FRIDAY!

buddysmom80

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FRIDAY! : p.s. Can you be a bridesmaid in my next wedding?
Posted by jenjenniferf[/QUOTE]

I surely will!  I fee like my friend needs some guidance because she's a very "I don't care, just make it pink" type of bride.  She also is going through a lot of stuff personally and I like to organize, and I like Excel spreadsheets (which go hand in hand) so I'm just trying to help her out as much as possible.  She asks me to do something, I just do it lol.

She's throwing me for a loop with the BM dresses though.  I'm like "pick mine out!!!!"  I'm horrible at making those decisions.  I think I might go long.  I don't know! 

steign

Rdr - I hope you have a blast at your bach party! Sounds like all you NEY ladies will have a blast.

My weekend consists of a hockey game tonight with BF and 2 of our friends. Saturday I don't know what we are doing. We are hosting a baby sprinkle for one of our friends on the 9th next month and we want to go get our gift for the couple but, we are going in on it with some other people and who knows if they will cancel the last second. I'm also watching my sisters dog this weekend so Sunday I'll probably clean the house and take her on a walk.

Now I want tortellini...

ETA: spelling/clarity

minskat30

Have so much fun, ladies and RDR!

Today= dress fitting.  Dear God, please, please, please let it fit. No plans tonight.

Tomorrow is a surprise birthday party for a friend but no other plans really.

Have a wonderful weekend, ladies.

Swazzle

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[QUOTE]TORTELLINI.  omg.  yum. rdr:  he sneaks into the closet if I leave it cracked open and takes things to his "lair".  *sigh*  he is a sneaky little guy.  I put in a call to the vet, they are pulling his chart and will call me back.  just want to make sure he really is being a punk and not sick. 
Posted by CocoBellaF[/QUOTE]

<div>Keep us posted! </div>

tuarceatha

In Response to Re:FRIDAY!:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FRIDAY!:In Response to Re: FRIDAY! : p.s. Can you be a bridesmaid in my next wedding?Posted by jenjenniferfI surely will!nbsp; I fee like my friend needs some guidance because she's a very "I don't care, just make it pink" type of bride.nbsp; She also is going through a lot of stuff personally and I like to organize, and I like Excelnbsp;spreadsheets which go hand in hand so I'm just trying to help her out as much as possible.nbsp; She asks me to do something, I just do it lol.She's throwing me for a loop with the BM dresses though.nbsp; I'm like "pick mine out!!!!"nbsp; I'm horrible at making those decisions.nbsp; I think I might go long.nbsp; I don't know!nbsp; Posted by buddysmom80[/QUOTE]

Great, I'll keep you posted.

I did the same thing to my bridesmaids and I could tell some struggled with the decision while others loved me for it.

I say go long! So classy looking.

steign

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[QUOTE]This weekend: Tonight I'm going to the gym because I didn't go this morning, and I'm working Saturday morning,at the grocery store, 6:30-noon. Yay! (not)  Then on Sat night, BF and I were SUPPOSED to go to this AWESOME restaurant that he had $100 gc for, but it turns out it's one of his friend's birthdays, so we're going out with them instead. I think we're going to grab dinner on our own first becaue I've been hounding him for a date night, like a lets get nice looking and eat in a restaurant-type date night. AND I want to make sure we get our own tab and can leave whenever.<strong> Does anyone have "those friends" who are inappropriate at restaurants and then not give enough for the bill? These are those people. -_-</strong>
Posted by sydaries[/QUOTE]

Yes, one of BF's friends is like this. He only gives EXACTLY his portion for the check. Like if his meal was $12 and his drink was $1.50 he gives $13.50-14. Which doesn't include tip or tax so it's really annoying. Luckily most places will ask about splitting it before they bring the bill out so we always just ask them to split it separately.

Swazzle

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FRIDAY! : Going to our favorite restaurant (where we had our first date, know everyone there, etc) to have delicious tortellini, then probably out to a bar with a pretty cool local band that plays classic rock, then home for some sexy time and sleep. Hahah. And a year and a half sounds like forever! I'd be sick of planning too, haha.
Posted by kmbryant2413[/QUOTE]

<div>That's sounds awesome! Have a great time!</div><div>
</div><div>
</div><div>I want tortellini now. </div>

Swazzle

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[QUOTE]buddy- I'm awful at cleaning BF makes fun of me for it.  I don't really clean we have a cleaning person. By cleaning I mean putting stuff away doing laundry organzing stuff. rdr- Every year we around the same time we go down to the bahamas for the timeshare.  We will be on Paradise Island.  A few resorts down from Atlantis.  Usually the boat comes down to meet us and docks at Atlantis so we get to do all of the stuff in Atlantis for free.  They have an awesome water park and lazy river.
Posted by danser55[/QUOTE]

<div>FUN! I haven't been to the Bahamas since senior year of high school. So beautiful there!</div>

Hummingbird125

I need to get in on one of these NYC-based gtgs. Just need to figure out how to explain to BF that I spend my days on a message board without giving him enough info to find it and read everything I've ever written about him....so, we'll see.

