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  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_aw-bf-might-propose-try-keep-own-surprises?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:9a98fbdd-9e30-4f6c-9b07-5c78dab0fc54Post:5db96af3-506f-440d-ad47-e95c643de084">Re: AW. How BF might propose, and why I have to try to keep my own surprises...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: AW. How BF might propose, and why I have to try to keep my own surprises... : GRAUAGGHHHH JACKS! I CANT BELIEVE YOU THINK HE'S GOING TO PROPOSE! HISSSSSS BOOOOOOO RAHHHHHHHH <strong>*stomps cities*
    </strong>Posted by Narwhal[/QUOTE]

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  • edited December 2011
    For the record, I was kidding about the whoop @ss.  Jeez...the internet sucks for conveying sarcasm.
  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_aw-bf-might-propose-try-keep-own-surprises?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9a98fbdd-9e30-4f6c-9b07-5c78dab0fc54Post:f81dd67d-de0f-4c0f-bfce-28d3c06de47a">Re: AW. How BF might propose, and why I have to try to keep my own surprises...</a>:
    [QUOTE]For the record, I was kidding about the whoop @ss.  Jeez...the internet sucks for conveying sarcasm.
    Posted by loves2shop4shoes[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>For the record, I was not kidding about stomping cities.</div><div>
    </div><div>Tokyo tastes too good.

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  • edited December 2011
    L2S4S-- "For the record, I was kidding about the whoop @ss.  Jeez...the internet sucks for conveying sarcasm."    Don't worry, I got the sarcasm.  :D  I think we have a similar sense of humor. I always laugh at your posts. 

    And I didn't think anyone was getting bothered..  :P  I agree that if you read my OP without knowing SO and how easily I guess his surprises sometimes, it would sound like overthinking.  Which is why I laughed.  :)  I like the alternate perspective.

    and btw, I actually lol'ed when I read your "you actually think he's going to propose??", Narwhal.  :)
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