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*foot stomp* NO NO NO....grrrr *Warning: Vent enclosed*

Okay,

So ya'll may remember last Monday the shiittastical shiitstorm that went through my office that wreaked havoc. Well this week has been better, albiet effing insane because BossMan and I were trying to fix Ex-PM's fuuckups. No huge deal, right? Wrong.

We've been in touch with Ex-PM because of the way he worked (kept most of his info in his head, instead of documenting everything, like he was supposed to) - I needed answers that I couldn't get from anyone but him. Today he met with BossMan for about 45 minutes.

I get called into BossMan's office - he is debating hiring Ex-PM back, that Ex-PM wants his old job back (the one I'm supposed to be taking). He is very conflicted (he is a very christian, forgiving, caring person) - he knows this is the easy way out, not the right way. He knows that this kind of blow up will happen again, that next time it will be worse, and that shiit is just going to keep being effed up.

I told him I understand how much he has on his plate right now, and that we are just in a slump right now because of the shiittastical last couple of days we've had, cleaning up Ex-PM's mess. I expressed how much no one in the company wants him back. I told him if he wants Ex-PM to come back, offer him a job as one of our sales reps (which he won't take because he says he can't make enough money, which is bs...it's commissioned, so he just wouldn't have a steady paycheck).

Long story short - I am very nervous. Not for my job, although I am going to be very pissed off if he got me excited about something for nothing, but more for my company. Ex-PM coming back is such a bad bad bad bad bad option. I am praying that BossMan will come to his senses, and do the right thing. My company, the office, and our install crews can't go through this again.

I have amazing job security with my company (BossMan can be bipolar and an A-Hole at times, which makes me one of the very few people who can handle him as well as I do), but I honestly don't think I can tolerate Ex-PM coming back and pulling the same old BS. It scares me to think about leaving and finding another job (I wouldn't leave without one)....but.... I am too damn vocal when it comes to people doing shiit they aren't supposed to.

Suggestions? Thoughts? LOLcats??

IDK... this whole thing has just really added to my stress level and I have no motivation for anything. I'm cranky with BF because of it (it makes the little irritations at home 10 times worse), I want to just crawl in bed and sleep for like 3 days.

TIA ladies

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    edited December 2011
    Can you CN this? I got a little lost..my mind is mush because I've been working on a project all day.
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    IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_foot-stomp-nogrrrr-warning-vent-enclosed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:a5e5996a-f428-4429-bc9d-e73f9e8c2334Post:e9afabba-6cb6-479b-9423-6d3899b71e45">Re: *foot stomp* NO NO NO....grrrr *Warning: Vent enclosed*</a>:
    [QUOTE]Can you CN this? I got a little lost..my mind is mush because I've been working on a project all day.
    Posted by jaycee7389[/QUOTE]

    CN:
    Bossman and Ex-PM got into huge verbal fight - police called, escorted off premises - shiittastical event ending in PM becoming EX.

    Bossman and Ex-PM need to talk because Ex-PM effed up big on some projects

    Bossman and Ex-PM talked for about 45 minutes, Ex-PM made BossMan feel bad, and now BossMan is contemplating hiring back Ex-PM into same position, the one that I was told I was getting (along with a big raise)

    Hope that helps a little bit
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    edited December 2011
    Yes it did. That is complete BS if he is going to offer you a job and then change his mind and give it back. I hope you still get your job!

    Becunning posted a funny thread beneath yours if you want something to laugh at..or you can always visit memebase. :)
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    edited December 2011
    Ugh... This sucks! I hope everything works out! I honestly don't know what to say though.
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_foot-stomp-nogrrrr-warning-vent-enclosed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:a5e5996a-f428-4429-bc9d-e73f9e8c2334Post:5642b6ae-78ed-4ada-ad72-7bc22913598f">Re: *foot stomp* NO NO NO....grrrr *Warning: Vent enclosed*</a>:
    [QUOTE]Yes it did. That is complete BS if he is going to offer you a job and then change his mind and give it back. I hope you still get your job! Becunning posted a funny thread beneath yours if you want something to laugh at..or you can always visit memebase. :)
    Posted by jaycee7389[/QUOTE]

    I still have my OM job if he does - but the PM job would be such a huge step for me in my career...and I would be good at it! I just need the more technical side of it - which would be a cakewalk to learn, plus I'm a quick study.

    I did check out B's thread...it was hilarious...definitely made me feel better :)
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    edited December 2011

    Oh that sucks!  :(  Not cool Boss man!  I will pray that that doesn't happen.  Can you talk to him some more about why this wouldn't be a good option?  And show him how much the office would hate that?

