Ring predictiment.

heartlyric

I am not sure where to post this so if this is the wrong board, my apologies in advance.

I am 25, my boyfriend is 24, we aren't engaged, or even close to taking that jump, but we live together. We celebrated our fourth anniversary this february and he said that as my gift, he wanted to get me an nice expensive jewelry piece. I have always loved rings, but never got any because I have bigger fingers than most girls. I was seriously afraid I might be a 13 or 14 but it ends up I am a 10 and a half. He thought it was a perfect idea because it could be like another step to commitment, and right where we are both comfortable. Not a promise ring (aren't those only for high school kids, like purity rings?), not an enagement ring, but something right in the middle. Plus he is one of those guys that wants his girlfriend to show off material goods her awesome boyfriend got her. Which might be because of our age.

We found the perfect ring, and after some jeweler drama (the stone fell out in the store but they refused to refund us, only exchange or custom order) I have my perfect ring. It was something that they had in the store display when their custom order still was full of suck. The thing is I thought it was perfect because it was size 10 when their normal stock size is a 6.75.

Here comes the problem/issue. I don't want to get it resized right now because after all this time I just want to wear my ring but it doesn't fit comfortablely on my middle or point finger. It's too loose for my pinky or thumb. So when I am at home or out and about, I wear it on the ring finger because it feels comfortable. When I go to his/my family/friends I switch it to my middle finger, so as not to alarm.

Is this ok/acceptable to do? I ask because I am curious and I am trying to come up with a good solution where I don't re-size it until I feel like it. Re-sizing not due to money trouble because it is free to size/clean/inspect it when I feel like it, because my boyfriend put in the extra dough.

CASK85

Can you just wear it on your right hand? 

AudgiePodge

Wear it as a right hand ring on your ring finger.

skyler1108

Does the ring fit on your right hand? If it fits on any of your right hand fingers comfortably I would just wear it on your right hand.

leia1979

I agree with cschiano. Right had ring finger.

heartlyric

Thank you for the advice everyone. Yes, I can wear it on either ring finger. I just didn't know it was ok to wear it on the right ring finger if you weren't married.

leia1979

It varies somewhat by country/culture, but generally in North America, only the ring finger of the left hand is used for wedding/engagement rings. Right hand is fair game.

Edited because my fingers and brain are obviously not in sync today.

skyler1108

You wear your wedding ring on your left ring finger, not your right. Wearing a ring on your right ring finger has no meaning that I am aware of.

ETA- Like leia said it can vary so I was referring just to just to the United Stated. Wearing a ring on your right ring finger could mean something somewhere else but I do not know about it.

heyimbren

Right hand is fair game. Sounds like the easiest solution for you!

What does the ring look like? Just to satisfy my curiousity...

Also, there are many people who get promise rings when they're past high school. And it sounds like that is kind of the sentiment behind yours. You don't have to call it a promise ring, it's just a clarification that it isn't only high school aged couples who do that.

MissOwl

SO and i both wear right hand 'you're my favorite' rings. sounds like that's what you're doing too.

luvdncn90

I have a ring that was given to me from M for our two year anniversary. I wear it on my left hand ring finger, and am perfectly comfortable with it there.

To us it is not a promise ring so much as a gift given out of love and to symbolize our commitment to each other. It does not fit on my right hand since my right hand is a bit bigger then my left and I don't want to get it resized. I don't mind telling people it's not an engagement ring and when they ask what I will do when we do get engaged I simply say "I will get it resized for my right hand".

Do whatever makes you feel comfortable.

SeaTea02

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[QUOTE]Thank you for the advice everyone. Yes, I can wear it on either ring finger. I just didn't know it was ok to wear it on the right ring finger if you weren't married.
Posted by heartlyric[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Your wedding ring finger is your left hand. All of the ladies are recommending your wear it on the non-wedding hand. </div><div>
</div><div>Personally I think either is acceptable. 

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Sparrow87

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[QUOTE]Do whatever makes you feel comfortable.
Posted by luvdncn90[/QUOTE]

I second Luv. 

Also I have an heirloom ring that was a gift from my mother and I wear it on my left ring finger because I'm right handed and paranoid about it flying off.  When people ask if it's an  E Ring I just tell them it's a gift and there usually aren't any follow up questions.

ETA: For my terrible spelling! 

SassyFlats

I had a promise ring well after high school. It was a gift from DH (obviously before we were married). He wanted to give me a symbol of his commitment before we were really ready to get engaged. I wore it on my left ring finger. We were also long-distance for a while... so it was nice to have a left hand ring.

However, if you're uncomfortable with it being mistaken for a promise or engagement ring, then go right ahead and wear it on your right hand! Unless there's some sort of cultural significance to the right ring finger in your families, it shouldn't alarm anyone.

I love the idea of calling it a "you're my favorite" ring.

SopChick

BF and I have rings we gave each other, we both agree that they aren't supposed to "mean" anything - we just like them as pieces of jewellery. We both wear them on our right ring fingers. They are both bands, and family members asked if they meant anything when we first bought them, but after we explained that we just like them, it was no longer a question.

Just do what is comfortable to you, both on your hand (I don't feel comfortable with rings on my other fingers), and in your relationship. In the end it's your relationship, and it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks.


Oh, and pics or it didn't happen.

Beads921

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[QUOTE]Right hand is fair game. Sounds like the easiest solution for you! What does the ring look like? Just to satisfy my curiousity... ;) <strong>Also, there are many people who get promise rings when they're past high school. And it sounds like that is kind of the sentiment behind yours. You don't have to call it a promise ring, it's just a clarification that it isn't only high school aged couples who do that.</strong>
Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]

<div>I can personally vouch for this. Although we've never called it a 'promise ring' because, you're right OP, it feels horribly high school.</div>

Blue & White

I wear my great grandma's engagement ring on my right hand (cause I'm not engaged and it was from HER, not my boyfriend - and I love it just as a ring, haha)

I still get asked at least once a day when I'm getting married.

I come up with some creative answers though