I am SO happy it's Friday. It's the start of a new month, which means I get to chill out a little bit today and recover from the "hangover" of end-of-month sales. Monday I'll be ready to go again.

I was in such a crappy mood yesterday, and BF suggested we skip the gym and instead go to trivia night at the pub up the street. It was the perfect plan. I wasn't having fun at first, but after a few drinks I was a happy girl once again. AND the bill came to $26 - one of the perks of having moved out of Manhattan :-) 

Tonight we're going to Fat Cat in Greenwich Village to play ping pong and drink beer - I have to pay since I lost our Oscar predicitions bet. Tomorrow we'll take Kaya to the dog park in the morning, and then I might go shopping for a few hours while BF gets some work done. 

Sunday we're meeting up with friends to use a brunch groupon we all bought a few weeks ago. $29 for 2 meals and unlimited mimosas or bloody marys!!! I cannot wait to get day-drunk on mimosas, it's been a while.

Question for the group - what are your feelings on pre-nups? I don't know quite how it came up, but BF asked me this morning if I would make him sign one, and I told him I had never really thought about it before.

Swazzle

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[QUOTE]This weekend: Tonight I'm going to the gym because I didn't go this morning, and I'm working Saturday morning,at the grocery store, 6:30-noon. Yay! (not)  Then on Sat night, BF and I were SUPPOSED to go to this AWESOME restaurant that he had $100 gc for, but it turns out it's one of his friend's birthdays, so we're going out with them instead. I think we're going to grab dinner on our own first becaue I've been hounding him for a date night, like a lets get nice looking and eat in a restaurant-type date night. AND I want to make sure we get our own tab and can leave whenever. <strong>Does anyone have "those friends" who are inappropriate at restaurants and then not give enough for the bill? These are those people. -_-</strong>
Posted by sydaries[/QUOTE]

<div>Whenever we go out with a group of people we end up just splitting the check evenly amongst everyone. I get super frustrated when we get the check and everyone has to look at it one by one and calculate to the penny how much theirs cost. It's embarrassing to me. I'd rather just split it evenly and throw up my credit card and call it a day even if it means I'm paying $5 more than I "should" have. </div>

buddysmom80

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:FRIDAY!: Great, I'll keep you posted. I did the same thing to my bridesmaids and I could tell some struggled with the decision while others loved me for it. I say go long! So classy looking.
Posted by jenjenniferf[/QUOTE]

I think I'm going to go long too, but a lot of the DB BM's dresses that are long are very bride-ish looking.  So I don't want to get something bigger than her.  My friend who's also a BM is going to get the same "shape" her wedding dress was since she knows it looks good on her, but I don't think it's going to look good on me (the fit and flare type of dress, mermaid style?  IDK what it's called)

Swazzle

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[QUOTE]Question for the group - what are your feelings on pre-nups? I don't know quite how it came up, but BF asked me this morning if I would make him sign one, and I told him I had never really thought about it before.
Posted by Hummingbird125[/QUOTE]

<div>I don't have a problem with them. FI and I have no need for one but if either of us did, it wouldn't bother me. Anything of value that we own, we bought together.</div>

Peaseblossom55

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FRIDAY! : FUN! I haven't been to the Bahamas since senior year of high school. So beautiful there!
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]
It's always so much fun and so incredibly relaxing, between being so busy with the show and the stress of this whole home buying process we need it.  At first we weren't going to go because of buying the house, but we decided the need the time away. 

minskat30

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[QUOTE]  Question for the group - what are your feelings on pre-nups? I don't know quite how it came up, but BF asked me this morning if I would make him sign one, and I told him I had never really thought about it before.
Posted by Hummingbird125[/QUOTE]

FI and I are not having one even though we both have assets/houses that we've accumulated separately.  We discussed it and, as silly as it sounds, we feel like it will be bad karma.  More importantly, we have no idea where we would be in X years should a divorce ever, God forbid, happen (will someone have given up their job to raise kids, will we have a different lifestyle, etc.).  We both feel like we are fair, honest and responsible people with one another and neither one of us has the type of "screw you" personality.  We did discuss it, however, several times so I think it is important to discuss and be on the same page.

