My version of a GBCK

ljewel422

So not only am I not engaged yet, I am single. I just found out that my BF has been cheating on me. I am in complete shock. It's making me sick to my stomach just to type this. I have not stopped crying. I was out doing errands and the girl called me. I drove to Andrew's work, who broke down and confessed everything. He "loves" me. He "doesn't know what he was thinking." That girl was "nothing"; he wants me to be "his wife."

I cannot believe this is happening. We just went to look at engagement rings, and now this shiit happens. I feel like I'm going to throw up.

I'm supposed to go to VT tomorrow and stay the weekend for Father's Day, and I don't even know what I am going to do. I am not up to driving there, but I can't stay here. I need to find a new apartment. I need to just stay in bed and not get out of it for a while.

I cannot be on this website right now. Maybe I'll come back eventually. But you girls rock, and it was nice talking to you for the short time. Good luck.

sapphirebaby926

I"m very sorry to hear this - I know how hard and heartbreaking finding out you've been cheated on is. Do you have a girlfriend or someone you can stay with until you can find an apartment?

I hope this weekend with your family will help - it always helped me being around people that I knew cared about me during difficult times. Good luck.

jeanacorina

*hugs*

I don't know you very well, but you're a super-cool girl as far as I can tell. I'm sure it doesn't feel like it now, but you'll get through this. You'll be a stronger person because of it.

I am so sorry. My stomach felt like it flopped down to my feet when I read this. Best of luck and if you need someone to talk to or vent to, or anything at all, you know where to find us.

desertsun

Oh, honey, I am so, so sorry. I can't imagine how hard this must be. Please know that you have made friends here who will be thinking about you and wishing you all the best. Hope to see you back sometime in the future. *big hugs*

hetshup

Jewel, I am so incredibly sorry. I know you are strong, you will get through this. I know you wish you could just fast forward 6 months. Please let us know if there is anything that we can help with, even if it's just a laugh. 

Good luck, you will do amazing, I promise.

ljewel422

Thank you guys so so much. It means a lot to me. I'm starting to get my breath back but it's hard. I'm staying with my old roommate right now, but I decided to go home. I need the "detox," I guess. I was just completely blindsided.

Kroliczku

Oh wow... *huge hug*. Im so so sorry. Stay strong. I've only been here for a *very* short time, but you seem great, and you definitely have a darn good head on your shoulders.   I definitely say stay with a friend for a day, maybe hit up the ice cream therapy, and crying is a good thing....don't bottle it all up.

  

Hazel_B

I am so sorry, I always feel nauseous myself when I hear of these things happening to people. I can't imagine how hard it is for you, but be strong and just take one day at a time.

Best wishes, and be sure to take care of yourself!

katanne9

I'm so sorry Jewel. I hope you can spend some time with friends and family who can help you get through this time.

*HUGS

loopy82

I'm sorry to hear that. It will get better over time. I hope this weekend with your family goes well. I have to say that as hard as it is, it is good to hear that you were able to stay strong and not cave into him telling you that he wants you and that other girl was nothing.

Good Luck!!

Narwhal

How dreadful!

We are going to miss you. Hope you do well and come back soon. And if you ever need anyone to talk to, we're pretty good with that.

KD+BC

I'm so sorry. What an awful thing to be going through. Enjoy your weekend home and good luck.

bethsmiles

I'm so sorry to hear that! Thats really just awful! *huge hugs*. Maybe being home will be good for you right now. At least you will have support there for you! I really hope things get better for you hun.

Acrosthec

I'm so sorry to hear that; I know it just outright sucks.  I'm proud (? I don't know you...so I don't want to seem weird, but that's how I feel) that you were able to walk away when he said all that about wanting to keep you around, etc.  Many girls would not have been strong enough to do that; I know I haven't been strong enough in the past.

Keep your chin up.  You're obviously a quality girl, and eventually you will find someone that recognizes that the way we all do.  Have fun with your friends and family and if you need to cry, go ahead.  Don't bottle it up!

Also, while I understand it can be painful to hang out on this site when you're not looking to get married or engaged anytime soon, we have had other girls that were in similar situations who stuck around just to talk and give advice to others who come along that may be in a situation similar to what you're going through now.  If you want to hang out on NEY, by all means feel free.  We do not shun the single, just like we do not shun the engaged or married.  While the board is NEY, all relationship statuses are welcome here. 

PaigeMcC

Oh hunny! *Hugs* I'm so sorry.  I hope the time with your family will give you strength.  Good luck, hun

tafft1

Oh hon my heart just aches for you , I just want to reach through and hug you so tightly! This is so sad and horrible , I know how it feels though , my last ex cheated on me , the only one who ever did and I know the pain is so immense , and the trust and everything just shatters. Take heart in knowing that as hard as it is to know , at least you knew it before it did go any further. It of course does not lessen the pain any or make it right in any way shape or form but do try to take one day at a time. You have friends here who will not abandon you. Best wishes *hugs*

nefariousmango

Wow, what a load of $hit.  I'm so sorry your boy turned out to be an a$$, but I'm proud of you for standing up for your self-worth and not getting caught up in how sorry he is.  You rock!  You're strong, I know you'll make it, but knowing you did the right thing doesn't really make the shock and pain any easier to deal with Best of luck with everything!!!

1337love

Jewel -- you definitely don't deserve to be treated that way.  Also, thanks for not asking us if you should stay.  I think cheating is a really shoddy thing to do and in my experience, will continue in many cases because of the addiction and thrill.

You are always welcome here, and welcome to PM me for email if you want to chat.

oceana919

Do you need me to punch him in the anus for you?

I'm sorry all this is happening...you're in my thoughts, hon.

catemeg

Wow, that seriously SUCKS!  What a jerk!

Applause for you, being able to walk away.  But don't let him make you feel bad or leave your place - throw his stuff on the curb and start looking for a new place for a fresh start for yourself. Let us know if there's anything we can do to help you.  Most of us have been in a similar situtation at some point, and you learn and grow from it.  Don't let this experience drag you down - use your frustration and anger and go to the gym!  After I got my heart broken, every time I started crying I'd go work out.  By the end of the summer, I was in the best shape of my life!  It was a much better way to heal than to bury myself in tubs of ice cream.  When I was ready to start dating again, it's nice to be in the best shape of your life.  Plus the endorphins help with the swirl of emotions from a terrible situation like this.

Keep your head up, and take care of yourself!