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Thoughts on Friday Weddings?

Given that pretty much every venue I'm interested in costs half as much to rent on Friday as opposed to Saturday, I'm starting to toy with the idea of having the wedding on Friday.  What does everyone think about this?

Of all of our family and friends, only two (my brother and favorite uncle) will be coming from more than one state away, and they're pretty much obligated to come anyway, so I'm not too worried about them being unable to make it.  The vast majority of our guests are from either East Texas or West Louisiana, so it's not too far.
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  • ravenrayravenray member
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    edited December 2011
    Would this be an evening wedding?  Honestly I really don't know what is wrong with a Friday wedding.  Sure it's on a work day but weddings are only suppose to happen once so I feel like yoou will be okay.  They have the whole weekend to recover from their hangover.  Just my two cents :)
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  • edited December 2011
    I have no issues with them, but  if its' too far of a drive I wouldn't for sure come just because I'd need to take off work on Friday. But then again, that normally wouldn't bother me. I really like the idea of a friday wedding.
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  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    Ray - It would definitely be in the evening.  We'd probably start at 6-ish.

    There are people who would have to either take off a day of work or miss it, I'm sure.  But it's generally easiest to take a Friday off if you need a day, right?

    I went to a Friday wedding once and I really liked that I still had the whole weekend remaining after it was over.  But that was just me.
  • ravenrayravenray member
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    Elle- I wouldn't worry about it.  Sure people might have to take some time off but if it's at 6 depending on the work times they could take a half day. Ya it might mean some people can't make it but think about it this way you can use the money those people ment for your honeymoon!
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  • Cackle6Cackle6 member
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    Since you don't have too many out of town guests, it would probably be fine. I've only been to one Friday wedding, and because the ceremony was at 4 in the afternoon I wasn't able to make it for the ceremony, but came for the reception that was in the evening (and it turns out a lot of the other guests did this as well, which the bride and groom were actually fine with because it was more of a family/intimate cermony). And because I knew I was going to a wedding right after work, I just brought my clothes with and went straight there.

    Almost all of the other weddings I've been to have been out of state and I've had to fly  in, so if any of those had been on a Friday chances are I wouldn't have been able to go. So if you don't have too many out of town guests, I'd say go for it.
  • edited December 2011
    I say do it. You're gonna save TONS of money that way. I don't think people would mind that much either...they'll have plenty of notice AND they get a long weekend!

    When BF and I get married we'll probably have a Friday evening wedding. Most of our family is in this general area anyways except for like three people.
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  • tuarceathatuarceatha member
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    edited December 2011
    I say do it. Fridays are awesome, especially when you get to go to a wedding on one.
  • motoLynmotoLyn member
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    I see no issue with a Friday wedding either.  That's because I don't mind taking a Friday off.  I would just worry about those who can't take the Friday off that might have an issue.  Otherwise the cost alone would tip me towards a Friday wedding and to know that I can party all I like and have the whole weekend to continue partying or recover. 
  • Blue & WhiteBlue & White member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm dissenting.

    If your guests are coming out of town, they have to take off up to 3 days off work.

    It's worse when your guests are in the wedding party (and assuming your wedding party is close to your age, these are likely the most cash-strapped group at your wedding.)

    For our wedding we're in next week, it costs us over $1000 to get there (without having to pay for a hotel OR a car rental, because it's in our parents' hometown) and we have to take 2.5 days off work each.  I love the bride and groom, but I wouldn't even consider going otherwise.
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  • KatyRoseMKatyRoseM member
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    I don't like them.  People have to take off more time and are less likely to come.  If thats not an issue for you and your guests won't mind, go for it. 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_thoughts-friday-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a902ac12-0515-438a-910d-7b933c534c05Post:fe08d94a-6b35-4edb-84e1-123e22965535">Re: Thoughts on Friday Weddings?</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>Since you don't have too many out of town guests, it would probably be fine.</strong> I've only been to one Friday wedding, and because the ceremony was at 4 in the afternoon I wasn't able to make it for the ceremony, but came for the reception that was in the evening (and it turns out a lot of the other guests did this as well, which the bride and groom were actually fine with because it was more of a family/intimate cermony). And because I knew I was going to a wedding right after work, I just brought my clothes with and went straight there. Almost all of the other weddings I've been to have been out of state and I've had to fly  in, so if any of those had been on a Friday chances are I wouldn't have been able to go. So if you don't have too many out of town guests, I'd say go for it.
    Posted by Cackle6[/QUOTE]

