I came on here looking for help from fellow brides and just received verbal abuse and put downs.

JBSMADA10

Buggle they agreed to get married in December. I would consider that engaged. Edit; I was being mean.

peekaboo2011

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[QUOTE]Buggle they agreed to get married in December. I would consider that engaged. Edit; I was being mean.
Posted by JBSMADA10[/QUOTE]

<div>Ah, but this is one of those lovely circles we go around in.</div><div>
</div><div>They agreed to get married in December.</div><div>She is still calling him her BF.</div><div>
</div><div>While normal protocol would cause them to be engaged after said agreement, if they don't consider themselves engaged, they aren't engaged.  You are either engaged or not.  You can't be engaged to be engaged, or almost engaged, or any of the other ridiculous labels that Wedding Bee puts on it.  You are or you aren't.  Just like you're married or you're not.  You're in a relationship, or you're not.  Okay, that last one DOES have some grey area, but we get the point, right?</div>

JBSMADA10

I get it, I just don't see why others don't. It is a pretty easy concept. Except the relationship one. There are definetly gray areas.

birddeisgner

I still call H my BF.

peekaboo2011

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[QUOTE]I still call H my BF.
Posted by birddeisgner[/QUOTE]

<div>Your marriage is now invalidated.</div>

ponyprose

Haha!  Love the last one - "Your marriage is now invalidated."  

[q] The fact that you want to have the same wedding that you've been planning "since childhood" with a different groom when you already planned it once with your ex...that raises all kinds of red flags. Clearly you care WAY more about the wedding than you do about the marriage. Your poor BF, he's just a prop. And in forum language, BF means BOYFRIEND. Which is what you have. Not a fiance. And while we're at it, you're a girlfriend. Not a Bride.

You were not verbally abused or put down. Nobody here is hateful. You were given completely objective opinions about the circus you are trying to plan, and you were told it was a bad idea.

Sorry you didn't hear what you wanted to hear, but would you rather look like an asshole to a bunch of strangers on the internet or to your friends and family when you put on a pretend wedding? [/q}

buggle, you read my mind about the red flags here.  I feel sorry for this poor guy!   

MrsHoward2Be

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