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    IrishDreamerIrishDreamer member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_foot-stomp-nogrrrr-warning-vent-enclosed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:a5e5996a-f428-4429-bc9d-e73f9e8c2334Post:d354efb2-46fa-4e86-addd-c2e738afde77">Re: *foot stomp* NO NO NO....grrrr *Warning: Vent enclosed*</a>:
    [QUOTE]That's really frustrating, especially since he planned on making you PM.  Is there an HR department you can discuss this with?  If Ex-PM makes everyone miserable, they should know before he's hired back.  And they would definitely be on your side if you were promised a position, and then had it taken away.   If you don't have an HR department, you might need to go to your boss's boss with other coworkers and state your concerns.  It sucks to go above someone's head like that, but it's worth it if the company will suffer because of Boss's decisions.
    Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

    I am the HR department, and he is the President/Owner lol. We are a small business. Our entire company is Me, Bossman, 8 installers, and 2 sales reps lol
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    marleylikeairmarleylikeair member
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    edited December 2011
    WTF. He promised you the job and is now looking at reneging?! That is shitty. I really hope you can have a little sit-down with BossMan when things are a bit calmer and make sure he is considering the fact that you also are deserving of some compassion here. You've done a great job and you shouldn't get the shaft.
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    edited December 2011
    That sounds so frustrating.  Hopefully Bossman comes to his senses and doesn't hire the guy back.  Sounds like EX-PM should stay EX.  You think he'd realize this as you said EX-PM was escorted off the property, and messed up on projects.  I wouldn't want someone like that working there.

    Keep us posted, I hope it all works out for you!!

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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_foot-stomp-nogrrrr-warning-vent-enclosed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:a5e5996a-f428-4429-bc9d-e73f9e8c2334Post:d94b8bdf-ba1a-4f47-913d-8713ba86fcad">Re: *foot stomp* NO NO NO....grrrr *Warning: Vent enclosed*</a>:
    [QUOTE]That sounds so frustrating.  Hopefully Bossman comes to his senses and doesn't hire the guy back.  Sounds like EX-PM should stay EX.  You think he'd realize this as you said EX-PM was escorted off the property, and messed up on projects.  I wouldn't want someone like that working there. Keep us posted, I hope it all works out for you!! I don't have a really funny LOLcat but I have a cute one:
    Posted by kaitlynmichelle[/QUOTE]

    :) That made me smile, thank you.

    BossMan normally listens to me when I say things, because I don't say things lightly... But his big heart sometimes gets in the way... *sigh* He's supposed to have an answer today or at the very latest, this weekend...
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_foot-stomp-nogrrrr-warning-vent-enclosed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a5e5996a-f428-4429-bc9d-e73f9e8c2334Post:f1a01cea-45ac-4f7e-8380-cf264c9f05de">Re: *foot stomp* NO NO NO....grrrr *Warning: Vent enclosed*</a>:
    [QUOTE]That super sucks. I am sorry. I think that maybe it would help to write down your (valid) concerns about ex-PM's rehiring and what effect that would have on the company. Your coworkers could do that, too, if they know about this possibility and want to voice their concerns. You could also write down the reasons you think you'd be a good PM, the reasons you guys likely discussed because he was promoting you.  Do you have the fact that he was promoting you in writing, even in email? I'd use that you your advantage, if you do.<strong> If he does decide to be stupid and hire ex-PM back, I'd at the very least demand a higher salary. </strong>
    Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

    This!

    I'm sorry you're going through such a stressful situation, Irish. :( Just remember that you can only control yourself, so voice your concerns and then try not to stress too much.
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_foot-stomp-nogrrrr-warning-vent-enclosed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a5e5996a-f428-4429-bc9d-e73f9e8c2334Post:f1a01cea-45ac-4f7e-8380-cf264c9f05de">Re: *foot stomp* NO NO NO....grrrr *Warning: Vent enclosed*</a>:
    [QUOTE]That super sucks. I am sorry. I think that maybe it would help to write down your (valid) concerns about ex-PM's rehiring and what effect that would have on the company. Your coworkers could do that, too, if they know about this possibility and want to voice their concerns. You could also write down the reasons you think you'd be a good PM, the reasons you guys likely discussed because he was promoting you.  <strong>Do you have the fact that he was promoting you in writing, even in email? I'd use that you your advantage, if you do. If he does decide to be stupid and hire ex-PM back, I'd at the very least demand a higher salary. </strong>
    Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]<div>
    Liv is wise.  If you have some kind of record of him telling you that you were up for a promotion that could help.  I agree, I would be asking for a raise if he does hire ex-PM back because if he was considering promoting you, he obviously thinks you are a good fit for a higher-paying role.</div><div>
    </div><div>If your coworkers also think that ex-PM should not come back, they should be telling Bossman as well.  I don't really know the best way to go about doing that, but if Bossman knows that there are several staff that are concerned with his return, it might make him rethink hiring him back.</div><div>
    </div><div>Or send him to NEY, we'll set him straight :P</div><div>

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    edited December 2011
    I"m so sorry to hear!  This really sucks and is so unfair.  See what happens or go in on Monday and have a talk about where things are going.  I hope this works out in your favor though.

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