My boyfriend and i have been together for two years. We have started talking about getting engaged. While he is a really wonderful guy, and i know that no one else would ever love and care for me the way he does, part of me gets very scared at the thought of forever.
Some (very relevant) background info. I lost my mother suddenly when I was a teenager. my granddad whom i was also very close to died the morning of her funeral. After losing these two people in my life, I hadn't been able to keep any relationships. If I didn't invent some bs reason to end things, I'd just sabotage myself. the thought of getting close to someone after losing my mother and granddad horrified me. The fact that i have been able to keep a relationship this long is a miracle. don't get me wrong, my relationship isn't perfect, we have our ups and downs but we work through them. But for the life of me, I can't understand why I'm so afraid of spending my life with someone who loves me and who I feel I love back.
it's weird because when i bring up the future, he keeps saying "nothing is guaranteed yet'' or my favorite, 'i cant' predict the future", yet when he brings up the future, he has the money for my ring together, can't wait for it to happen etc., etc., so frustrating. so on top of dealing with my own issue, now I constantly disect what his deal is.
I'm sorry if i sound like a crazy person. i just really needed to get this out. If anyone has any advice, i'd really appreciate it!
-E