Hello and Reasons Why You Know He's Special

peekaboo2011

OMG I so totally know exactly what you mean.

I've had a crush on this guy for 8 YEARS and last weekend he took me home and tonight we're going to have a very special night.  So CLEARLY we're getting married.  I have to go plan.  We're not even together yet!!!  I don't have enough time between now and my wedding!!!

pockysquirrel

Audgie - Lawl. Single-handedly as in with minimal effort. Slapping would probably work too, though a guy his size would likely knock me into the next room if he tried.

(Yeah, social worker here = not condoning domestic violence either. I am still warped enough to chuckle at the joke, tho.)

 Liv - Aww, lookit the plushies! I swear, I'm going to get diabetes from all this sweetness.

Peaseblossom55

I love the stuffed animal stories, when I stay at the Bf's I always bring my stuffed animal oreo cat with me.  It looks like my cat at my parents house.  In fact I left it in a hotel in China (of all places! FML) and I paid $90 to ship him home to the US. Not even kidding. It was a $5 stuffed animal

I knew he was the one over time, it wasn't instant.  In our almost 2 years together we have never once fought, he accepts my quirks and loves me for who I am.   I can rely on him and trust him.  He makes me laugh.  I simply feel at home with him.  I never ever thought I could be this happy!

jaycee7389

Liv, that was the cutest story ever! And I love the picture of your animals haha.

My best friend passed away suddenly within a month of us dating. FI was so incredibly supportive and just knew what to do to make everything a little bit easier.

TigerlilySabre

Hi everyone,

First of all, I don't mind Sabre at all. The name is a reference to fencing anyway.

Thank you to everyone who answered, especially those with the wonderful stories. My favorite childhood stuffed animal is a black and white cow named Moo who hangs out in my room. SO does not have any stuffed animals or childhood toys aside from a piano, clearly this is a dealbreaker. (j/k)

Thanks MotoLyn, my drift into invasive wedding fantasies has indeed pretty much stayed limited to the TLC-watching, silly website-reading variety. I have certainly not contacted any vendors nor would plan to until such a time as it became necessary. It's more like I'm just reading about what I might generally like at all, since I honestly never thought of it before. I'm not like matching place mats in my head or something.

As for the LDR question, SO is a classical musician who travels sometimes. Traveling has been a big part of my life generally and of prior relationships. I was planning to reply by sharing some of these little things that tell me that my single days are numbered, but I do get the sense that this would cause me to be flamed?! So don't worry, I'll keep them to myself. I frankly do feel a bit sheepish now.

I will say this though, I dated someone else for several years in a conventional fashion. There was indeed a honeymoon period, then something catastrophic happened that revealed fundamental differences in our natures and we kept working at the relationship for years afterwards but it never really ever felt right. In theory, I could have married him, we cared about each other a lot and we both wanted it to work, but ultimately amicably parted ways. There's a reason that I was never googling sites like this or watching wedding porn during those years. On some level, I always knew it was just an interim relationship.

Anyway, I'm not going to do the celebrity thing and actually get hitched anytime soon. The thing is that with my ex, I knew that the honeymoon period was indeed a honeymoon even at the time. Also we didn't know each other very well at all before we dated. I really don't want to debate anything about the nature of my relationship to my SO at all. Everyone is different and I really respect everyone's differences. Having been friends for so long does mean that I already know a lot about SO. I've seen him being ill, cranky, mad, scared, etc. I know his beliefs, fears, and quirks. I've hung out with him in a hot car with no AC when neither of us had showered (foreign road trip). After dating a nice guy with whom I was always fighting or trying to work things out, I really do recognize the difference.

kellyt89

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_hello-reasons-hes-special?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:9fb1ca14-f6c1-4d05-b807-6c1932ee7811Post:e4b8ae10-cdc9-4741-88b3-d8455f6814b8">Re: Hello and Reasons Why You Know He's Special</a>:
[QUOTE]Awww, I love the love you guys! I'm going to tell BF when he gets home that our story was so thoroughly endorsed. And, for your viewing pleasure, our stuffed animals. We have also "adopted" a stuffed pig together.  Left to right: Piggle, Hoppy, Green Puppy, and Fluffy. (In front of the Christmas tree. We made a joke card to send my parents haha.)
Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

<div>This is the cutest thing ever!!! Before we started to be LDR, BF bought me a stuffed kangaroo and I bought him a stuffed turtle (both from a previous inside joke). Whenever we skype we'll (okay...mostly me...but sometimes him!) will bring them into the camera and have them do funny things.</div><div>
</div><div>p.s. Sabre, I do understand what you're feeling.  There was something in me that felt that BF was "it" after 2 months of officially dating (and over a year of being friends). I would NEVER have done anything serious then (and won't be for several years still), but it was definitely something beyond the honeymoon phase thing. Communication and feeling compatible has never felt easier and we just "click" in a way I hadn't experienced before.</div><div>
</div><div>Enjoy every minute this feeling :)</div>

duckymonkey

He makes me feel that I am the most special person in the world...
He shows how much he cares about me all the time and is always by my side if I don't feel well or if I need anything...
He can read right through me; without me speaking a single word he knows what's on my mind... (funny fact: we have this game where when we go out to eat we try to guess what the other is going to order and he gets it right like 99% of the time lol)
He tells me how much he loves me everyday...
He holds my hand all the time...
He puts up with my weird moods...
He never lets our times together end on a bad note... if we disagree on something or if he feels that I'm somehow upset, he always makes sure he calls back to set things right between us... and he's not afraid to apologize, which is something some guys have problems with...
He watches soccer games with me even though he doesn't care for soccer much.... and I think this little story I'm about to tell you about pretty much sealed the deal....

...I'm a huge soccer freak (being mexican and all, hahahaa). There was a very important game (to me at least) a few months ago; it was the final match in a tournament, México vs USA. Needless to say, I was rooting for México and extremely excited about this game. I was planning on watching it with my family in México since I don't live too far from the border. Well, he decided he wanted to come watch the game with me.... in México.... with all my family (mom, grandparents, uncles, cousins, etc etc), most of whom he had never met before. So he came; I introduced him and we watched the game.... him being the only white person in the house (probably in the whole city at that time! hahaha) surrounded by about 20 or 30 very rowdy mexicans. He kept his impulses to celebrate the one USA goal to himself (wisely! ) and suffered inside as everyone in the house screamed and shouted, celebrating every Mexican goal as us mexicans do hehehee. And in the end, he was happy.... even if his team lost, he was truly and sincerely happy that I was happy... and surprisingly enough, he fit in quite well with my very noisy, soccer-maniac mexican family! As we were driving back.... I was even more convinced he was THE one! I mean, not everyone has the guts to go to México during a México vs USA soccer game being the only american around.... unless he is truly in love!

Sorry about the long post... I get easily carried away