s-aries8990

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FRIDAY! : Yes, one of BF's friends is like this. He only gives EXACTLY his portion for the check. Like if his meal was $12 and his drink was $1.50 he gives $13.50-14. Which doesn't include tip or tax so it's really annoying. Luckily most places will ask about splitting it before they bring the bill out so we always just ask them to split it separately.
Posted by steign[/QUOTE]

Well they're the type to get drunk and forget to leave any money at all.... We want to show up after everyone and get our own tab so there is NO mistaking it. I'm normally ok with chipping in, but these are people who have embarassed me out of restaurants - like I was so embarassed by their behavior I left. They're each fine on their own, but put everyone in one room and I want to cry.

kmbryant2413

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[QUOTE]Question for the group - what are your feelings on pre-nups? I don't know quite how it came up, but BF asked me this morning if I would make him sign one, and I told him I had never really thought about it before.
Posted by Hummingbird125[/QUOTE]

<div>I wish I had signed one before my marriage, because it ended pretty terribly and I lost some things of mine and acquired some debt because I couldn't afford a lawyer and he could.</div><div>
</div><div>A couple that are family friends of mine are getting divorced. The husband owns a jewelry store (been a family business for like ~50 years) and the wife decided she was just going to leave him because she wasn't happy and slapped him with papers Friday. Well, she thought she was getting lucky in the divorce because she jumped first. Turned out she FORGOT she signed a prenup and now has left thinking she was getting half of her husbands worth. She is not. So in that case, it worked in the benefit of the person being left.</div><div>
</div><div>All this said, for some reason, I still feel like I would be admitting that I didn't 'trust' my partner and felt like if something happened and we split, they'd try to screw me. I'm very... mixed on the subject.</div>

beanbot2002

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FRIDAY! : Whenever we go out with a group of people we end up just splitting the check evenly amongst everyone. I get super frustrated when we get the check and everyone has to look at it one by one and calculate to the penny how much theirs cost. It's embarrassing to me. I'd rather just split it evenly and throw up my credit card and call it a day even if it means I'm paying $5 more than I "should" have. 
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]

All of this.

tuarceatha

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:FRIDAY! : I think I'm going to go long too, but a lot of the DB BM's dresses that are long are very bride-ish looking.  So I don't want to get something bigger than her.  My friend who's also a BM is going to get the same "shape" her wedding dress was since she knows it looks good on her, but I don't think it's going to look good on me (the fit and flare type of dress, mermaid style?  IDK what it's called)
Posted by buddysmom80[/QUOTE]


You probably won't <em>really</em> know what will look good on you until you try on 47 dresses. I ended up with a trumpet style, originally I loved mermaid before I tried any on, and once I did I loved Allusive and Aud's style dress. But Liv said it looked bad on me so I looked for one with a lower waist, and went with a completely differ cut in the end!

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s-aries8990

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[QUOTE] Question for the group - what are your feelings on pre-nups? I don't know quite how it came up, but BF asked me this morning if I would make him sign one, and I told him I had never really thought about it before.
Posted by Hummingbird125[/QUOTE]

I think that if there are major family assets (like large amounts of property or business) that they are..... acceptable. I mean, if Hubbs becomes a partner in dad's private law firm or inherits the 2 acre beachside manor, it's fine that provisions be made that certain assets are not brought into the marriage, but I'm kind of wary on them.

Swazzle

I probably read this analogy somewhere on TK but to me it's like when you get car insurance or homeowner's insurance or insurance for your jewelry. Obviously, you're not planning for something bad to happen but you get it just in case it does. 

s-aries8990

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FRIDAY! : Whenever we go out with a group of people we end up just splitting the check evenly amongst everyone. I get super frustrated when we get the check and everyone has to look at it one by one and calculate to the penny how much theirs cost. It's embarrassing to me. I'd rather just split it evenly and throw up my credit card and call it a day even if it means I'm paying $5 more than I "should" have. 
Posted by rdr716[/QUOTE]


See, if they all did that, it would be fine. I'm fine with rounding up a little bit, see $5 isn't a whole lot, but when you start chipping in an extrs $10, $15, $20 because they think that the tip would be too big, or they forgot they don't have any money, or they just LEAVE and not chip in, it gets super frustrating.

bethsmiles

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[QUOTE]Question for the group - what are your feelings on pre-nups? I don't know quite how it came up, but BF asked me this morning if I would make him sign one, and I told him I had never really thought about it before.
Posted by Hummingbird125[/QUOTE]

I don't think BF and I wiould have any reason to get a pre-nup. We are so young neither of us have much we would be bringing into a marriage.

