1st: This is an AE. I'm sorry to inflict yet another AE post on you guys -- really, I don't care if anyone here knows who I am -- but I can't risk having my mom or some other family member come across this post.
Anyway, I had a heart-to-heart with BF tonight in which he brought up my relationship with my parents. He's always known that I have a strained relationship with them (my mother in particular), but tonight he seemed to have forgotten that altogether. He mentioned that he expected me to talk to her about our plans prior to getting engaged, and seemed shocked when I told him that I intend to do nothing of the sort. He even implied that part of the reason he hasn't proposed yet is that he's been waiting for me to talk to my parents. He's very close to his parents, and talked to them months ago about our intentions, but I didn't know he expected the same from me.
I'm leaving out a lot of things that were discussed in order to keep this short, but I'm heartbroken over it right now. My mother has influenced literally just about every major decision that I've made in my life, and now it seems that this has carried over into my relationship with BF as well. (To clarify: I am not 17 and still living on her support -- it's just an issue I've been struggling with for a long time).
I'm not really sure why I'm posting this. I guess I've just grown to like and trust you girls and feel like I need to vent a little.
I don't know how to proceed from here. It may seem like a minor thing based on the few sentences that I've written, but my relationship with my parents is something I always thought that BF understood, and it alarms me that he's misunderstood it so drastically.
Anyway, I'm sure this isn't making any sense. It's late and I'm physically and mentally exhausted. I couldn't explain the issue fully without taking several pages worth of text. If you've read this much, thank you.