Not Engaged But Planning Your Wedding?

elleneilson

I'm a freelance journalist currently researching a possible story on the trend of brides planning their weddings early—as in, before even being engaged. Do anyone know of any instances in which this is happening, be it a woman who has already purchased her wedding dress, or someone who's set down a deposit on a venue? If there's anyone I should speak to on this subject, please let me know! Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Please email: laura@lauraneilson.com

peekaboo2011

Not allowed.  REPORTED.

doubleSS07

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[QUOTE]I'm a freelance journalist currently researching a possible story on the trend of brides planning their weddings early—as in, before even being engaged. Do anyone know of any instances in which this is happening, be it a woman who has already purchased her wedding dress, or someone who's set down a deposit on a venue? If there's anyone I should speak to on this subject, please let me know! Any help would be greatly appreciated. Please email: laura@lauraneilson.com
Posted by elleneilson[/QUOTE]

HAHA oh boy this ought to be fun

Swazzle

No because those women are completely nutso and we only allow half nutsos on this board. Buhbye. 

FreeSpirit666

If she ever gets published, it should be an interesting read heh heh

jemmini6

I don't know anyone that crazy.  We get them from time to time on this board, but they usually run off to weddingbee saying how we're all a bunch of mean bitches for telling them it's not okay to plan a wedding before you're engaged.  You might have better luck getting some BSC stories over there.

radleyboo

Let's see...  I'm not engaged, not planning anything, and not responding or reading your stupid article. 

RWS2011

Ooo!  OOO!  Me!  I am thinking thinking Circus, circus, circus.  We'll rent a big tent and have an  open confection bar, he and I will ride in on elephants, and our officiant will be on stilts.  I can't tell my boyfriend about this because he is terrified of elephants, but so what?!  THIS IS MY DAY!!!

ne11iebo0

I am not technicall engaged, but my boyfriend and I have rings on layaway and are making payments because we know it is going to happen. So I am not crazy, but it is fun and smart to plan ahead! Yeah it takes a TINY bit of fun out of the engagement, but not really! I mean I have no clue when he is going to ask or how so it will still be perfect. I think it is better to be prepared than to stress and wait last minutie. We even have a date set! I am happy about it.

bethsmiles

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[QUOTE]I am not technicall engaged, but my boyfriend and I have rings on layaway and are making payments because we know it is going to happen. So I am not crazy, but it is fun and smart to plan ahead! Yeah it takes a TINY bit of fun out of the engagement, but not really! I mean I have no clue when he is going to ask or how so it will still be perfect. I think it is better to be prepared than to stress and wait last minutie. :) We even have a date set! I am happy about it.
Posted by ne11iebo0[/QUOTE]

Waiting until you are engaged to plan your wedding isn't waiting until the last minute. This is how it works: You get engaged THEN you pick a date that allows you as much time as you need to plan your wedding without being super stressed.

Don't try to make people think you are smart when in fact you are planning a wedding to a man you aren't engaged to...so yeah you are crazy.

Jessimb0587

You are engaged when you have, together with another person, decide that you will get married. If you have done this, which I'm assuming you have, then you are engaged to be married. You don't need a ring on your finger to be engaged.

MLekathLEEN

Yes but, if he has a ring on layaway, I'd say its safe to assume he doesn't consider you engaged until after he proposes. Just because fi and i talked about having kids last night doesn't mean I stop taking my birth control and run to babies r us as soon as they open.

Yankees413

I am not "officially" engaged (as in ring on the finger). But my boyfriend and I have sat done, had  a serious talk and decided we marry each other. We do have a date set and a church in mind (my family church) but no dress has been purchased yet nor venue booked. People who have those prior to any sort of engagement (meaning the agreement on getting married, not the ring itself) are not looking to be married. They want to have a wedding, but they don't want to be married. 

Wedqueen12

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[QUOTE]I am not technicall engaged, but my boyfriend and I have rings on layaway and are making payments because we know it is going to happen. So I am not crazy, but it is fun and smart to plan ahead! Yeah it takes a TINY bit of fun out of the engagement, but not really! I mean I have no clue when he is going to ask or how so it will still be perfect. I think it is better to be prepared than to stress and wait last minutie. :) We even have a date set! I am happy about it.
Posted by ne11iebo0[/QUOTE]

<div>I can totally relate. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and we are not yet engaged but are going to be soon enough. I love him and I tend to plan ahead anyways. That doesn't mean we are crazy... glad to find someone who shares the same kinda situation as me.  </div>