At what age...

elannis

... does a mother stop randomly buying underwear for her son? Is it normal for this to continue into his mid-late twenties? Just wondering what you all think.

lilphillips14

I feel that mothers should stop buying underwear for their children when their children are able to pay for it themselves. And stop picking them out for them when they're around...pre-teen age.

ravenray

I really think this should stop once boys hit puberty.  My BF's mom does this and it is so weird.  It really bothers me and I think him too because he has 30 boxers.  Moms are weird.

lilphillips14

My brother is 28, almost 29, and I feel that if my mom randomly just bought him underwear, he would look at her like she was insane. My mom buys my sister and I underwear (one pair, usually a fun pair) for Christmas, but...that's about it.

elannis

Yeah, that's what I thought. It seems really weird to me too. He always complains about how she constantly buys him clothes. He has literally only ever bought his own clothes twice. She'll still show up and expect him to be excited because she got him yet another shirt. (He has tons of clothes in his closet with tags still attached). And this time she bought him underwear. He had to tell her that he switched underwear types just so she wouldn't keep buying the wrong kind. This also seems weird to me. He's 26. She won't listen to him though and says he doesn't appreciate her if he complains.

I'm just venting because she bothers me in so many ways, lol. It's hard for me to not make faces when she treats him like he's still 7 so often. His problem though.

She's staying for the weekend. Anyone have any ideas for things to do with a 64 year old woman who doesn't like to get dirty, hot or inconvenienced? She really has no hobbies at all so we're never sure what to do with her.

elannis

Haha, thank you for that. That made me feel better, lol. She'd probably never come visit us again...which may not be such a bad thing.

She always throws some kind of fit when she comes to visit. It's just a matter of time. So far so good but she's only been here 4 hours, lol. I'll keep that in mind for later when it happens, lol.

lunarsongbird

Andrew's mom stopped by him underwear quite sometime. However- I think christimas boxers are okay.

kellylove22

BF's mom comes and visits with us for about a month a year from Greece, and she brings him LOTS of clothes. Every year he begs his mom not to bring any, but she always does. I kind of think it's her "love language." We don't encourage her, but we stopped asking her to stop because it's her way of showing her love for her son, so we keep whatever we like/fits us (I wear 2-3 of the sweaters she bought for him) and we donate the rest to charity, that way someone who needs them gets to enjoy them.

That said, she never brings underwear though...I'd find that a little odd (bf is 32).

IrishDreamer

Ummmm.... that's a little odd. BF's mom will buy him jeans (she is kohlsaholic, is always getting coupons and % off stuff - so it's cheaper for her to get them and me pay her back, plus...she always manages to get the right ones...I don't lol.) and occasionally a tie (he is a tie snob, but he loves them, so she'll keep the receipt so he can exchange it if he wants)...but never underwear. 
On the other hand, BF wears adidas shorts as underwear, so it's less gross/creepy.

My family quit doing stuff like that for me ages ago.

elannis

Hmm, wasn't aware kohlsaholic was an actual term, lol. She's definitely got that too. He doesn't ask her to buy it and definitely doesn't need clothes for the next ten years and would actually like to try picking out his own clothes for once. He doesn't even know what style he'd pick because he's never been given the opportunity.

I like the charity idea though. I think he'd be up for that. We are going to have to start keeping some of his clothes at her place if not. We just don't have the room in our apartment. He's got half of our closet in our bedroom and then the closet in the guest bedroom and a dresser full too. You'd think that me being a girl would need more space than him, but I don't even have a dresser yet and I fit everything in my half of the closet.

IrishDreamer

lol, yes kohlsaholic is a word - or at least it should be hahaha

DanieKA

My boyfriend's mom buys him clothes all. the. time. He is 28 years old. He buys his own clothes, of course, but she buys him random pants/shirts/shorts from koh's/Marshalls/Garage Sales (Oh yes). Don't think she does underwear, though. Thank goodness. 

I honestly think underwear (not on Christmas) is a bit weird. But sometimes I just think mom's do that. You're at wal-mart and you buy a three pack of Hanes just because they're there! And you think you're being helpful! And they were 2 for 1!!! My mom will randomly buy me socks. I have no idea why. But I'll take them. I mean, hey...I wear socks. So, yeah. 

But if it's something that's making him uncomfortable, or if he's rivaling a small department store with the amount of boxers she's getting him, he should just tell her, "Hey mom, I so appreciate the boxers, but I'm running out of space in my drawers! Thanks, though! I think I can take care of it from here!" She shouldn't go too crazy on him for that! If she does then it sounds like she has a serious case of attachment issues. It's time to let baby bird fly off, mama! 

If all else fails maybe she can switch to socks like my mom. Slightly less weird, right?? Haha!

peekaboo2011

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[QUOTE]Ummmm.... that's a little odd. BF's mom will buy him jeans (she is kohlsaholic, is always getting coupons and % off stuff - so it's cheaper for her to get them and me pay her back, plus...she always manages to get the right ones...I don't lol.) and occasionally a tie (he is a tie snob, but he loves them, so she'll keep the receipt so he can exchange it if he wants)...but never underwear.  On the other hand, <strong>BF wears adidas shorts as underwear</strong>, so it's less gross/creepy. My family quit doing stuff like that for me ages ago.
Posted by IrishDreamer[/QUOTE]

<div>I totally thought FI was the only man on the planet to be so weird.  I'm glad to find out that if he is a mutant, at least there are others of his kind :)</div>

SeaTea02

FIs mom still does this from time to time. It is weird and makes me uncomfortable too. 

If she continues this after marriage he will say something to her about it. 

Beads921

My Mom buys BF underwear all the time...he really likes it (and so do I - he never buys it for himself, so it's nice when he has new). His Mom still buys it for him occasionally as well. But they know what he likes. 

I wouldn't want anyone buying me underwear anymore though. I'm too picky.

Elle1036

It's weird if he relies on his mother to buy his underwear (or any other clothing) for him.  I don't think it's weird if she just buys it for him without prompting, though.  I don't think mothers ever lose the desire to care for their children, and that's one of the key ways mothers show sons their love.

kaitlynmichelle

Daniel's mom buys him boxers for Christmas usually, along with other clothes.  I guess its weird but I never really thought about it.  He always bought his own throughout the year though.

Once his mom and I gave him boxers from me on his birthday as a joke. He was really confused until he unfolded them to find the concert tickets inside.

elannis

I think it's alright if he needs it and asks for it, but he definitely doesn't need it. He has to keep some in his closet because they won't all fit in his drawer anymore. He also has this problem with socks, shirts, and pants. And shoes too I guess. He has as many or more shoes as I do. It's not like she does it every now and then either. It happens that she'll get him a shirt or 3 and/or pants and socks or underwear like every other time she sees him, which is about once or twice a month.

BTW, you don't save money at Kohls with their coupons if you would normally spend $0 by not shopping at all, lol. I think they're good if you need something but she has a serious shopping problem and he has shown her his closet and was upset because he has no room for everything, but she just laughed and keeps doing it.