I can understand getting one though if either side did have something they would need to protect in case of a divorce. Of course you aren't counting on divorce but you can never 100% know it won't happen. Better to get the pre-nup and hopefully never have to think about it again than not and be screwed if something does happen.

steign

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[QUOTE]Question for the group - what are your feelings on pre-nups? I don't know quite how it came up, but BF asked me this morning if I would make him sign one, and I told him I had never really thought about it before.
Posted by Hummingbird125[/QUOTE]

I think they're perfectly fine for couple's who need them, or if they decide they want one just to be safe then that's their own decision. I don't own any assets or have a family inheritence coming my way so if we got one it would be to protect BF's business. It's not a family business or one that makes tons and tons of money a year but, I would be willing to sign one if he thought it was in the best interest of his business.

peekaboo2011

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[QUOTE]My weekend plans have already been covered by RDR and Peek. SQUEEEEEEEEEE! I can't wait to see your faces and smoosh my boobies against yours in a bear hug. I'm leaving work a little early to get a mani/pedi and then heading home to order dinner for me and Peek and pack my bags. Then it's: booze booze booze, sleep, shower, booze booze, lunch, booze, shower, booze, dinner, booze booze, club, booze booze booze, hopefully not peeing on myself, hangover, brunch, home.
Posted by beanbot2002[/QUOTE]

<div>Am I the ONLY one who is refusing to pay someone to do my nails this weekend?  Jeebus.</div>

s-aries8990

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FRIDAY! : Am I the ONLY one who is refusing to pay someone to do my nails this weekend?  Jeebus.
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

Nope. The last time I got my nails did was over a year ago, and the time before that would be about 3-4 years ago now?

I'm only refusing because I can't justify it right now.

buddysmom80

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[QUOTE]. Question for the group - what are your feelings on pre-nups? I don't know quite how it came up, but BF asked me this morning if I would make him sign one, and I told him I had never really thought about it before.
Posted by Hummingbird125[/QUOTE]

BF and I have talked about it.  Since we've been together two sets of friends have filed for divorce, so we always play the "what if" game.

Connecticut is a 50/50 state.  Therefore you take half of your spouses assets and debts when you divorce.  BF has a ton of student loans and wouldn't want me burdened down with half that debt.  For me, my parents are older and I'm an only child.  When they do go, that's additional assets that I would have to split with him.  I also invested in my 401k about six years ago and have a good chunk of money in there that I'm not giving up!  LOL.

Long story short, yes we are getting a prenup when that day comes.  It sounds horrible but all we want is to find a work around with the state law.  It'll probably be whatever you come in with, you leave with type of thing.

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FRIDAY! : Am I the ONLY one who is refusing to pay someone to do my nails this weekend?  Jeebus.
Posted by peekaboo2011[/QUOTE]

I never get my nails done anymore unless I'm someone else is paying for it. I've found that when I do my own nails, it lasts just as long as if I get them done by someone else. I will go and get them done for very special occassions like weddings or something of that nature.

steign

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FRIDAY! : BF and I have talked about it.  Since we've been together two sets of friends have filed for divorce, so we always play the "what if" game. Connecticut is a 50/50 state.  Therefore you take half of your spouses assets and debts when you divorce.  BF has a ton of student loans and wouldn't want me burdened down with half that debt.  For me, my parents are older and I'm an only child.  When they do go, that's additional assets that I would have to split with him.  I also invested in my 401k about six years ago and have a good chunk of money in there that I'm not giving up!  LOL. Long story short, yes we are getting a prenup when that day comes.  It sounds horrible but all we want is to find a work around with the state law.  It'll probably be whatever you come in with, you leave with type of thing.
Posted by buddysmom80[/QUOTE]

I am not  100 hundred sure on this but, I believe in many states debt occurred prior to marriage doesn't get linked to the partner/spouse. I need to find this out though because I am sitting on about 20k in loans right now.

buddysmom80

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FRIDAY! : I am not  100 hundred sure on this but, I believe in many states debt occurred prior to marriage doesn't get linked to the partner/spouse. I need to find this out though because I am sitting on about 20k in loans right now.
Posted by steign[/QUOTE]

I'm trying to think.  My friend and her soon to be ex H have about the same amount of debt together and they just agreed to keep their debts to themselves.  There may be a time limit on it though.

Also your state may be different.  Connecticut is horrible and mean.  LOL.

Peaseblossom55

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[QUOTE] Question for the group - what are your feelings on pre-nups? I don't know quite how it came up, but BF asked me this morning if I would make him sign one, and I told him I had never really thought about it before.
Posted by Hummingbird125[/QUOTE]
BF & I haven't really discussed getting one and probably won't.  I imagine if we were to split up we would both be mature enough to work out a fair and even split.  There isn't a huge disparity between the two of us on income or accumulated wealth.