    To clarify, <em>most</em> of our guests will be from out-of-town.  No matter where we hold it.  Our famlies are scattered throughout Louisiana and Texas with generally just a couple people in each city.  I just meant that they're not so far away they'd have to fly.  A few people will have five-hour drives, though.
  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_thoughts-friday-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a902ac12-0515-438a-910d-7b933c534c05Post:382a697b-6534-4589-b327-ff29ea56b07b">Re: Thoughts on Friday Weddings?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm dissenting. If your guests are coming out of town, they have to take off up to 3 days off work. It's worse when your guests are in the wedding party (and assuming your wedding party is close to your age, these are likely the most cash-strapped group at your wedding.) For our wedding we're in next week, it costs us over $1000 to get there (without having to pay for a hotel OR a car rental, because it's in our parents' hometown) and we have to take 2.5 days off work each.  I love the bride and groom, but I wouldn't even consider going otherwise.
    Posted by Blue & White[/QUOTE]

    I highly doubt that anybody would need more than one day (that Friday) off.  Does that change your opinion at all?
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    If it works for you and the people you HAVE to have there, then do it.  I'm jealous of your awesome cheaper Friday booking capacity.  Apparently, Friday=Saturday in DC.  At least, at the places we're looking.

    I say save the money!
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  • AudgiePodgeAudgiePodge member
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    I like Fridays.

    I like weddings.

    Win.
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  • leia1979leia1979 member
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    I have mixed feelings. If I had to take a day off to go, I'd only go if I were pretty close to the couple.

    Even if the wedding started at 6, I would have to leave early unless it was within 10 miles of work (which also means getting ready at work). Maybe Friday evening traffic isn't as bad in your area.

    However, I completely understand going for the cost savings, and the people who love you will still come.
  • edited December 2011
    I would not be happy to take off work for a Friday wedding. For traveling I would probably have to take off Thursday too and many people just can't do that. Maybe you could look at some venues that are not so expensive. I would probably decline the wedding invitation.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_thoughts-friday-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a902ac12-0515-438a-910d-7b933c534c05Post:0a4dc29c-68e7-4b16-a1e4-5c687412bd31">Re: Thoughts on Friday Weddings?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Thoughts on Friday Weddings? : I highly doubt that anybody would need more than one day (that Friday) off.  Does that change your opinion at all?
    Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

    If I only needed one day off and didn't need to fly anywhere, that would be okay.  But the wedding party would likely need off Thurs & Fri if you plan on having a rehearsal. 

    My jobs tend to be a little weird about taking days off too though - I worked in a ridiculous research lab that never gave us leave time without selling our souls for awhile...now I'm a teacher, so I need to find a sub to cover me (which is way harder at the college level than at the K-12 level).  It's a pain, but I get it done if I love the people enough.
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  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    Peek - the price difference is ridiculous.  I'll be looking at a venue's website and the first thing I'll see is "Friday: $1000"  ...eyes scan further down the page...  "Saturday: $1,000,000"

    I'm exaggerating, of course, but it genuinely feels that way.  And then, since we're looking at June, jack the price up another 30%.

    Leia - Thanks for the thoughts.  I do appreciate that having it on Friday would mean that pretty much everyone takes that day off.  I guess my question should be "would you be willing to take off a Friday to attend a wedding with an open bar?"
  • peekaboo2011peekaboo2011 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_thoughts-friday-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:a902ac12-0515-438a-910d-7b933c534c05Post:b5c549f5-e776-4e59-ab45-d3b49afc0f93">Re: Thoughts on Friday Weddings?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Peek - the price difference is ridiculous.  I'll be looking at a venue's website and the first thing I'll see is "Friday: $1000"  ...eyes scan further down the page...  "Saturday: $1,000,000" I'm exaggerating, of course, but it genuinely feels that way.  And then, since we're looking at June, jack the price up another 30%. Leia - Thanks for the thoughts.  I do appreciate that having it on Friday would mean that pretty much everyone takes that day off.  I guess my question should be <strong>"would you be willing to take off a Friday to attend a wedding with an open bar?"</strong>
    Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

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  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    Blue and Bakes - thanks!
  • edited December 2011
    I'm getting married on a Thursday so you have no argument from me. Then again everyone who is coming to the wedding will be coming from OH or WI (wedding is in Los Angeles) so then will be here all week anyways.
  • leia1979leia1979 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_thoughts-friday-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a902ac12-0515-438a-910d-7b933c534c05Post:b5c549f5-e776-4e59-ab45-d3b49afc0f93">Re: Thoughts on Friday Weddings?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Peek - the price difference is ridiculous.  I'll be looking at a venue's website and the first thing I'll see is "Friday: $1000"  ...eyes scan further down the page...  "Saturday: $1,000,000" I'm exaggerating, of course, but it genuinely feels that way.  And then, since we're looking at June, jack the price up another 30%. Leia - Thanks for the thoughts.  I do appreciate that having it on Friday would mean that pretty much everyone takes that day off.  I guess my question should be <strong>"would you be willing to take off a Friday to attend a wedding with an open bar?"</strong>
    Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

    LOL. Unfortunately, I'm one of the few people that has no pull on. I hate alcohol. But I would totally take a day off for a good friend. I did that when I was a BM (Saturday wedding, but Friday flower arranging party and rehearsal). One of my BMs is taking the whole week of my wedding off! She has to take a whole week at a time, not just a day. I felt kinda bad because even I'm only planning to take the Thursday and Friday before off.
  • Cackle6Cackle6 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_thoughts-friday-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a902ac12-0515-438a-910d-7b933c534c05Post:cc36dda9-67b8-4efd-b839-7e45323fae8a">Re: Thoughts on Friday Weddings?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Thoughts on Friday Weddings? : To clarify, most of our guests will be from out-of-town.  No matter where we hold it.  Our famlies are scattered throughout Louisiana and Texas with generally just a couple people in each city.  I just meant that they're not so far away they'd have to fly.  A few people will have five-hour drives, though.
    Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

    <div>My apologies, I misread your original post. If most people have a drive that is over 2 hours, then it might not be such a good idea. I would maybe talk to your families to get a general idea of how many people it might be an issue for. I know that everyone assumes you can just get off of work, but there are professions out there that don't give you a lot (or any) vacation time. I would have to take a day or more unpaid to attend an out of town Friday wedding.</div>
  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_thoughts-friday-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a902ac12-0515-438a-910d-7b933c534c05Post:719a8f5d-7609-49ca-8790-ffc7aa28f113">Re: Thoughts on Friday Weddings?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Thoughts on Friday Weddings? : My apologies, I misread your original post. If most people have a drive that is over 2 hours, then it might not be such a good idea. I would maybe talk to your families to get a general idea of how many people it might be an issue for. I know that everyone assumes you can just get off of work, but there are professions out there that don't give you a lot (or any) vacation time. I would have to take a day or more unpaid to attend an out of town Friday wedding.
    Posted by Cackle6[/QUOTE]

    You didn't mis-read, I just didn't explain very clearly.  Thanks for the thoughts!
  • edited December 2011
    I'd have to leave work really early to make it from NY to Texas but I'm willing to do it for you! LOL :D
  • cu97tigercu97tiger member
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    I don't have any problem with Friday weddings. My friends and family are scattered all over the place. They are going to have to take at least a half day off (or pay hundreds more for flights) to get here. I'll be sad for some people who can't come, but I've also taken many days off (or rearranged schedules) to be at weddings... it just comes with the territory. For me though, I think I'd lean towards a Sunday wedding (which are usually also discounted).
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  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_thoughts-friday-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a902ac12-0515-438a-910d-7b933c534c05Post:5fab9d09-1aef-4646-b60d-4cedc74244d5">Re: Thoughts on Friday Weddings?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't have any problem with Friday weddings. My friends and family are scattered all over the place. They are going to have to take at least a half day off (or pay hundreds more for flights) to get here. I'll be sad for some people who can't come, but I've also taken many days off (or rearranged schedules) to be at weddings... it just comes with the territory. <strong>For me though, I think I'd lean towards a Sunday wedding (which are usually also discounted).</strong>
    Posted by cu97tiger[/QUOTE]

    Yeah, I thought about Sunday, too, but I feel like that would require people to take Monday off, and it's generally easier for people to request a Friday off than a Monday...  that was my reasoning, anyway.

    Oh well, based on the opinions in this thread and what I've always wanted to do, I'm going to try to keep it on Saturday.  It just means a little more venue hunting.
  • edited December 2011
    Friday weddings don't bother me so long as I don't have to drive to far to get to them.

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    I'll be there, even if you have a Wednesday wedding* Wink








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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_thoughts-friday-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:a902ac12-0515-438a-910d-7b933c534c05Post:f7131a5a-ba3d-486b-8c18-8f274c4dd0c1">Re: Thoughts on Friday Weddings?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'll be there, even if you have a Wednesday wedding*  *please don't do that.
    Posted by cschiano[/QUOTE]

    You're just after the open bar...<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />
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